Younger woman bossing me around

[Pax]

... p.s. I wish I knew how to speak in a clear neutral tone about things that bother me. No matter how much I try to calm down, wait for my blood pressure to return to normal, I always end up sounding either whiny or still ticked-off.

I get very very articulate and exacting when I'm wound up, I enunciate like a stage actor and it seems to intimidate the crap out of people. I tend to follow up with a very concise "are we clear" or "is there any question about what I just said"? at the end of each point. I've found, over the years, that people don't enjoy ticked off me very much, so they tend to work at avoiding creating the scenario.

Reading that I realized it makes me sound like a mean person, but I'm actually super friendly and get along with almost everyone. Maybe it's because it's rare to tick me off that it carries more weight when it happens. Hmmm

[Crankin]

It's a skill I teach to parents of kids with trauma. Also useful as a teacher. You cannot let emotion into your tone of voice.
Practice and practice, do it, and scream in private.

[OakLeaf]

Pax, I'm pretty sure I'd be TERRIFIED of you if you were PO'd.

[Pax]

Pax, I'm pretty sure I'd be TERRIFIED of you if you were PO'd.

I'm fierce, I tell ya!