(I've only been riding for a little over a week.)
I started on my husband's saddle that was super hard and super narrow. It hurt the lady bidness in ways I never though possible so I ordered the Terry Butterfly and rode 22 miles on it yesterday. My two cents:
1. I'm a big ole tub 'o lard and (two hundred mumbly pounds) and it seems a little wide for me. It seemed to be too wide for the area between my legs where my thighs would never let the light of day shine through. This was a little odd and offputtin'. I mean really, I don't need my thigh fat to get stuck on my seat. It's bad enough that I'm this rotund, but cycling kind of makes me forget that I am gigantor and I don't need a saddle to remind me by trying to make sweet, sweet love with my thigh jiggle. Bad saddle! Bad!
2. The rest is really great. It's softish, much softer than riding on the razor thin strip of torture that I was riding before and never got uncomfortable on my sit bones. My lady bidness had plenty of relief and I only had what I would imagine was normal, minimal discomfort when I got off after being on the bike for almost two hours straight.
I'm giving it another week to see if the thigh dilemma works itself out. For now, I think I love it. It was $75 from Performance.
I hope you find the right saddle!