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What Catrin said.
Dear ex downgraded cyclone, tropical depression
I can handle a bit o heat but not with humidty..I really don't like it when it's 25C & 100% humidity @ 430am...but it seems you've decreased the humidty!!!!
Thank you for not causing too much damage out west.
Now, if you can tell your other tropical cyclone friends to leave Northern Queensland alone, it would be appreciated.
Dear ex-friend,
I thought we had parted on somewhat amicable terms, without undue bitterness, and that we had agreed that breaking off all but random contact is the best thing. So why exactly did you feel the need to send me yet another e-mail telling me that you had deleted all of our considerable correspondence (and at the very same time waxing sentimental about the good old days)? And when I asked you to please not tell me stuff like that because it honestly hurts, why did you then have to reveal that you'd actually deleted it all earlier at some point but changed your mind? And when I repeated that I really don't want to be told this because it upsets me - why in the name of g*d did you have to tell me that you have now changed your mind, kept it all, and for what it's worth, you still consider me a friend. Nope. We broke up two weeks ago. To be absolutely technically correct - you broke up with me.
I'll hand it to you, though: this perfectly illustrates why I have to get away from you. You're generous and funny and a terrific friend when it suits you to be so, but your love of drama and self-pity way overshadows any true empathy you might feel. Just go away. I do not want to write any more posts on this thread about you.
Sounds like you are making a healthy decision. Such 'friends' can be way too draining. I hope you find a more positive friend soon!Quote:
Originally Posted by lph
lph, it SO sounds you're making a great decision. Your friend sounds like she has Borderline Personality Disorder. The leading book on it is called "I Hate You Don't Leave Me." Sound familiar? That's obviously a very arm chair diagnosis but Borderlines are darn near impossible to deal with. It's sometimes better to cut your losses and run for cover. Unfortunately, Borderlines ca be very charismatic, so it's sometimes hard to recognize their toxicity at first.
Good luck. I'm sorry you lost a friend. That's never easy.
Pretty good, for an armchair diagnosis!
Thanks, peeps.
*sigh* yeah, I checked it out, and while I'll leave the diagnosing to the professionals, a lot did ring true.
Part of what has been making this difficult is this persons tendency to downplay and redefine what was said and written, and why, at a later point. Or at best blame being "a bit too spontaneous". But I'm done trying to guess what was "really" meant. If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, and when I get hit in the face with it - it feels like a duck - it doesn't really matter if the person wielding it insists that it's just a cute little duckling... :)
Stay strong LPH. It will be better for both of you. Just keep to the well-defined boundaries you've laid out for your relationship (or lack of).
I would set my email to automatically trash any correspondence from that person. Nobody needs to have the life sucked out of them.
I did that with someone. Works like a charm.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dogmama
Oh ick. Sounds like a real PITA.
This might be very ill-advised but,
Dear boyfriend, go sod yourself. First you try to shunt me off with this group when you rode with another. Now you say I have to be able to ride 40km in 1 hour and 14 minutes before I can ride with this group because you're riding with them or I must go join the other group? Seriously, who died and made you god?
Oh How I hear you! My mother's favorite statement was "you either have to learn to think of them as endearing qualities or kill them>'' Been there done that and have metaphysically killed them frequently. That is why I now ride almost exclusively solo or with a group of women. I have had quite enough of trying to keep up with anyone.Quote:
Originally Posted by alexis_the_tiny
Dear Cyclone Yasi,
Please slow down :( & don't cause too much damage to Far North Qld..:(
May it not be as bad as Cyclone Larry...
Queenslanders have certainly had enough of mother nature..what have they done to piss you off???
Dear crazy friend, I get that you have a lot on your plate with work, family, etc. But you're making some crazy bad decisions and I have to deal with your crying fits because of your self created drama this week that you're staying with me. The heart wants what the heart wants is not an excuse for you to do whatever you want, including breaking up marriages.
Next crying fit, I am tempted to try to slap some sense into you, 'cause consoling you and giving you gentle reminders of the right thing to do is apparently too easily ignored.
And call me an old judgemental cynic, but I seriously don't believe love at first sight trumps 13 years of marriage. And I guess I don't believe in love at first sight, I do believe that infactuation at first sight can grow into love.
You make my head hurt.
Oh dear.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cataboo
Dear Tucker,
I know you have a very important schedule every day - play, eat nap, chase Cassie, chitter at the birds, play with the Curlies through the window... etc. You are a very busy big baby. But could we please move the snuggle moment to an earlier time in the day? I really like snuggling with you, but I can't be late to work and I feel so badly every time I have to push you out of my lap.
Love,
Your "mom"
PS You do have the loudest rumble and it makes me smile to hear it.
Dear Self,
If you're going to gripe and complain about how painful and difficult it is to insert earrings into your tender, newly-pierced ears and how you never would have done it if you'd known how much fuss it was, please check that you are actually aiming at the hole. Trying to stab an earring through the unbroken skin of your ear, mulitple times, is obviously going to hurt.
yrs, the exasperated rest of you
lph - try putting a little antibiotic ointment on the posts of your earrings. They will slide in easier.
Signed,
Been There, Done That
I just saw this, and say it isn't so! I really did like the oolongs that Special Teas sold, but looking deeper into Teavana's offerings I see what you mean....sigh...Quote:
Originally Posted by Owlie
Speaking of oolong, I am trying to find a source for Quangzhou Oolong - it is delightful and while I do have a local source for it I am hoping that I can find it for at least a little lower price. I want to buy at least a .5 pound of it, but my local store doesn't sell in quantities larger than 1 ounce, and I suspect that I can find it in bulk for less than $65 for a half pound!
