This is why I stopped being social friends with colleagues. Too much...
I don't think you're overreacting. This is a huge change and you will feel conflicted and sad.
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This is why I stopped being social friends with colleagues. Too much...
I don't think you're overreacting. This is a huge change and you will feel conflicted and sad.
Congrats, lph.
You nailed it, you understand why you're sad. I think that's completely natural. I'm not surprised the sad feelings are overwhelming the happy ones right now, but you know that won't last. Be proud of yourself.
I totally understand. When I retired from my job in Aug. 2011, I had worked with some of my co-workers for over 20 years. Some were social friends as well as work friends. It was very hard to say goodbye. I have stayed in touch with a few, but not all. When we went back to NC for a visit this past August, we arranged to meet our best work friends for lunch, and it was great to catch up, but it's never quite the same as when people see each other day-in, day-out. You really do become like family, and I have almost always had a "best friend" at work -- someone I was really close to -- as well. These friendships tend to endure.
But nothing says it was easy. Tears were definitely shed. Still, I have never looked back and don't miss the workplace or job at all, just the people. Pretty much exactly what I expected.
Congrats, lph! You should be proud!!!
I may have to leave my job when my boss retires, so while my departure--if it comes to that--won't be voluntary--I totally get where you're coming from. Change, no matter what prompts it, is incredibly hard. But I tend to think that we're also much more adaptive than we often believe ourselves to be. Just remember that you do will not adapt overnight, so be kind and patient with yourself during that process.
Thank you everyone. It's been a tearful evening, but I know it won't last. And I am proud, very proud. But even if the positives outweigh the negatives, the negatives don't go away or become less negative. And my first reaction was obviously to deal with them...
People and personal relationships do matter, a lot.
Why do I feel such hostility when my alma mater (for both undergrad and law school) calls to ask for money? I loved my undergraduate years and perhaps if I'd just stopped there, I might give, but law school sort of ruined it for me. But beyond that, I'm sort of bitter about being asked to give to a school that does seemingly little to contain its costs. I guess I should, in the very least, consider an undergraduate scholarship fund, but at the end of the day, I get warmer fuzzies from giving elsewhere.
Indy - I got so tired of the way money was wasted by all the big charities I just stopped giving. Now it's all local, right down to the personal level... my sister in law's younger sister has cancer, so I send her money to help out with expenses. A friend from a motorcycling forum has a disabled daughter, I buy up fun stuff and send it along with some money to help out with her expenses. Local animal shelter needs supplies I buy a bunch and haul it over there. Just feels better to skip the "middle man".
I mostly give to friends for their own charitable endeavors and to small and/or local NFPs. Girls, Inc. is probably the biggest exception to that at the moment, but I have a clear sense of where my money is going and I really like how they interact with their donors, at least locally. The only other one one my radar is a local chapter of a big organization for which I was once a board member. I'm torn about that one because my connection to their mission is a lot more tenuous now, but I'll probably still keep them on my list. I believe in what they do; but some of the frustrations I encountered as a board member have colored my desire to give. I don't know how fair that is because my frustrations had nothing to do with actual programming or how donations were spent.
This is exactly how I feel. I had someone ask me to donate to Run for the Cure. She's using it as motivation to get fit. So I told her I wouldn't donate any money but that I would give her some donated coaching time. It's all about keeping it local and real.Quote:
Originally Posted by Pax
Here's to kicking myself for years *cheers*Quote:
Originally Posted by lph
I didn't take it. The short reason is that I wasn't willing to give up that much of my free time right now. The long reason is more complicated and probably has more to do with resistance to change than I'm willing to admit... But I spent 4 days thinking it through and talking with many people, and for now this is the best decision I can make. I'm happy with that :)
I took my job for the amount of "free time," too. I had the option of working 80% time, working fee for service, and setting my own schedule. I could have worked full time at a salaried job, and I might have shortened the time needed to get my full professional license, but I couldn't do it. Since I had never worked in the summer in my life, I was very worried about my perception of free time and being able to ride, etc. It was the right decision for me, although my Wednesdays are usually not free enough to do my group ride, unless it leaves from near my house and I don't go to the lunch. I can accept that for 6-8 more months... and then I am going to down to a 50-60% time job!!! Where I can, hopefully, commute.
It sounds like you made the right decision for yourself. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by lph
Ditto. It sounds like you put a lot of time and thought into your decision, lph.Quote:
Originally Posted by snapdragen
No, no, no... don't get really sick.
I have been dealing with a "full" head, a lot of throat clearing, and some sneezing for about 3 days. I am not really stuffed up and my throat isn't sore, just a lot of draining going on. I felt kind of achy yesterday, and today, once I got out of bed, that's better. Tummy is a bit off, but not enough to make me stop eating!
I've been super aggressive with hand washing and being outside a lot, as I firmly believe that the cold air helps keep you well. So yesterday was a rest day, and today I have the chance to go on a local hike with my cycling group. I have nothing else planned for the morning, but I am hesitating. We have a big storm coming Friday night, which means x country skiing this weekend and then on the 14th, I am going to VT. for 4 days.
I could go to the gym, but that would actually be more intense than the hike. Or, I could rest another day.
I vote for resting -- sounds like your body is fighting a low-grade infection. Or, if you're feeling up to it, you might want to do a light-moderate workout. Good info on exercise intensity and the immune system:Quote:
Originally Posted by Crankin
http://www.empoweredathlete.com/arti...ll=true&art=67
Feel better soon!
I did exactly that. While I had a short burst of energy, I started feeling crappy again, and I had stuff I wanted to do. So I made my lamb meatballs, went to the store, and then took a short walk in the woods, up the steep climb. I probably walked 1.5 miles at the most, but it made me feel a lot better. I was good for my clients. Now, the aching is totally gone, and mostly I feel like I might lose my voice, a lot of throat clearing. My stomach's weird, a little, but I think the zinc tablets may have done this.
Debating whether to go to boot camp, and i have a feeling it will be a no.
Hang in there Crankin, rest sounds like a good idea right now.
I will be skipping my special "Fight for Air Climb" training session tonight, my neck and shoulder is complaining more than I like this morning. I will, however, be hitting 12-15 floors of steps at some point today. Working my way up ;)
Woke up a little worse today, but the sore throat is gone, even though I still feel like I'm going to lose my voice. I keep drinking tons of water, which is keeping that from happening, but it's a problem in my line of work, where I can't just get up and pee when I'm with a client! My stomach is definitely off, but this always happens when I have any respiratory thing. Taking Claritin and using nasal rinse and will asses at the end of the day if I am going to head to the Minute Clinic. One of the moms I work with has strep throat, so it's a possibility, even though I don't have any burning sore throat and all of that. I can cut my last person short and go there before I go home, maybe just to give me peace of mind before the blizzard sets in tomorrow. I will be resting until Sunday, when I have a date with the ski trails at Windblown up in NH.
Ugh. Hope you feel better soon and the blizzard isn't too bad!
Yikes Crankin, I just put your location together with the blizzard warnings I've been hearing about! Hope it isn't as bad as forecast, or it is at least moderated in your area! Hope you feel better soon.
My favorite "I feel like crud and I might be coming down with something" tea is Celestial Seasonings Sleepytime Echinacea Complete Care. I don't know if it helps anything, but it sure makes an itchy/scratchy throat feel better.
http://www.celestialseasonings.com/p...-complete-care
Free time and flexibility are the way to go.
For that 'maybe I'm sick' feeling I'll spike my Sleepytime tea with Jaegermeister.
:D Can't do the Jaeger -- but perhaps a bit of brandy for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by malkin
Right now the thought of liquor isn't thrilling me. I feel like crap. Heading off to the Minute Clinic in about 45 minutes, as the snow hasn't started yet.
I hope they can give you something that will knock it out quickly!Quote:
Originally Posted by Crankin
Sitting waiting for my appt. The clinic 3 miles from my house *still* isn't taking BC/BS as it's a new location and they are still waiting for approval. So I'm in Maynard, where there are 2 people ahead of me. I have nothing to do, but wait.
Still no snow, but it's close.
I thought BC/BS was like the gold standard with the highest reimbursement.
Feel better soon. I hope you got good care.
Hope you feel better very soon, Crankin. Maybe with the snow coming you can take a few days off work, rest up, and watch the beauty out your windows?
OK, well, that was a waste. We waited 1.5 hrs., not sure why, there were only 2 people ahead. DH wanted to be checked out, as he has been sick for 2 weeks, though not as bad right now. We got in and saw why. The NP took a whole history about medications and chronic disease... we have both been here before, oy. She gave me the quick strep test, didn't show anything, but she did send it off to be checked more thoroughly. Basically she told me to do what I'm already doing, despite my plea for developing sinus trouble and kind of flinching when she tapped my sinus area. So then, she seemed to be charmed by DH, and said since he had been sick for so long, he was getting a prescription for an antibiotic! Mind you, he has no sinus symptoms, but his throat was hurting and we were both worried about strep. He also got a scrip for Flonase, that he gave to me. That took, like an hour. We usually go to a locally owned pharmacy, but since we were in CVS, DH felt we should just get the drugs there... I said no, by the time we drive over our normal pharmacy, they would be ready. He didn't see the point, so we waited. And waited. Another hour and a few minutes! Everyone and their relatives must have decided they needed to get their prescriptions at the beginning of the snowstorm. I did buy some Mucinex, as I have never tried that before. It was about 1:15 when we got home. It seems to be working.
