married men

**Dianyla** · 12-07-2006, 09:05 AM

The bottom line is, there are a lot of really emotionally insecure people out there who still need constant reassurance of their attractiveness and want to have their "datability" validated by others even when they already have a relationship. I've seen plenty of this low self-esteem driven behavior from both genders.

**BleeckerSt_Girl** · 12-07-2006, 10:05 AM

The anonymity of the internet makes it all the easier to lie about being married (or involved) when communicating with others.

I think this problem however has been going on for centuries. Some people are sincere and honest and some just aren't and never will be. Deception and honesty are not gender based.

**caligurl** · 12-07-2006, 10:20 AM

Originally Posted by Dianyla

The bottom line is, there are a lot of really emotionally insecure people out there who still need constant reassurance of their attractiveness and want to have their "datability" validated by others even when they already have a relationship. I've seen plenty of this low self-esteem driven behavior from both genders.

that's so true!!!!!

**mtbdarby** · 12-07-2006, 10:28 AM

Hellosunshine - if this is coming from a dating perspective, do you have court websites there to check on people? We have them here by state, and while they don't tell you if they're married, you can tell if a divorce if final, pending, etc. And anything on their record shows up. Of course, you can always google for a marriage license.....there are some advantages to the internet.

I have run into a few people that are married who claimed they were divorced. Or separated but looking. Be careful but don't be bitter by a few peoples poor judgement. Best of luck!

**bcipam** · 12-07-2006, 12:23 PM

It's interesting a few years back I went through the online dating thing... of course I ran into those guys that fibbed about their marital status but what really amazed me is that going though the men, some honestly stated they were married... what???? If you are married why are you posting on with an online dating service? Although cheating has been going on for a long time (my x cheated on me leading to divorce back that was in 1979) I think it's gotten so much worse recently, within the last 10 years. People just don't take marriage seriously anymore. I have overheard young owmen talk about the fact that they are involved in their first marriage and next time around...

I don't know I'm upfront and honest to a fault. I assume everyone else is as well and am always burned...

**hellosunshine** · 12-07-2006, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by Dianyla

The bottom line is, there are a lot of really emotionally insecure people out there who still need constant reassurance of their attractiveness and want to have their "datability" validated by others even when they already have a relationship. I've seen plenty of this low self-esteem driven behavior from both genders.

10/10 for that !!!!

its not through internet dating,its from poddling around trying to keep my head down,still get pounced on!and older and wiser im learning to do homework before it all gets too hot!

sleep is the new sex for me!

**Lise** · 12-07-2006, 01:24 PM

Originally Posted by hellosunshine

sleep is the new sex for me!

HA! Good one! So true in my life!

**Trek420** · 12-07-2006, 01:47 PM

Trust me, it's not just the men, both men and women and batting for either team.

But the honest ones are out there

**Bluetree** · 12-07-2006, 02:51 PM

Originally Posted by hellosunshine

sleep is the new sex for me!

Sleep is good.

Someone once told me...

You know you are a child when you never want to go to sleep.

You know you are an adult when all you want to do is sleep.

You know you are old when you no longer are able to sleep!

**bcipam** · 12-07-2006, 04:09 PM

=sigh= I forgot what it's like to get a good night's rest.

Because of my current back injury, I've been given Vicodin... I can see why folks get hooked on this stuff. Last two nights I've actually gotten some rest; at least 6 hours sleep - Whoo Hoo! But I can't take this stuff forever (can I?).

**Trek420** · 12-07-2006, 07:48 PM

any of you gals in Northern CA the Velo Girls have a coed ride for single cyclists....with a screening process.

I read in the ride report that Lorri asks all for a show of (gloveless) left hands before the ride and...because you can take that ring off jokingly announced that photos of the ride will be (and are) posted online.

So anyone not qualified to be dipping their toes in the dating pool risks "that the he)) were you doing at the

...."

The coed ride was last Saturday but is the first Saturday of the month.

There's a single girls who like girls ride the 2nd Saturday of the month. I just climbed out of the dating pool, toweling off, trying to get the water out of my ears....I'm not going.

I understand that we do not do the photo thing there because obviously not everyone is out to the same extent so that's understandable.

Both rides are relatively easy but tend to have two groups, fast group, slower group.

check the calendar at:

www.velogirls.com

**KnottedYet** · 12-07-2006, 08:06 PM

Originally Posted by Trek420

I just climbed out of the dating pool, toweling off, trying to get the water out of my ears....I'm not going.
www.velogirls.com

Yeah, you missed the one in November too...

**Trek420** · 12-07-2006, 08:40 PM

Yes, but I'm very proud to have played a small part in forming the idea of the women only singles ride. Only in San Francisco eh? Hope the idea catches on.

It's so hard to meet active dates....online. I mean think about it, what are the odds of meeting a date or even friends who likes to go outside.....by sitting at a computer screen?

Anyone been told by a potential date "you ride ___ miles? you must be nuts to ride that far"

there was no second date or u-haul

Well, I think they are nuts not to work out but then "you like the legs? then I gotta ride my bike"

**Tuckervill** · 12-08-2006, 07:00 AM

>>Because of my current back injury, I've been given Vicodin... I can see why folks get hooked on this stuff. Last two nights I've actually gotten some rest; at least 6 hours sleep - Whoo Hoo! But I can't take this stuff forever (can I?).<<

I wouldn't.

I have been dealing with some middle-of-the-road whiplash since my Beetle was creamed by a street sweeper last month. I have Vicodin. I don't have to take it every day, so I only take it occasionally. At first I was taking it every night. After a few days, I got in this really weird funk. Then I didn't take it for a while. But when I did, the next day I was in the weird funk again, barely willing to get out of bed, pissed off at everything. It took a couple of episodes for me to relate it to the Vicodin. I'm not saying that's THE cause, but it's enough of a correlation to make me pause before I take it again.

I've had it before for different things--ovarian cyst, herniated disks, and didn't notice this symptom, but it could just be I wasn't paying attention. But I think I've sworn off the stuff, pretty much.

Hope your back feels better soon. I once stood up, nearly sobbing, on a crowded airplane as much as they would let me for a whole flight from Tampa to Detroit because of a herniated disk. No fun.

Karen

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