Dear wind,
Please stop !!!! Because of you, the bushfire's threating our friends house and quite a few others in two bushfires in Perth...:mad: I really don't appreciate it. You're not supposed to calm til tomorrow :(
Dear Fires, http://www.watoday.com.au/environmen...206-1ai22.html
Stop..:(..
Crazycanuck, oh dear. Fingers crossed for a better change in the weather...
Let's see, y'all have had, fire and flood, dare I ask when is the insect invasion?
Hope your friend's house is safe.
Wow, CC. You guys need a break.
Dear people upstairs--
The one time I want to go to bed before midnight, you decide to play loud music, using the stereo that is apparently right over my bed. Thanks so much.
Dear winter--
You know, I'm getting sick of you. I can't go out and ride because of the slush all over the roads and it being too d*** cold. I can't go out for a walk/jog-thing because the sidewalks are by-and-large covered in a foot of snow and ice. I'm getting cabin fever! I'm also sick and tired of the lack of fruit and veggies. I suppose this means that I appreciate spring and summer all the more.
Dear admin,
Rather than complaining about the project, how about offering some constructive feedback so that I can make some useful changes? "These d@mn things suck" is not helpful.
Signed,
Frustrated
Dear Employer,
Getting to work from home most of the time is a great benefit that I am truly thankful for. And last week, during the blizzard, giving the employees a paid "holiday" because of the weather was a good thing too. I just wish you'd extend part of that benefit to your home office employees. Every daycare and school was closed in the area. Finding babysitting for the day was really difficult. And to shovel ourselves out to deliver the children to a babysitter took hours. However I still managed to get in 4 hours of work. Had I known that the Paid time off would not have been extended to me, I would have worked on Saturday to make up the remaining time. I was hoping to save my vacation time for vacation.
Limewave.
Owlie, I sent you a PM on the tea thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by tulip
Dear TE'ers:
it's killing me til not comment on the dancing school spam post, but I'll be a really good girl this time and let it disappear by itself. (Or by moderator, as the case may be).
But surely here I can snicker at it.
"Dancing is a pleasurable commotion for all ages and all juncture."
"Our classes are familiarized in the direction of duos and we do not necessitate duos to spin."
Oh my. :D :D
Here is another one:Quote:
Originally Posted by lph
"In the present day, nearly all populace go to dances to dance with their collaborator" Makes it sound like an illegal activity :D
At least it IS in the "way off topic" forum :)
It does make you wonder how much spam the moderator catches, probably far more than we realize...
I reported the post as spam...
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Just letting you know our friend's house is ok & was not damaged in the fire. I think they were a smidgen of a bit away from the area but they evacuated anyways.
A gent accidentally started the fire w his axle grinder..http://www.watoday.com.au/environmen...208-1akku.html. Apparently there was a TFB at the time as well...I don't know if i could live with myself knowing that i'd helped destroy 71 houses
I dearly hope the forecasted high winds this weekend don't spark another one.
Dear Self:
1) You do NOT want another baby.
2) Mind your own business.
3) Think spring. February is a short month. And you always get to go on a nice outdoor ride in March. Hang in there!
~Limewave
Dear manager to whom I do not report:
I don't care if you are the CEO of our big-a$$, gigandawanda company. Your title alone is not enough for me to bump you to the top of the list. If you want to meet with me, tell me WHY you come before sales and revenue-related commitments I have already made.
And b!tchy responses just make me even more likely to hold my ground to follow directives given by my manager and expectations from sales mgmt all the way to the top of our big-a$$, gigandawanda company that is in the last quarter of the fiscal year. Contracts and moolah come first, not your title.
~SK
Dear parents--
Please get off my back.
Dear Owlie,
I think that's in their job description.
~SK
PS - But I am sooo with you! :)
:( I received a message from a friend informing me that thier parents house was lost in the bushfire on the weekend :(
Dear certain graduate program--
Since I know when your campus visit dates are, I think I can safely assume that I didn't make your "to interview" cut. Okay, I can accept that. It would rather nice, though, if you TOLD me that instead of leaving me to guess. I suppose mailing all of your rejection letters at one go would be easier, but still...
I'm sorry to hear that, Owlie.
Roxy
Owlie, call them up and ask them. The worst that could happen is that they tell you that you didn't get in, which is what you already expect. But, there could be another explanation and it would be worth a call. At the very least, you will have a definitive answer and will be able to move on cleanly and swiftly.
Dear former university--
I understand that you don't want people who aren't presently associated with the university using your gym's equipment. But it means that, since I don't have a university ID, I can't see the friend I haven't seen for a long time. She's up here for a frisbee tournament. :(
Dear friend--
I'm sorry. I'm guessing you're leaving right after (can't blame you), or I'd have suggested we get dinner afterward.
Dear same friend's mom--
I like you as a person, I just don't agree with your political views. Stop asking what I think of X, Y, or Z, please.
Aw, Owlie, sorry on both counts. Hugs to you.
Dear Jay Leno: You can have your chin back now. It didn't look that good on me.
Dear Mickey Mouse: You can have your hand back too. Honestly, I don't know how you get anything done at all.
Dear bike: Nice to ride you again. :)