Issues with elderly parents and some encouragement for Mr.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

This is a bit premature, but it's something I was dismayed to learn when my mother did die and hopefully someone reading this may benefit from it....
Power of Attorney ENDS when someone dies. It will no longer mean anything. Thus, whoever has POA will be unable to do anything related to the deceased person's financial/legal matters the moment that person dies. If there is a bank account, etc., it will become immediately frozen by the bank or institution and be inaccessable until the estate is settled. When a person dies, that is the moment the person's legal will takes over, and one must then wait until the estate is legally settled by a lawyer under the will's terms before being able to do anything. If you have POA, try to make all logical legal and financial arrangements and provisions before that loved one dies. You will be powerless from that point on except for what the will stipulates, and that can take time.
Don't learn this the hard way like I did. Just a tip from one who has been there.

I was lucky to have discussed my mothers medical wishes before she got sick. It is difficult and often impossible to get someone's real wishes after they have had a stroke or other serious crisis. Well worth bringing it up. When I broached the subject with my mother, I brought it up by telling her where I'd like my shaes scattered when I die someday, then I asked her. This made it a bit more of a philosophical two way street conversation.