Lost a mechanic (long post)

How creepy! And scary. An infuriating. I wouldn't want to go back there, either. His boss needs to know, though. Your instincts were definitely right about this guy - good job keeping yourself safe.

I don't know what the "right" response is, or whether the BF should be with you. Moral support is a wonderful thing, though. Maybe he could go with you, but wait in the car while you talk to the manager? He doesn't have to be involved - just there to give you "attagirls" when it's over. Personally, I don't deal well with confrontation, and would be wanting it all to go away. But would that help you? Or his next target? Or his employer? Talking to the manager doesn't require confrontation, anyway.

Innocent puppy, or sinister stalker - either way he needs a severe reprimand - don't feel sorry for him. His poor family, yes.

No does mean no - whatever your tone of voice.

Tahoe - wow! How horrible!

THD, did they make you a good deal on the jeep? They should have.

Thank you for all the advice. I am going by the store tomorrow to speak with the manager. I know the mechanic will be at Interbike so I am happy I don't have to run into him when I go into the store.

And yes...I need to start learning to take care of my own bike! I am just so afraid i'll end up breaking something :(

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Originally Posted by withm

Actually it was way more than an "invasion of personal space." If the guy so much as touched her it could easily be construed as "offensive touching" if not downright assault. You have to follow up on this one.

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Agree wholeheartedly. You said no and he ignored you. There's something wrong w/this man.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Don't blame yourself. Do what makes you feel comfortable (boyfriend coming w/you or not---that's your decision and I'm confident that we all support you whatever you decide). I think it takes much courage to report this jerk. I've been there, as have many of us, I suspect. I figure that if he did it to you, he probably will do/has done it to someone else.

Sending lots of good karma your way.

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Originally Posted by Irulan

THD, did they make you a good deal on the jeep? They should have.

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You know Irulan, the universe works her mysterious magic.

I just wanted out of that place as soon as possible. I was so turned off by it I just cooled my heels and did my searching online for the perfect jeep.

I was going to go back but found out...a month after all of this, they had..CLOSED! So that to me was a big sign.

I bought it in RI and got a killer deal. Now if I could just get the stupid nav and radio to work right. I'm on my third system!

Sorry to hijack, thinking of ya Fuji!

Fujichants-Good luck today. Let us know how the conversation with the manager goes.
Sending "be strong" thoughts your way.

Kali and Niki, my german shepherds, send their spirit of protection so that you'll have all the courage you need. :)

That's what you should take with you to see the manager- a German Shepherd! Now there's some back-up! :D

Seriously though, good luck and be strong. I know that you'll do fine!

http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y18...liandscarf.jpg

Kali has your back. ;)

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Originally Posted by sundial

Kali has your back. ;)

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*squeals* Puppy!

Oh, what a beautiful dog! Thanks for the support everybody! I will update to let you know how it goes.

Nothing like a dog in uniform...

So...I called the store today to see if the manager is in and if I can schedule a time to come meet with him.

And that stupid mechanic picks up.

I don't want to see him or run into him. Or talk to him.

What do I do?

Drat! I wonder if the store has caller i.d. and he figured it was you calling?

Call from your BF's cell or a pay phone and ask to speak with the manager. Then tell him if it's possible you'd like to meet with him at the shop after closing--when the mechanic is not there. Tell him there as an incident with the mechanic.

wait till he goes to Interbike. Find out the diff between his schedule and the manager's. I completely understand how you feel. I have been in a similar position.

Can you get a friend to phone so he doesn't recognize your voice, and ask to speak with the manager. Then just tell him you'd like to make an appt. to talk with him when the mechanic will not be in, as it concerns an incident you had with the mechanic that makes you uncomfortable to see him again.

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Originally Posted by Fujichants

So...I called the store today to see if the manager is in and if I can schedule a time to come meet with him.

And that stupid mechanic picks up.

I don't want to see him or run into him. Or talk to him.

What do I do?

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Calmly and professionally ask to speak to the manager. When you make your appointment, make it for an off-site location nearby. A coffee house, deli, whatever. It may have to be at a slightly inconvenient time (e.g. before or after the manager's shift), but it will be worth it. EDIT: Absolutely tell him/her over the phone that you have had a disturbing incident with a member of his/her staff, and that you are not comfortable visiting the shop.

IMHO, of course.

Best wishes to you... hope it goes well.

Um... I'm just a science geek, but isn't what he did completely illegal? If you don't want to go to the manager, go to the police and file an official complaint. You shouldn't have to face your 'attacker' again if you don't want to. Aren't there some legal types around here? I keep hearing in your posts that you don't want to see or hear him or interact with him in any way. You don't owe it to the store or him to go to his manager first. He was out of line. Anyone with half a brain knows what he did is not acceptable (he knows it too). Just pick up the phone and call the local police/sheriff. I bet they would send someone to your home to chat with you if you like. I dunno what I would do in that situation, but I know that if I didn't want to see him again, I wouldn't!

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Originally Posted by Triskeliongirl

Can you get a friend to phone so he doesn't recognize your voice, and ask to speak with the manager. Then just tell him you'd like to make an appt. to talk with him when the mechanic will not be in, as it concerns an incident you had with the mechanic that makes you uncomfortable to see him again.

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Why the secrecy?

Just say, " oh, Joe isn't in? When will he be in?" and then call back later. Then call back when the manager IS in, and talk him etc.

