Hi Mtbdarby -

I'm a psych nurse. I worked with kids for 5 years in an inpatient psych hospital and I have 8 years on my adult unit where I'm currently employed.
I also have the personal experience of living with social phobias since I was 15 years old.
Therapists these days should be familiar with social disorders in children. This was not the case when I was a child. Treatment is available. Both you and your child need to feel comfortable with the therapist's approach.
Incapacitating anxiety is fueled by flawed inner thoughts. Identifying and correcting those thoughts is a key.
Acceptance of self is important.
Some type of social outlet with peers is important to foster healthy emotional growth.

Don't despair after a disturbing parent/teacher conference. Focus on your positives.

Barb