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How strange, crankin. I sure hope you and your new boss will be able to get over this little bump in the road and have a good working relationship. It's so unprofessional not to return emails or phone calls! And she definitely sounds judgmental. Wishing you the best in the new position and hoping this little snag isn't a sign of things to come!
You know, I think people in this field (apart from those with their own practices) do not have a clue how the business world works. I always see workshops for therapists, supposedly I am sure my age, who are "afraid" of new ways. I think this is more her personality, but the doc said this is how all these places are, and I should not listen to my DH on this. And he's an older guy, who works at a few places. Well, I guess I just got the first job I've had, with no written letter of the offer. Come to think of it, I don't think I had one for my present job. In many ways, public schools are even light years above this. Yet, everything she told me about the way they operate, the feel of the place, and the way the place is set up made me feel that I will be a good fit. You are right, she is judgmental. I am just so thankful I had prior knowledge of this from the doc. The thing is, I probably have some of the same feelings about the women who have been issues for her, but I have learned not to be judgmental about it. That group was judgmental toward me when I was a working mom of young kids, and I just lived my life, knowing I was doing what was right for me. And, there's the cultural/religious issue, too. Sometimes there's this "one-upmanship" between Jewish women, so I am just going to have to be so nice, it will kill her! It reminds me of the time I took my son to some event at our temple. After the service, a woman came up to me when she noticed me talking to one of her friends, who was not a member. I happened to have worked with the person I was talking to. The woman (mom of one of my son's classmates) said, "Oh, I didn't think you worked. You always look so nice." Like, all I did was lie around, get my nails done, and eat bon bons!
Crankin, good luck with the new job! I hope you are able to develop a good working relationship with the new boss and this job provides the opportunities you are looking for!
Hope all goes well, Crankin. Having a written job offer and indication that you accepted is always helpful.
Hard to know what that woman was thinking. Maybe she has some personal stuff going on & (although it's unprofessional) you took some of her heat. Or maybe you remind her of somebody and she's wary. I suspect that once she gets to know you, this stuff will be a thing of the past.
Bumping up again.
So, there definitely was a miscommunication, misinformation on her part, and her not doing something correctly on the computer. I can tell she is too busy and she made some mistakes with dates and procedures, but when she had to communicate with me, to get me signed up for the orientation, she did. We spoke about what happened, in a general way, and said we both did not want to start off on the wrong foot. I have her cell # now, so I can contact her in a way that she will answer.
My last day was yesterday. It was a little sad, but definitely not as sad as my last day of teaching, which was kind of numbing. In fact, that's what started me on a year of health issues. I guess I am one of those people who has to work! Just not too much :). It was really hard to say goodbye to the clients who are not coming with me. They all made me feel validated and that I am doing a good job. While I am looking forward to people seeing me at my office and the end of 300+ miles a week in my car, when you go to people's homes, you get to know them in a way that would not be possible in an office setting.
I am going to orientation at the corporate office on Monday, then over to the clinic late in the day, to get my 3 clients following me into the system. I will probably see them the following Mon./Tues, before I go to Vermont. Other than that, I plan on doing a bunch of fun things for myself next week.
Glad that you were able to work things out. Have fun in Vermont & stay warm!
Glad your relationship with your boss is looking better. Enjoy your time off!