I probably should have gone to my PCP, but this is usually faster. Well, I'm at home, going to rest, do a little paperwork, etc. Also am going to make the pork carnitas later on. Tomorrow, the storm won't be over until later in the day, so I might help out with the snow removal, but otherwise, it will be rest until Sunday, when we are going skiing and I WILL feel better.
I think BC/BS of MA is the issue. Instead of giving the minute Clinics a blanket corporate approval, each separate clinic has to wait for approval. Based on what I know about getting on one of their panels for mental health reimbursement, it takes an act of God. They suck, big time for providers, although as consumers, we have "Cadillac" coverage.
I hope you are feeling better soon! The carnitas, by the way, are just plain awesome. I never dreamed that the flavor of pork cooked in lemon/lime juice would be so...yummy, tender and moist!
Well, today is the first day I woke up without a sore throat, but I still have that "losing my voice" feeling, with a "full" head. The Mucinex seems to really help, so I will continue using this. I am freaked out it will go into my chest, but so far, so good.
The snow is so high outside, that it blew over and buried the exhaust from our heating system. Since our temperature goes down at night, this shut the system off (a good thing, so we don't get CO2 poisoning) and it was cold when I got up. DH went out and shoveled it out, and it is now nice and warm.
I just heard the mandatory driving ban might extend to tomorrow. Noooooooo, I am going skiing! DH just subtly joked that we can say I'm a healthcare worker and I have to go provide emergency psychotherapy, with nordic skis on the car, in case we have to ski in to the patient's house.
The driving ban ends today at 4 pm. Hope you're feeling better, and got all dug out. That was a lot of snow! Woohoo.
SheFly
Thanks, SheFly. Parts of me are better and other parts, no. I am still not dressed as I write this. Yes, we're all dug out, took DH 3 hours with the snowblower, and that's just for the area in front of our house. The driveway up to our house gets plowed. I certainly don't feel like I should be skiing tomorrow, but there has been a gradual improvement each day. Yes, the driving ban has ended, but I am not going anywhere tonight! We are headed to Northfield Mt. at 9 AM.
Still sick, and now I have a fever of 100. Obviously, I did not go skiing. I am not coughing much anymore and my sore throat is gone. Just aching and my head is full, my stomach is weird. I always get freaked out about pneumonia, although I don't have any chest pain. Definitely not the flu; I had a shot 5 weeks ago and this has come on very slowly, nothing like when I had the flu in 1993, which is about the sickest I've ever been, including a 104 degree fever.
It looks like I will be going to my PCP tomorrow and possibly canceling all of my clients. We are leaving Thursday for VT, and it is a non-refundable reservation.
Ugh. Hope you feel better in time for your trip.
OK, after a horrible day yesterday, including a fever of 100 (I never run a fever and my normal temperature is below normal), I think I may be on the upswing. Maybe. My head is still full, but I feel somewhat different, can't quite put my finger on it. Cancelled all my clients, but I am not missing my haircut appt. (priorities)! I am debating on going to the doctor, as I definitely don't have anything in my chest and I doubt I need an antibiotic, which would put me into weeks of stomach hell.
Will keep you posted.
Sorry, Crankin! Hope you start feeling better day by day -- I'm betting you'll be fine (or close to it) by Thursday. Once your fever has broken, the worst is over, in my experience.
Feel better, Crankin. I, too, get stomach and bowel issues with most antibiotics. Now I take a priobotic during and after the course of antibiotics. That seems to help.
On an unrelated note: Whoever created the at-home jewelry/makeup/clothing/purse Pampered Chef-type parties should be voted off the island. I just got invited to a clothing party. The hostess is a perfectly lovely person and I don't want to offend her, but there's no way in hell I'm going to such a thing. The only way I like to shop for clothes is online.
Indy, your comment about the home parties made me chuckle as I sit waiting at the doctor's office. I remember many years ago when I was at a Tupperware party and I offended the salesperson. She was going on about how selling that stuff could make you "rich." I think I said something like "I might not be rich, but I have a professional job and a master's degree, and I'm not selling Tupperware."
ETA: got my prescription for Zithromax. Ear is infected and probably sinuses, too. He said it was probably secondary to a viral thing, but given my "contact with people with poor health habits," he's not messing around.
I love Z-packs. They knock out my sinus infections in short order. I hope you feel better soon!