Frustrated!!

My mom's hands shake some, but it's because she's an alcoholic. So, you know, there are lots of reasons it can happen, so I wouldn't pry, either. What I do when I encounter a situation like that is ask, "Can I help with that?" whatever the task may be. Like I offer to open doors for people in wheelchairs (or moms with strollers), and I offer to help little old ladies who can't reach the top shelf in the grocery store (I usually volunteer my husband or my son for that one cuz I'm short, too). I don't just DO it without asking, though. Otherwise, it's none of my business why my friend/coworker/stranger has an obvious tremor/wheelchair/shortness. :)

If they want to tell me, as a result of my offering, then I might then be willing to listen. Of course, if I had a good friend with an obvious tremor, I'd be really concerned about her health and have to ask about it. It'd be my duty as her friend.

Karen

Yup my dad's mom shakes because she used to drink a handle of Jim Beam every couple days. She adopted my dad so it isn't the missing link to my tremor. Just a sad old lady with alzheimers and addiction. :(

Emily- My mom works with someone like your co-worker. Now she wonders but doesn't ask him either. It is the fine line of being concerned or just making them feel so small because you noticed. I would prefer 9/10 times that no one says a word.

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Originally Posted by Aggie_Ama

Emily- My mom works with someone like your co-worker. Now she wonders but doesn't ask him either. It is the fine line of being concerned or just making them feel so small because you noticed. I would prefer 9/10 times that no one says a word.

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Yeah, that's my thought and why I haven't said anything. But the fact that he's mentioned his tremor several times almost makes me wonder if he *wants* me to ask -- like he wants to talk about it.

I know he drinks, but hopefully not to the extent that it would cause tremors like he has. He's a good worker, been married for years, and very dependable, not the type you'd imagine to be a serious alcoholic, but I'm sure in some cases you just never know what's going on at home....so I'll keep my mouth shut.

Oh, hun... that totally sux about waiting so long for the doc. I understand the frustration. Been there too. "Umm, hello! my life is feeling like I"m falling apart here, could you work me in, PLEASE"... yea, bleah. I've tried to be on the cancel list before and kept calling to check in. Once in a while it works. Usually everyone is fighting to get in. I'm sorry some of the things at home are not so supportive. THAT I can relate to very well. It hurts big time. (((hugs))) Miranda

Miranda- Thanks for the suggestion on the cancel list, my neuro does indeed do this. I called and placed my name on it, don't expect to get in sooner but any hope helps. This is the road I was on last time, started to get worse and I got very upset waiting to see the neuro.