abrupt end to tri season

My life has taken a sudden turn for the not so good these last 2 weeks - I am having a hard time finding enough time/energy and desire to train or to even keep up a modecum of fitness.

My DBF of 3 years and best friend for years prior to dating has just been diagnosed with either primary or secondary liver cancer.
We don't know many details at this time and have an appointment at the Mayo clinic for Aug 13. I will be going down w/ him until school starts then we will have to tag team it.

I am still riding my bike as it is very good therapy and I can empty my mind when I am out pushing. Running and swimming have gone by the wayside but when we go to Mayo i plan on taking my running shoes and shorts so maybe I will get out at least a little bit.

So that is that, we are now competing in the race of our lives.

Christine

Big hug Christine, good luck. My thoughts and prayers are with you...

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So that is that, we are now competing in the race of our lives.

Christine

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I have been running that race for almost ten years waiting for a liver transplant.
Does he have family or other support system in the area? He may be too tired to make that trip alone.
The Mayo Clinic is certainly no stranger to the business, they have some of the best doctors in the world there. Just remember to breathe and enjoy each day. You are both in my thoughts.

What can I say except my thoughts are with you both as you find your way through and over and across this new hurdle.

I'm so sorry to hear about you DBF's diagnosis. Sending lots of good thoughts your way.

I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you.

I am sending lots of strength and good karma your way. Take strength from all of us, and be gentle with yourself too.


Ruth

(((((Eclectic))))))))

No idea what to say except take care of yourself plus give your dear all the love needed.

C

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I have been running that race for almost ten years waiting for a liver transplant.
Does he have family or other support system in the area? He may be too tired to make that trip alone.
The Mayo Clinic is certainly no stranger to the business, they have some of the best doctors in the world there. Just remember to breathe and enjoy each day. You are both in my thoughts.

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Oh Zen my thoughts and prayers are with you that it may happen soon for you

Thank you everyone else also. I will be going to Mayo w/ him. Luckily my younger sister is an intensive care nurse there so we will have good support while there.

Keep posting all your race reports w/ full detail so I can live vicariously through all of you :D

Oh Christine, I'm so sorry for the diagnosis. Please know you're both in our prayers... soooo sorry to hear about it. :(
Keep your chin up and keep coming here for more therapy of a different kind. Please keep us posted in his progress and what the Mayo clinic says.

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

And Zen- I didn't know that about you either. Hugs to you, too!!!

I'm so sorry. Hopefully he'll get a good diagnosis. My thoughts are with you.

Eclectic: So, sorry to hear about this. It is very hard to deal with. I just had very similar news as well. When I got back from Germany last week, my sister and brother in law were staying at my house. Bro in law had been at the hospital for two days and just got out. He has been diagnosed with colon cancer which has taken over at least 1/2 of his liver and may be in his lungs! More tests to go.

My heart goes out to you and I can just hope that all goes well as I hope it will with my bro in law.

spoke

I'm so sorry for everything you've been going through. You guys will be in my thoughts.

So sorry to hear of this. Take time for yourself in this race too. You will be in my thoughts as we ride these next few days...

I'm so sorry to hear this. Keep thinking positively, it's important. You'll be in my thoughts.

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So that is that, we are now competing in the race of our lives. Christine

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I have been running that race for almost ten years waiting for a liver transplant.

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Bro in law had been at the hospital for two days and just got out. He has been diagnosed with colon cancer which has taken over at least 1/2 of his liver and may be in his lungs!

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Prayers this morning for all of you, and your loved ones. Please use us here for venting and support!

A friend's DH was diagnosed 1-1/2 years ago with colon cancer that had spread to his liver. The docs predicted about 3 months to go, and that guy is not only still with us, but out biking and training, and supporting his wife's training for IM races, even sometimes during chemo.

The human body & spirit is amazing. Prayers for all of you!

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I have been running that race for almost ten years waiting for a liver transplant.

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Much love your way too, somehow I missed your response when I replied to eclectic. I didn't realise you had been living with this either.
Spokewrench... you also... what a fantastic source of inspiration TE is with you brave and enduring women and your partners here...

