"Cocktail attire"...what the heck does that mean?

So I am going to a movie premiere in Boston with a friend this weekend and there is a cocktail party before the screening...apparently the invitation specified "cocktail attire". What, exactly, does that mean? Not sure that anything I have is appropriate, other than a couple of sleeveless knee-length dresses that really seem more suitable for summer unless I wear tights and some sort of cardigan or wrap with them...dressing in clothes that are completely inappropriate for the conditions (like a sleeveless dress this time of year...I know the party is indoors but who knows if one might get stuck somewhere along the way and not be inside where it's warm?) just feels wrong to me. Would a longer (dressy) skirt with a cute top be appropriate, or would that be a big faux pas? As for shoes, I don't do heels so it will definitely be ballet flats. Any suggestions would be helpful...I am completely out of my element with events like this.

It means a dressy dress, or skirt/blouse/pants/blouse combo. Usually it refers to a short as opposed to long dress and sleeveless with a wrap is appropriate, even in winter. Probably the best definition is a LBD (little black dress); classic, simple, with simple accessories.
How about black pants, a camisole, and a fancier type sweater?

With cold weather I think it's always safe to go with a longer skirt and you will still be appropriately dressed.

I tend to get cold, so for November in Boston if I were wearing a summer dress like you describe, I would probably wear a dressy turtleneck on top and accessorize with a necklace or silk scarf. Tights and a cardigan or wrap or shawl can also go a long way towards extending the season for something that is more of a warm-weather dress. Knee-high boots are great, too. You don't need heels to be dressy.

I think it means look nice in whatever you want.
Show as much (or as little) flesh or curve as you are comfortable with. Go over the top if you want.

It gives you broader parameters than any of the Formal Attire permutations (Black tie, white tie, etc.) which are generally more conservative, to my old mind, anyway.

Well...I went through my closet and here are the options:
1. sleeveless knee-length black dress (not solid black, has an off-white design on it) with black tights, red cardigan and red ballet flats
2. black turtleneck sweater dress with black/gray striped sparkly tights and either black or red shoes
3. ankle-length black velvet skirt with sleeveless sparkly top and some sort of jacket or sweater (really not sure this option is a very good one...may end up looking frumpy)

Option 1 is probably the most appropriate...thoughts?

#1 sounds nice and seems to fit the bill.

It must be an outfit that you enjoy walking around with a glass of wine and canapes (if they're going to serve this). Nice pair of shoes. Hey show your cycling legs. :)

Definitely not #3. The skirt would be too formal.

How big is the pattern in #1? Is it mostly black, or with lots of off-white in it? Black shoes might look better with it, to keep things from being too busy.

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How big is the pattern in #1? Is it mostly black, or with lots of off-white in it? Black shoes might look better with it, to keep things from being too busy.

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It's mostly black--the pattern is not all that busy.

gosh you guys sound like ME!!! (except I have even LESS appropriate clothing)
:p

Number 1 sounds perfect.
I agree, black shoes or boots.

A dressy little black sweater or bolero, with a few sparkles on it might jazz it up.

I would probably be heading to Ross to see if there was something fun on sale with just a little sparkle to it.

Try googling images for "cocktail attire" for more ideas. You can be appropriate in the simpler end of the spectrum- some will be extreme, but it might give you more ideas...

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A dressy little black sweater or bolero, with a few sparkles on it might jazz it up.

I would probably be heading to Ross to see if there was something fun on sale with just a little sparkle to it.

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That's a thought...maybe I ought to head over to Marshall's (we don't have Ross here but from what I've heard it's a similar kind of store).

Just got back from Marshall's...what a waste of time. Didn't find anything that was any better than what I have, which was probably just as well since I'd rather just use something I have if possible anyway. I guess if my friend thinks the options I have aren't appropriate we'll be shopping tomorrow afternoon :eek:. What I'd like to know is, who comes up with the ideas for some of the designs of clothes I was seeing in that store? Brilliant minds, I'm sure :rolleyes:. You have to search to find something that is functional in any way, shape or form (aside from the activewear section). Some of the stuff was just ridiculous, like sleeveless sweater dresses (what's the point?), dresses that are so narrow at the hem that one can't even walk normally in them, cardigans and ponchos that are so sheer or loosely knitted (in other words lots of holes--think Swiss cheese) that you'd freeze your derriere off, etc. Can you tell I left the store in disgust?

Men have it SO easy! We're going to a wedding tomorrow. DH is an usher, so will be in black pants with a shirt and tie, I think.

We still haven't purchased a gift for the couple, so hubby suggested we do some shopping before the wedding. I pointed out that I will not be dressed appropriately to be wandering around the mall. His reply "well, neither will I." My retort, "will you also be wearing 3" heels?" That kinda shut him up.

Here's some info on the place where this is happening...WHAT have I gotten myself into? http://www.yelp.com/biz/royale-boston Somebody says it's a "small" venue and "only" holds 1000 people...that is NOT small!! I'm seriously about to have a panic attack just thinking about the crowd we're sure to be in...

"Noise level: Very loud. Good for dancing: Yes." Sounds like my kind of place :D

It sounds like a not very formal place so I wouldn't worry overly about the dress code. I'd say anything that looks pretty but is on the elegant and simple rather than cute or sporty side would be appropriate.

When I was in my twenties with a very limited wardrobe this sort of question would have me in frustrated and insecure knots, because I had no idea what to wear and I really wanted not to look dumb. Now I do have more to wear and a better idea of what to wear, but I've also found out that other people just don't care that much, unless you're going to a wedding or something really formal.

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"Noise level: Very loud. Good for dancing: Yes." Sounds like my kind of place :D

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Not mine! :eek: Two things I really can't stand: crowds and loud places. Needless to say, the combination is even worse. Had I realized what kind of situation I would be walking into, I probably would not have agreed to go. And just to top it off I get to drive into Boston to get there...stressful in itself. It should be an interesting night.

Oooh, that sounds like FUN! The LBD would do the trick. Post a pic? Boots or tights with flats might do well. A big white necklace might pick up the white trim on it, or a white blazer or white cardi. Have fun, be creative. Just have fun!

I'm headed to a decor judging on Monday in Atlanta, so I'm also trying to figure what to wear. Anybody have a Fendi bag I can borrow? I prefer handmade bags, think hippie - which won't fly! Can't get too dolled up as I'll be in Chattanooga all day doing meetings & preshopping for a client project.

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Not mine! :eek: Two things I really can't stand: crowds and loud places. Needless to say, the combination is even worse. Had I realized what kind of situation I would be walking into, I probably would not have agreed to go. And just to top it off I get to drive into Boston to get there...stressful in itself. It should be an interesting night.

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Well, for a music venue 1000 is small.

But with that many people there, you will see all kinds of outfits, ranging from elegant and classic "cocktail attire" to what-was-that-person-thinking. So there's no need to worry about looking out of place. Also it probably will not be cold, so you might wind up checking your sweater with your coat.

I'm not big on dance clubs but when I find myself in noisy crowds like that I usually just stand back and people-watch. That's always entertaining. And since the main event is the movie, it won't last too long.

So what movie is premiering?

Well, it turns out we're not going...my friend isn't feeling so great and won't be up to it. I'm kind of relieved given the whole driving into Boston and then dealing with crowds and noise thing...it would have been cool to see a movie premiere but I could do without some of the other stuff that goes with this one. The movie is called Oxy Morons, btw...hadn't heard anything else about it. On the plus side, at least I know a little more now about what to wear to events that call for "cocktail attire"!! Next time something comes up I won't be so clueless.