Losing a friend

[Aggie_Ama]

My mom's dear friend died this weekend and I am very sad. She was definitely more my mother's friend than mine but she was a friend of the family. I had known her for at least 13 years. She had some sort of auto-immune disease and it was known it would eventually win but you are never ready.

I am struggling today with the overwhelming sadness I feel at work and the feeling I shouldn't be this sad. She was my mom's friend but it wasn't like she ever called me to shoot the breeze. I almost feel like I shouldn't be so depressed but I am so sad I want to take the afternoon off so I can go home and be sad in peace. I want to giggle at the crazy memories of her and be thankful she left them with me. I don't want to be sitting in my cubicle wishing I would stop having to fight back tears.

[GraysonKelly]

Amanda,
I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend. She may have been your mom's confidant and companion but your knew her and probably loved her if for no other reason than your mom did...and that hurts. You go ahead and cry. You go ahead and remember her. You go ahead and mourn. And I say, if you want to go home and have a good cry then you should do it. And I think it is a wonderful testimony to how you feel about her that you can remember her fondly and smile. I'm sure she appreciated that in life and would want people to remember that at her passing. Hugs and prayers to you and your mom.
Gray

[sundial]

Even though she may not be considered family, she was still very much a part of your life--and your mother's. It's ok to be sad and to mourn your loss. She sounded like a wonderful friend and I think she would be touched that you miss her so.

[wildhawk]

Hugs and prayers to you over the loss of a family friend. My parent’s friends were our extended family members over the years and alot of the older ones are gone now, alongwith my grandparents, Mom and Dad. I have very fond memories of them and that is what will always stay with you. They are an important part of our lives. When you get home, allow yourself a good, solid cry for the loss of your friend.

[Iris616]

I'm sorry for your loss, and your Mom's. Family friends touch the lives of every one in the family, and it's hard to lose them.

[OakLeaf]

(((((Amanda)))))

It's okay for you to be sad. Be gentle with yourself. Honor your friend's life in whatever ways feel right to you.