Arohanui, Rave

Sending hugs and blessings to all of you ladies, Eclectic, Zen and Spokewrench.

I don't know what to say. Just that I'm hoping for the best for all of you. I for one, believe in miracles. Never, ever lose hope.

Hugs and prayers to you all. There are so many strong, amazing women on this board and when we all pull together amazing things can happen.

Please keep us posted Zen, Eclectic and Spokewrench.

Christine - I am so sorry to hear of your boyfriend's diagnosis. Hugs & prayers for you both and your families. You must all be in a great deal of shock still, so cut yourself some slack on not training right now. It sounds like you have your priorities correctly set in turning your focus to him!

There is a ton of great support here on TE and there are many other sources of comfort and information out there. A friend of mine runs a forum called Cyclists Combating Cancer. The group was founded by a man named Damon Phinney and my friend, Will, took over as moderator when Damon passed. My husband & I take every opportunity to support this group and have made many great friends from it. They are very welcoming to anyone looking for support, answers, discussion about cancer and/or cycling. Cycling is the common bond in addition to their (or a loved one's) cancer. Members are located throughout the world, although primarily here in the USA. I hope you will check it out when you feel up to it. It really is a great group.

Hugs to all of you dealing with this now. Everyone here is so strong, lifting each other up as we each encounter the challenges of life.

~ Jennifer

Christine,

I'm so sorry. Try to stay positive and be good to yourself. Lots of thoughts and prayers will be with the two of you in the days ahead.

Zen and Spoke W, you will be in my thougths as well.

Thank you so much everyone for your posts, thoughts and prayers.

Zen - I can't imagine waiting that long for something to happen - just the two weeks we are waiting to go to Mayo seem like an eternity but I guess we all do what we have to.

Spoke W - please keep me informed about how your BIL is doing

Texas Mermaid - thank you so much for access to the CCC site :)

Right now DBF is feeling much better because of the pain medication but he is antsy to get going, get some answers and a plan.

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Eclectic: So, sorry to hear about this. It is very hard to deal with. I just had very similar news as well. When I got back from Germany last week, my sister and brother in law were staying at my house. Bro in law had been at the hospital for two days and just got out. He has been diagnosed with colon cancer which has taken over at least 1/2 of his liver and may be in his lungs! More tests to go.

My heart goes out to you and I can just hope that all goes well as I hope it will with my bro in law.

spoke

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electric and spokewrench -
My heart goes out to you. Hugs to all of you going through some tough times.

Jeni

I am very sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prays are with the both of you.

Eclectic, I'm so sorry that you have this new challenge to deal with! It's all been said by others, and you know we are here for you.

I"m sending healing, miracle bringing, strong, light, cheerful and reassuring butterflies to Eclectic, Spoke and Zen right now. Visualize them surrounding you, keeping your spirit buoyant, your heart light, and your body healing....

Hugs,
~T~

LBTC

I love the butterflies :) and I can feel them helping to lighten the load :)

LBTC: Thanks for the butterflies.

My BIL goes in for surgery on Friday to remove the mass on his colon. So, far the tests show, hopefully, that the cancer is only in one lobe of the liver (they will check that when they do the surgery); and he has some stuff going on in his lungs, but they say it is NOT cancer. Could be Valley Fever (he lives in the desert around Tucson)??

He seems to be keeping his spirits up so far. A few good thoughts might help him in his battle so I'm asking for some healing thoughts coming his way!

Thanks so much for all your support ladies and Mr. Silver.

Spoke

Spokewrench

I am glad to hear your BIL I getting operated on and of the possibility that it is only in 1 liver lobe. That is a very good sign
AND that the lung may be valley fever - although not a good thing especially in his weakened state but at least it is treatable (one of my best GF's from Tempe had it last year)

Unfortunately for us the lesion in DBF's liver is on both lobes :( But we will know much more next week.

Sending prayers out for your BIL and the surgeons on Friday.

Hugs and prayers to you ladies for you and your loved ones. Here's to best wishes and ((((HUGS)))) all around..