My husband and I met when I was 19 and he had just turned 30. We both knew pretty quickly that what we had together was something more than just dating, but we were both hesitant to make any kind of committment, he because he was recently divorced and I because, well, I was 19 and self aware enough to realize I was WAY too young to be thinking about a long-term relationship. I've now spent more than half of my life with him.
I'm not sure how to describe our personalities. We are very, very, very different in many ways, but very similar in probably an equal number of ways. Does that make us complimentary? Similar values and often similar interests, but different personalities. I think that's the best way to describe it. We both like intellectual pursuits, but he goes with philosophy and techy stuff while I like history and art. We both need to work with our hands to stay sane, but he builds things and I grow things. We both love to argue about politics and will often take a side in the argument not because we agree with it but because it's fun to argue the point. Our sense of humor is nearly identical.
But he's far more laid back than I am, much less of a worrier, can't keep track of dates and times for anything, and doesn't mind living surrounded by chaos. He is inclined to service more than I am--he goes out of his way to help people and has a soft heart. I am a planner and like to know what is happening when. I don't like surprises. I am mentally completely on top of things and am better with "real world" stuff like paying bills and moving ahead professionally. He's the sort of person you want at your party. I'm the sort of person you want managing your party. I'm inclined more to committment and responsibility--if I say I'm going to do something I will always follow through and will not let other distractions get in my way.
Sarah
