I'm sorry to hear about it! All I can say is that I second the be there, and mean it! I have a gf that has stage 4 endo. She has had these HUGE cysts over time, and has lost one of her ovaries. They are currently trying to save the other, beings she's in her early 30's. One of the things that she has done is read up A LOT on the endo stuff. One thing that she's learned (that most docs won't tell you) is that it is kind of like cancer, even though it's not cancer. That may be a reason to refer her to an oncologist, especially if the doc felt that it was over his/her head. No matter what, please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend!