NoNo, congratulations on your weightloss and dedication to fitness!! As I try to get back on that saddle myself, I find your story to be inspiring. Thank you.
I have to agree with Indy's post. It seems undeniable that issues beyond weightloss and cycling lie at the heart of what's going on. Therapy can be a wonderful thing (as long as you've got a good therapist) and I'd encourage you to consider it. Professional help might just offer you the support base you need while you work to not only reach your fitness goals, but also learn to process your family's less-than-supportive feedback.
From your words, it seems your family has a history of being critical and the worst part of this pattern is that their words have managed to carry more weight to you - than your very own. When you say that you know what you're doing is healthy and not bad for you, BELIEVE IT! That wise little voice inside of you already does (I can tell). The words from your family members are reflections of their own issues - which you've taken on as your own. Those issues do nothing for you - let them go.
I agree that a confrontation won't do any good because it doesn't sound like they'd do a good job of hearing your needs. Keep getting support, consider the therapy thing, and trust yourself.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt
"Above all else, to thine own self be true." - Shakespeare
It's your life NoNo. Live it.
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