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**chicago** · 03-28-2009, 06:14 AM

Originally Posted by tulip

I'm just not a fan of the gaited style of riding, especially the tail breaking and the abnormal hoof lengths and weights. Is that still allowed these days?

PS: nice-looking horses, Chicago!

I don't know Tulip, I will have to find out. I'm still learning about riding and all the styles, etc, etc. Right now I just know English and Western. I will ask my trainer this weekend about the tail breaking and abnormal hoof lengths.

Yeah.. it was so "odd!!" to get on an English saddle last night... felt like i had nothing under me, LOL. They are so thin compared to the western's, right? I do like the Saddlebred's gait over the quarter horses though, that I must admit... not sure why, but it feels smoother and I just love their canter. ... but it's different for everyone right? One of my friends who trains absolutely LOVES the big quarter horses... she has no desire to ever got on my Saddlebred, LOL!!

Yep they are wonderful creatures, that is for sure!!

**Crankin** · 03-30-2009, 08:49 AM

I wasn't sure where to post this... it's sort of cycling related, but, I want opinions that seem more appropriate for this thread.
I have a wedding shower to go to Sunday at 1 PM. It is for the daughter of a very close friend. She is 23 and mentally ill. I don't want to go into a lot of detail, but there's definite manipulation on the kid's part, to make the issues worse. The fiance is someone she met on the Internet, though local, and he is physically handicapped. He is a nice person, but neither of them should be getting married at this time. The fact that my friend hasn't lost it with this kid is amazing. I have always tried to be supportive of my friend, with this kid, through all of her school trauma, hospitalizations, etc.
Here's the issue, which I feel guilty about even bringing up. Sunday is going to be one of the first 60 degree days of the spring. I want to go on a long ride! I can ride Saturday, though it will be cooler, which is fine, and I can go out for a short ride before the shower. I spent the whole past weekend in a course (Fri. night, Sat., Sunday) and did not get to ride at all. I took a 2 mile run at 5:30 AM on Saturday.
I can't back out of going to this, but just saying I really would rather be riding is liberating. There is always another day to ride, I know, but this is getting to me.

**tulip** · 03-30-2009, 09:52 AM

Crankin, at times like these, sometimes it's best just to grin, be polite, and bear it. Best of luck to your friend and the whole family.

**Zen** · 03-30-2009, 11:45 AM

Originally Posted by tulip

Crankin, at times like these, sometimes it's best just to grin, be polite, and bear it.

Or you could just drink.

**Tuckervill** · 03-30-2009, 11:58 AM

Here's what I would do. Be late. Take a long ride anyway, get to the shower half an hour to 45 minutes late. You can ride longer if you don't mind showing up in your gear (you do mind, I know). Make up some excuse when you arrive. Be guilt free.

Karen

**Biciclista** · 03-30-2009, 12:01 PM

Geez, Crankin,
sounds like a wedding to remember! might be very interesting to be there; what a fiasco. It sounds awful for the mom!
Maybe you could ride to and from the reception?

**Bruno28** · 03-30-2009, 12:18 PM

Originally Posted by Zen

Or you could just drink.

**BleeckerSt_Girl** · 03-30-2009, 01:02 PM

Robyn, sometimes things seem to happen for a reason. It might be that your presence there with your friend that day will be a calming or helpful influence on her in some ways you may not even be aware of. Give it your best, you'll be glad you did in the end I bet.

**Biciclista** · 03-30-2009, 01:09 PM

yeah Lisa's right !
I went to my girlfriend's daughter's wedding the daughter was a real PITA and Brat.
I went as moral support. The daughter actually sat me with the 'hired help'
which was great, they were musicians, we had a wonderful time. I also
helped my friend stay sane through that crazy wedding where she had to pretend she was still married to her ex at her daughter's insistence!

you can be a great presence at that wedding

**Crankin** · 03-30-2009, 02:59 PM

Thanks for all of the advice. The thing Sunday is just the wedding shower. I really can't be half an hour late, but i might be 15 minutes late... I already told another friend I couldn't drive with her because I would be in a rush, because I would be riding before getting ready. I guess it's the thought that my husband and friends will be out riding when I am at the shower. If it had been earlier, they would have waited for me.
Thankfully, the wedding, which is the last Sunday in May, at a very nice country club, will be OK. I will be there with my husband, older son, and his girlfriend. It will be an interesting sociological study. The two families could not be any more different in terms of culture, education, religion. I missed the engagement party, but heard it was quite a show...
I don't know if there will be liquor at the shower, but drinking sounds like a good idea, Zen. Seriously, I will grin and bear it and support my friend. They all already think I'm freakishly over involved with sports.

**Biciclista** · 03-30-2009, 03:36 PM

Crankin,
today one of my coworkers told me to grow up and act my age

when i suggested he do pushups with me. I just laughed but i was thinking i'll bet he'll be pushing a walker before I do with his attitude towards exercise!

so how wonderful that your friends think you are too much into sports!!!

**Crankin** · 03-30-2009, 04:43 PM

Mimi, don't get me started on this track! I really do love the mother of the bride, but I have known her for 19 years, of which the whole time she has complained about her weight. And depression, and hating to "work" hard if she exercises. This is a very bright person, with a master's degree and an interesting life. Her husband is huge, even after he had angioplasty and a stent put in. He wouldn't listen to my husband, who had the same surgery, but became even more vigilant about cycling and eating right (his is a case of bad genetics, rather than sloth!).
I am glad I haven't "grown up." That's what made me a good teacher and I am thoroughly enjoying being with my younger cohorts in grad school. Sure, i am closest to the other older students, but I am working on a group project with a person who was in my oldest son's high school class and I am fine with that.

**emily_in_nc** · 03-30-2009, 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by Crankin

I am glad I haven't "grown up." That's what made me a good teacher and I am thoroughly enjoying being with my younger cohorts in grad school. Sure, i am closest to the other older students, but I am working on a group project with a person who was in my oldest son's high school class and I am fine with that.

Hear-hear! I work with a couple of guys who are just a bit over half my age; it kind of freaks me out to realize that they could be my sons. I really enjoy their youth and energy, and they seem to think I'm ok to hang out with too. I can joke with them and share at least some of their language (possibly because we're all computer geeks), so even though I am very much aware that I'm a lot older than them, I don't feel like a total old lady around them, if that makes any sense. Sometimes I find myself wondering what their own mothers are like -- am I cooler, hipper, younger in spirit than their moms? I'd like to think so.

Being "young" for one's age rocks!

And fitness is such a huge part of that for me.

**Zen** · 03-30-2009, 07:17 PM

Originally Posted by Biciclista

today one of my coworkers told me to grow up and act my age

People like that irk me. I wonder if he was ever any fun

**Biciclista** · 03-30-2009, 07:32 PM

Originally Posted by Zen

People like that irk me. I wonder if he was ever any fun

he sure thinks he is.

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