thanks everyone. I LOVE my car, btw. took her for a spin yesterday and what a zippy little number; my '99 CR-V pales in comparison in every aspect. And yes, the trunk is MASSIVE! I can fit about 5 bodies And the numbers on the dashboard still say 700km til the next fill up, I started out at 750km - I've put in about 250km yesterday.
As for my mother, it's HER who needs therapy not me. Everyone but her seems to know that. She has plenty of issues she can address, but she's from a generation where therapy is for certifiable crazies (though some days that's debatable with her). I can go on til the cows come home. Outwardly she has/had a charmed life yet listening to her you'd think she was the Asian Annie. She never worked a day iin her life, bought whatever she wanted and my father adored her even though she was a b**ch to him most of the time.
Best case scenario for all involved is for her to move back to Japan. She's happy there, my brother and I are happy with her gone, so it's a win-win. It's the time before that is to happen that's a challenge. At least I have a brother in the same boat who understands.