Well, my eyes are not as bad as your daughter's, but I am fairly nearsighted and I have a very bad astigmatism in my left eye. Now, I am also farsighted.
I dealt with the situation by wearing a prescription in my soft lenses that leaves me with less than 20/20 vision in my left eye. It's maybe 20/30? All I know is that I can pass the eye test at the RMV. I tried torics many times and as soon as I put them in my eyes, there was huge trouble, irritation, necessitating me to wear my glasses for a while.
I choose to wear reading glasses over my contacts for the near vision, as I don't qualify for any other solution. Problems like this are frustrating, but I second the opinion to go to a medical center in a big city.