results from needle biopsy :(

[OakLeaf]

(((((((((marni)))))))))

Telling your sisters totally depends on your relationship and whether you think you can trust them to be there for YOU and not bring their own baggage to the party.

I hope that you have the kind of relationship with your sisters that will let you tell them, but please don't let ***US*** bring ***OUR*** own baggage to this party also, and encourage you to do things that aren't in your best interests.

People who love you will tend to (1) worry, (2) judge your decisions and (3) think about how your decisions and your condition could affect THEM, and you don't need ANY of those things right now. (e.g. what you said about your DH and the choice you have to make about a mastectomy) So I totally support your decision to tell only the people with whom you feel completely safe, never mind what social pressures exist because of your biological or other relationship to them. You don't need those social pressures right now, either - not from them and not from us.

+1 on making arrangements as soon as you feel confident enough to do it. But it's better to wait until you can make a decision from a position of strength later, than to make a hasty decision from a position of fear.

Spinning my wheels for you.



ETA: While it's true that it may be helpful for your sisters' doctors to know your medical history, there is NO URGENCY to that need. (If you choose to go an aggressive route, your doctor will be able to tell you whether your cells are even the kind that tend to run in families. Odds are that they aren't.) Tell your sisters when and if you feel safe, and not before. This is NOT the time you need to be taking care of other people. This is the time you need to be taking care of yourself. PLEASE don't let anyone else burden you with their own baggage surrounding breast health issues, and ESPECIALLY not TE'rs whom you hardly know (me included). You have enough voices screaming in your own head already, I'll wager. You don't need them screaming from the outside, too.

Take good care. Of yourself.