comparing ourselves to others
Ride your ride! that is what i always say. i am not sure what it is about our human nature that we need to compare ourselves to everyone else. fitness is relative. i am not fast compared to some of my female friends, but cripes i am in the bEST SHAPe i have ever been. the most important thing is to enjoy what you are doing. never mind everyone else. if you can't keep up with someone, who cares? of course, keep trying to improve, but don't ride for the sole purpose of trying to beat someone else's time. ride to improve your own.
a friend of mine was racing solo at a 24 hour event and he so wanted to beat another friend. but this other friend had more experience, and he kist kept following and focusing on what this other guy was doing. he ended up breaking his bike and not being able to finish his race, because he was basically not racing his own race.
my two cents (as always)
Cheery happy!
Han