BTDT! (still there but working on it!!)
I agree with the previous posters. If your fear deals with the clipping/ unclipping, just unclip early. (I still deal with this, it's been 5 mos since I went clipless)
I tend to unclip WAY early (or so I've been told ;) it doesn't feel that early to me!), so that I'm pedalling several revolutions with my heel (I have mtn shoes, with some cleat on the bottom, wouldn't necessarily advise this with slick-bottomed road shoes...).
I am definitely improving, clipping in earlier and unclipping later. It just takes practice.
Whatever side you favor to unclip out of first, try to always unclip on that side first every time. And get in the habit of turning your front wheel toward the foot that's already unclipped, it can help prevent you falling over!!
this is a bit more long & detailed than it really needs to be; sorry!
I totally relate to what you're talking about.
When I was getting used to clipless (which was not *so* long ago!) this is how I handled stoplights (which were the most scary thing for me!):
Approaching a yellow or red light, I would unclip the side I was *most* comfortable with (my right) and then sort of coast up to the light, slowly tapping my brakes in case the light turned green--then I could just pop my right foot back in and pedal. If the light stayed red until I got there, and I had to stop, I would stop slowly then turn my wheel towards my right, put my right foot on the ground and bring my left foot (still clipped in) backwards up to the top of the pedalstroke and rest it there that way. Then, when the light turned green I could kind of gently push off the ground with my right foot and pedal with my left foot (easy b/c it was already at the top of the stroke, see) and gain momentum that way. So I had that momentum to keep me going if I had trouble clipping my right foot in. But my right was easiest, which is why I chose to unclip that one in the first place.
So I guess one piece of advice is to approach the red light rather slowly if possible--actually, do *everything* slowly and think about what you're doing so you're not rushing, getting flustered and confused about how to clip in and out etc.
And the other piece of advice is to gain a bit of momentum after being stopped and before attempting to clip your other foot in.
Whew, that was long, Sorry!
I hope this helps somewhat & isn't all completely self-evident.
Take care and good luck!! You can do it.
:)
there is unclipping and then there is unclipping
I've road ridden for years, and whoever wrote that mountain biking has its own set of fears was right on. Unclipping upon stopping and safely navigating especially in traffic is second nature to me now (it helps not to ride in areas of congested traffic or times of peak commuter/weekend traffic) but unclipping from my mountain bike is a different challenge altogether, because for the most part, you can't unclip early and anticipate when you want release. I have an underlying fear of the bigger critters on the trail too, I see rattlesnakes on a regular basis, and there have been numerous mountain lion sightings in our area. Not to mention riding with pepper spray in the event that I am confronted by the male of the species when out riding the trails alone. I've thought alot about how I would defend myself if threatened by any eventuality. Its a great suggestion to ride with someone both on the road and moreso on the trail, but in my situation, that is hardly ever possible, and if I wait to find someone to ride with, I don't get to go. I've found the best way to overcome your fears is to try to anticipate and prepare for any contingency based upon common sense as well as other's experience, and go out there and face them...can't live your life not doing things because of fear...on the flip side of that idea is the idea that no one should be foolhardy...trolling unprepared or unaware for mountian lions or riding alone without the necessary plan B isn't a good idea either. When I ride alone I carry cell phone, small gps, pepper spray, CO2 cart for quick flat fix, essentials of 1st aid kit, practiced at quick flat fix, be alert to all that is going on around me...