Quote Originally Posted by EBD View Post
I am soon to begin cohabitating for the first time, and I'm nervous about this. I think it'll be ok, because we complement each other - I'm *cleaner* than he is, but he's *neater* than I am, if that makes sense. (Or, we could just go nuts over each other's flaws). But I have already discovered one good trick - from the beginning, I've always told the BF how sexy and hot I find the sight of him washing dishes. I really hammed it up at the beginning. And y'all . . . he washes the hell out of those dishes. My kitchen is often cleaner after we have dinner here than it was before I started cooking, once BF is done with the (hot, sexy) cleanup.
positive reinforcement REALLY helps. If that DH of yours JUST ONCE does a chore you want him to do more of, lavishly praise him (and telling him it's sexy is about the BEST way to do that!)

on the other hand, if there's a chore you WANT to do, just keep telling him he doesn't do it right. More guys will QUIT doing chores for that reason. Who cares if he folds the towels differently? Just let him do it and THANK HIM!