O, ack, the misconceptions.
Carbon fiber can be made to be just as strong if not stronger than steel/aluminum/or whatever other material. Steel and aluminum can be made to be weak little "beer cans" as well.
It is all in the engineering and the priorities of the frame makers.
A popular boutique mtn. bike brand has been making full carbon 5 inch All mountain bikes designed to drop, catch moderate air, crash, etc. for years. I have YET to hear of one failing under ANY circumstances, and don't suspect I will any time soon either (and people are pushing these bikes beyond their design specifications, and have been for years).
If I can not bunny hop, pop on or off a curb, or preform a similar maneuver in an emergency I don't want the bike, frame, wheelset, component, whatever, PERIOD. I sure as heck wouldn't buy a roadbike that I couldn't hit a pothole on!!!!!!
That's not to say I do so regularly (intentionally) on my roadbikes, but I have done it. The carbon wonderbike has been on gravel, popped off a curb, and even popped onto a curb to get the heck out of dodge (avoiding a collision in progress). I expected it to take it flawlessly and it did. (Of course I realize you can land wrong and bend a rim, etc. especially if you aren't smart/careful about selecting your equipment, but the stuff isn't as fragile (carbon, aluminum, all of it) as it's made out to be IF it's designed properly.)
My mountain bike has a carbon rear triangle (if they made the full carbon bike in my size I'd have that). It's been crashed, laid down on rocks, the works. I do not even begin to worry about it failing on me within a reasonable lifespan (and no, I don't define reasonable as 2 or 3 years...). If I did, I'd have never purchased the bike. The company is well regarded, has a good track record, and cares about performance and reliability. The swingarm would NOT be carbon if they could do it better and safer with aluminum.
Try this with Aluminum or Steel...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDVpRSNtcPQ

