it also occurs to me not matter how well I am dressed, if I am out running errands withmy deaf and blind 91 year old resident FIL. He doesn't exist, or if he does they talk to him like he's mentally retarded, and me, I'm just the care attendant who probably doesn't even have a GED. I become invisible. It irritates me, and drives dad crazy and he won't put up with it, so we leave.
When we really don't have any other options, I become very quiet and very firm.
Sarcasm does no good because it mostly goes over their heads or vocabulary skills, so I work hard on staying neutral, extremely polite and limiting my sentances to 3 or 4 words "like he needs a bathroom scale. It must weigh in increments of 1 pound." It needs to cost under $30 dollars. Do you have that?
If they say no I ask are you sure? Have you looked? May I speak to your manager.
If they have looked and sincerely tried, I thank them politely, ask them for one other place that might have the item we are looking for, and then walk away.
Can't remember who said it but someone once said " the only person who can take away your self respect is you yourself.
marni
marni
Katy, Texas
Trek Madone 6.5- "Red"
Trek Pilot 5.2- " Bebe"
"easily outrun by a chihuahua."