Quote Originally Posted by SadieKate
Through the wonderful world of the internet it is difficult to understand sometimes, but the tone of your words is that you are expecting everyone to take what you say and agree without question. I'm not sure, but it doesn't sound like anyone on the Forum personally knows betagirl and her BF. All we can really do is commiserate and offer suggestions since we don't have firsthand knowledge. Frequently, the person must develop his or her own solutions using a conglomeration of many persons' ideas. Sometimes friends just need to listen.
No of course, I am only expressing my own views. And you are right - Betagirl should weigh all issues and make her own decisions. I only know what she said in her initial post and don't know the whole story. If anything I have said hits home, I hope she understands the context in which the advice was given. It either applies or it doesn't.