in situations like this I do to and throw in a few words.
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I'm reminded of a time when I was out alone on my road bike, wearing my cycling gear, and I passed someone going the other direction. He was in dirty street clothes riding a battered standard. I waved and nodded as I went by. But he'd already made up his mind that I wasn't going to, to the extent that he didn't even look for my wave before he sarcastically sneered Good Morning at my back. Now, who was the snob there?
Ride your own bike. Wave if you want. Don't wave if you don't want to. Life's too short to spend it judging other people.
Some wave, some don't. I rarely see people on the trail out here so when I do, I greet them. When riding on the rural roads I wave at the trucks to acknowledge their presence and so they know I'm mostly harmless. Most of the guys in the trucks wave first so I always make sure to wave back. Sometimes it's so easy to get focused on your riding you totally miss your surroundings.
I rarely wave to other cyclists, but I'm usually in Manhattan and there are a lot of cyclists.
Are cyclists snobs in general? I don't think so -- because cyclists often offer help if I'm stopped and look like there's even a slight chance I might need something. To me, that is far more important than waving.
I did experience something like snobbery when I took my Xootr on a rail trail in the suburbs -- a few cyclists were literally snickering at me. I gave them a big smile.
Back when I attempted the Death Ride, I started out around 4 am. So I guess you can lump me in with those Yahoo wanna-be's who jumped the gun and started before the official start time hoping I could finish the ride before I got swept off the course. And yes, it was pretty damn demoralizing, thank you very much. :rolleyes:
Ya know… I'm actually a bit bothered by the idea that people who are simply not socially outgoing are being instantly labeled snobby….some of us are introverts, it's nothing to do with you personally, we just don't necessarily interact with strangers all that readily…..
Well it certainly is a pity if not being greeted is taken to mean that the other person feels superior. It could be the other way around - the other person could be struggling with his or her bike, or tired, or lost, or just deep in thought - I spend lots of my commute mulling stuff over. Or just concentrating. I probably look quite fierce when I'm working hard and deep inside my own head, and not expecting to meet anyone I know. I'd probably get around to greeting somebody back 500 metres after they'd passed...
Or that everyone is always able to smile and be engaging all the time. I am a super extroverted and generally friendly person but while I was studying for my PhD comprehensives, I took my daily walk to Starbucks from my office because I desperately needed a break and was deep in thought as I was walking. A guy came up to me and actually TOLD me to smile. When I ignored him, he screamed "stuck up b*tch!" at me and ran off. That's an extreme example but it still makes you think. I also know a guy who is one of the nicest, friendliest people you could meet but everyone who doesn't really "know" him thinks he's mean because his face is just a little severe.
This is one of those things where I try to think about OTHER reasons people could be preoccupied.
Sheesh. Sounds like the guy you encountered on the street is the one with a problem. I agree that people shouldn't assume somebody is snobby just because they don't greet everyone as they ride/run/walk/whatever...lots of more likely reasons as others have already stated, and it's awfully unfair to judge people by one little passing thing like that.
That smile thing is just garden variety street harassment. It's one of the things that gets a lot of play in the Hollaback movement. That you don't hear it every day, any more, is a testament to how well the anti-street-harassment efforts have been working.
Well I certainly didn't mean to offend anyone. I guess it was just a combination of my own insecurities and newbie enthusiasm. :)