I had my friend call and the guy picked up again. She asked for the manager and he was very rude, telling her that he was the manager on duty. When she asked for the owner, he said there is no owner, just 4 managers, and he named them. The guys he named are all sales people and I think they are incompetent and all friends with him.

Gah!

OK, time to call the cops and file a report.
Call the Better Business Bureau.
Call the Chamber of Commerce, I'm sure they would know who the registered owner of the store is.

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Originally Posted by Irulan

OK, time to call the cops and file a report.

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I agree with Irulan. I know this is turning into a big ordeal, but you're doing the right thing. Good luck, and hang in there!

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Originally Posted by lph

um... I would hate to sound like I'm somehow supporting harassment or something, but to me he just sounds like a besotted idiot with bad impulse control, not some creepy jerk who does this to women all the time. I feel sorry for the guy. And of course - double sorry for fujichants who has to deal with it all.

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Except he's not the type to take No for an answer. She told him to give her the bike and he took it anyway. She stayed away from him while loaded it in the car. She tried to get away, said no when he asked for a hug and then hugged and KISSED her anyway.

What would he have done if she had not resisted SO MUCH?

He gave up his right to be besotted with other women when he got married.

A simple NO should be enough.

Karen

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Originally Posted by Irulan

OK, time to call the cops and file a report.
Call the Better Business Bureau.
Call the Chamber of Commerce, I'm sure they would know who the registered owner of the store is.

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Don't forget online tax records, if your area has them. Or online corporation searches or business licenses. Or online property records- I'll bet the shop landlord knows where his rent check comes from. There are lots of ways to use public records to get the owner's info.

And yes, file a complaint with the police. This has gone on long enough.

Don't let him give you the run around. Perhaps you can find out through the town tax office who the business owner is.

I wouldn't bother with research. Cawl the coppers.

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Originally Posted by Fujichants

I had my friend call and the guy picked up again. She asked for the manager and he was very rude, telling her that he was the manager on duty. When she asked for the owner, he said there is no owner, just 4 managers, and he named them. The guys he named are all sales people and I think they are incompetent and all friends with him.

Gah!

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this gets creepier and creepier. Is there another LBS nearby? maybe ask them who is the owner? And it wouldn't hurt to call the police, Tell them up front, it's not an emergency. They usually have people trained very well to handle cases like this one.

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Originally Posted by Becky

Don't forget online tax records, if your area has them. Or online corporation searches or business licenses. Or online property records- I'll bet the shop landlord knows where his rent check comes from. There are lots of ways to use public records to get the owner's info.

And yes, file a complaint with the police. This has gone on long enough.

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Or Dun and Bradsteet

Remember, YOU did nothing wrong. Be strong, ask for the manager, and set up the appointment.

How can no one own the place? This guy's behavior reeks. File a complaint and take your business elsewhere. Isn't worth it but it should be out there this place has creeps. Do you Yelp? BBB reviews, bike reviews, anything? And I would put in a general harrassment complaint to the police (I did this one when I was extensively harrassed via AOL IM by someone I knew) in case this yahoo tries anymore nonsense. It is on record you have had a problem with unwanted advances from him.

That blows. I agree with the other posters. Call the cops and file a report. Does the store have other locations? If so, call one of those and ask who the manager is for that store. The cops will not be amused by the 4 "managers."

I bet the bike companies know who the manager is....As does the secretary of state....

CA

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How can no one own the place? This guy's behavior reeks. File a complaint and take your business elsewhere. Isn't worth it but it should be out there this place has creeps. Do you Yelp? BBB reviews, bike reviews, anything? And I would put in a general harrassment complaint to the police (I did this one when I was extensively harrassed via AOL IM by someone I knew) in case this yahoo tries anymore nonsense. It is on record you have had a problem with unwanted advances from him.

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Do you YELP means go to Yelp.com and file a review!!

Fujichants PM'd me the name/location of the store. Since it is a chain, I took the liberty of forwarding this entire thread link to the company's corporate headquarters.

They were very quick to respond (and very apologetic) and have promised to start an investigation. I have forwarded Fujichants all of the contact information. Hopefully this issue will be resolved to her satisfaction and such things will never happen to her or anyone else again.

Peace.

Good! I hope it turns out well for Fuji. What a bad business! It's sad when an innocent woman had to be victimized by one's inappropriate behavior. :mad:

Bluetree-

Thanks for helping with this - they could have some major liability on their hands if they didn't take it seriously.

CA

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Originally Posted by Bluetree

Fujichants PM'd me the name/location of the store. Since it is a chain, I took the liberty of forwarding this entire thread link to the company's corporate headquarters.

They were very quick to respond (and very apologetic) and have promised to start an investigation. I have forwarded Fujichants all of the contact information. Hopefully this issue will be resolved to her satisfaction and such things will never happen to her or anyone else again.

Peace.

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Excellent.

Thank you so much for helping me with this Bluetree. I really, really appreciate it.

I called Sam the minute I got your PM, but he was already out of the office. I am expecting his call tomorrow.

I want to thank all you ladies for the amazing support and advice you have given me. I was so embarrassed and upset about it that I had kept it to myself at first, but then decided to post about it because I knew everybody would understand.

I only told my BF today about it. I was afraid he would get really mad and go to the shop and punch the living daylights out of that guy. Which would have been nice, but wouldn't have solved anything.

I am relieved this will be over soon!

Please keep us posted on the latest. There is strength in numbers. :)

What was your boyfriend's reaction?

Karen