Seems to all come at once...

Eldest DD has been having trouble with depression, and her *%&*#$ boyfriend decided now would be a good time to dump her so he can party. She's across the state, which isn't helpful right now. She's doing a bit better with counseling and meds. Our twins (almost 18) have been having meltdowns — seems to go with the territory. This is our year for car accidents — all 3 kids have had one since last June. One daughter had 2. Tonight my mom called and said my dad has blood clots in both legs and both lungs.

Feeling overwhelmed,
Deb

I'm sorry to hear these problems.

DD's better off without her boyfriend although she's probably not feelin' great about that.

(((blackhillsbiker)))

I was at a Stitch'n'***** tonight that was full of stories like reading the Book of Job. One of the women said, "In my religion it's okay to shake your fist at God, because that means that you're still talking to him."

You're stronger than you probably feel at the moment. Hang in there!

I agree with DD being better without the boyfriend. She always saw more in him than we did. I just don't like anyone to hurt my babies.

I'm scared about my dad. I can't imagine my world without him in it.

Deb

Thanks for the hugs. I haven't been around here much lately. Life has been closing in on me.

(((hugs)))

Wow! What a time! Winters are rough there, maybe DD will feel better with spring!

While you're worrying about everyone else, don't neglect yourself.

It's tough being between ailing parents and needy kids. Please consider counseling to get things in perspective if the feeling continues or escalates.

(((((((blackhillsbiker)))))))

Hang in there.

Do you have someone "neutral" you can talk to about all of this? Venting here is 100% fine, but I'm sure there are details you'd rather not share in public. It's so hard when you don't have anyone who's outside of the situation you can bounce things off.

We're all here for you.

((hugs))

That's a lot to deal with. Just take each day as it comes, come here to whine a little, and know we have your back.

As for the clots, they are survivable. Since it appears to me that you dad's were caught in time for the medical team to do its magic, he should be fine. It is scary, I know. Hang in there.

As for the kids and car wrecks, I'll let others be wise on them.

Oh Deb, bless your heart! It does seem to hit all at once. :( :( You are facing a very difficult time and it may be time to find a safe person to talk to, such as a counselor or psychiatrist. You need to protect you from undue pressures by getting good quality sleep, reducing anxiety, and learning to reframe your thinking in order to cope better with stress. A good counselor or physician can help you with that.

Deb,

I'm sorry. That all just really sucks, especially about your dad. I hope this is the low point and things get a lot better from here. Soon.

Hugs.... :(

Hope things improve... sounds like a bit of a tough road right now.
I was just writing a note last night when my DH came home saying he'd been hit by a car on his commute (see my separate post) and so my note was delayed by a day. Hang in there

((((Deb)))))

You need comfort right now and I hope you're getting a boost from your buddies here! Sometimes it gets overwhelming like what you're going through right now. It does not seem like it right now but it does get better. Will be saying a prayer for your Dad and hope that all works out well for him and the rest of your dear family...

sorry to hear about your troubles :( glad your daughter is doing better on meds. i take paxil mainly for anxiety, but some say anxiety is just a different sort of depression, who knows... but it helps me and i've been on it since 2002. don't plan to go off of it ever.

hang in there. sounds like your're a good mom which is priceless to daughters {{HUGS}}

Dad is doing pretty well. He has clots "from ankle to groin," so they're monitoring him closely and he is on IV anticoagulants. I talked to him today. He sounded better than Mom. There is an umbrella-like device they're talking about placing in his vein (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inferior_vena_cava_filter) when this is all over. He's not thrilled about the surgical support stockings. I don't blame him. I had to wear them for almost 10 years, before I had last summer's surgeries. Still, they beat the alternative!

DD is doing well on Prozac. That was the first antidepressant that helped me years ago. She doesn't seem to be bothered by side effects, for which I am grateful. She has a counselor she likes. This is also very helpful.

DDs 2 & 3 have their days. We just had several crises on top of each other. Things seem to be mellowing out a bit.

I get lots of support from dear friends and DH. I appreciate the kind words/thoughts here as well. I haven't been riding much, what with terrible weather and just trying to cope with all the other stuff. I need to get back into the habit. It is a good stress relief for me, and I really feel it when I miss too many days.

Deb

:( I'm sorry you're having such a rough go of things. Hope things turn around and things sort themselves out for the better!

Deb, it's good to hear that your dad is doing well in his treatment and hopefully it will resolve most if not all of the clots. :) That must give you some peace of mind that he is in good hands now and able to talk with you about his progress. And your daughter is doing well on her meds--a victory for you both! Little by little there is progress being made and soon things will look brighter by the day. As my grandmother would say, "Things will look better in the morning." May you continue to feel a little better with each passing day.

hope things start to turn around for you.