my best girlfriend did this. She actually talked to her adopted parents about this and they were cool with it. She tracked down her birth mother. She found about health problems but also an interesting insight to some of the personality conflicts she'd been having with her own daughter.
Although others here are correct in saying this is a big deal emotionally in ways you can't imagine, I think the knowledge you gain is profound.
Meeting blood relatives is such an amazing thing. You never know what you're going to find. I met my grandfather's brother after my grandfather had died. The two men never met. When this great uncle laughed, he had THE SAME LAUGH. he also had green eyes like my sister, so we quit saying "where did the green eyes come from?"
back to my girlfriend, about the uncomfortable discoveries; the birth mom didn't have a clue on how to find the birth father (who has, after all, 50% of your genes) so my friend STILL will never know 1/2 of her genetic heritage..
good luck! If you want to try, contact me off line if you'd like and I'll tell you about another of my friends that did this with success, and my sister in law who opened pandora's box and found the son she gave up for adoption!




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