I am very new to this forum, and I had never heard of Bloom or Silver before this thread. I probably should butt out but it isn't my nature. My spouse and I used to post on a particular forum. I had posted on the forum a couple of years before he started there. I was a founder and a moderator/administrator. My spouse and I split. He graciously left the forum. In return, I never talk about him at all on that forum. (For all I know he reads it, but he no longer posts there.) Awkwardness avoided.

As I understand it, Mr. Bloom remains as a forum participant and Silver is uncomfortable, rarely posting as she feels that she lost the forum in their divorce. Given that this forum is primarily for women, Bloom should do the gracious thing and leave. Silver has better rights to the place than he does.

As far as most ignored posters, in the forum I moderated we would sometimes send messages to posters that were ignored by a large number of users and suggest that they might want to change their style. We also would take into consideration the ignore list when deciding whether to ban someone.