Ah now Smurf, there is someone for everyone! I have a cycling friend with very generous hips and her devoted husband is a skinny little guy. My how do I look from behind moment came when I got a narrower saddle. I had to ask my DH - does this saddle make my butt look bigger? He just laughed. Of course, when I bought my silver cycling shoes, I also asked the guy at the store if they made my feet look bigger (since they weren't black) he just laughed too. I don't think men think of these things! And some men just love big (fill in the blank) on women! We are supposed to have the womanly curves, after all! Don't tell yourself that you are going to be overlooked - just be your loveable self. You never know what your true love may look like either! Tokie