Isn't a newt a lizard? Shouldn't a girl be suspicious of a guy everyone calls Newt to begin with? (:D :D )Quote:
Originally Posted by KnottedYet
Karen in Boise
Printable View
Isn't a newt a lizard? Shouldn't a girl be suspicious of a guy everyone calls Newt to begin with? (:D :D )Quote:
Originally Posted by KnottedYet
Karen in Boise
Makbike, don't have much advice to give you, havent been there to share any advice but have had friends that have. Cry all you want, get rid of those feelings and frustrations. Cycling is good therapy. Don't give up. As far as the PMS, have another chocolate frosted brownie with walnuts, on me of course:D . Helps me everytime. Best of luck on your road to recovery.
Ah, MB
I don't really have advice for you, just admiration. You've faced so much and you're doing so many positive things through it all. Way to go!! You're my hero!
Sending you peaceful blue and green butterflies that help you recognize what a wonderful person you are, and that let you understand that what you feel and where you are is exactly as it should be. Who knows what we learn from these bouts of being human? Hopefully somehow they make us better people.....hard to imagine you needing to be a better person, but you know what I mean. :)
Hugs,
~T~
I second that emotion.Quote:
Originally Posted by F8th637
Don't see why you should need to control your emotions given recent events. Treat yourself to a good cry. Let go ... and feel the relief when you realize that you will, after a bit, stop crying all on your own. If you find it hard to start, maybe a good sad movie on the dvd can help. Have comfort food handy. Then when the cry ends, take a good hot shower or bath so you feel even more refreshed. And be sure to have the next day off so you can do something fun to celebrate, like go for an exilerating ride, preferably with a good gang of friends. And I do mean celebrate. You may discover, after the cry, that you're quite happy to be alive, to have many much better friends than XBF turned out to be, to have hormones still doing their thing, and ... well, whatever makes you happy when not overshadowed by all that's landed on your lap lately.
What Duck said. You *know* the source of these emotions. It's not sanity you are lacking; these are normal, healthy responses to biological and emotional conditions. You don't need to try to do anythign social or anything you don't want to do... you do need to watch the cycles of your thoughts and have the right phone numbers if they go too far into the darkness.
Bicycles and chocolate and movies are good... This Too Shall Pass from darkness into light.
Ditto about getting a good massage from a therapist you can trust with your feelings, as well as with your body.Quote:
Originally Posted by indysteel
Thanks for all the support and kind words. The hormones seem to have quieted down for the time being - there still is a sense of "blueness" but nothing like it was earlier in the week. I have an appointment to see my counselor this afternoon and I'm looking forward to our session. She has great insight and is so positive. I'm taking myself shopping tomorrow. Time to purchase some clothes that fit before the school year begin in two weeks.
I rode hard last night - an attempt to work off some of the negative energy that had built up in my being. I was exhausted when I got back to the car but I could tell there had been a shift in my mood. I kept telling myself, "since you can't punch him, push his away with each stroke of the pedals." I guess it worked to some degree for I as climbing like there was no tomorrow yesterday evening.
Thanks again for all your support and ideas. It is very comforting to know I'm not alone at the moment.
Here's something I did when I was in the same situation as you, I scoured the internet (and amazon.com) for trails and rides I had never ridden before. I've even traveled to other states, (KOAs everywhere!) and have ridden in places I've never been. You can leave early Sat or Friday night and get home Sunday. Let the house collect dust, this is for YOU! It worked wonders for me! I recommend you stay away from club rides and other places where your ex is. At least for awhile. No contact, that's the only way to let time do it's work!
Ah yes. Forgot about that part. I was lucky enough that we were lowering our basement floor at the time. DH had brought in a big compressor drill and cut the cement into squares. I went down there with the sledgehammer and SMASHED those babies, imagining this and that person's head lying there -- Take that you anti-semitic boss *****! Take that you wimpy dean who can't stand up to her! The cement squares made the most satisfying whoomp sound when I smashed them. :D Then, when I ran out of cement floor, I got one of those inflatable clowns with a sandbag in the bottom. Too bad the inflatables of Munch's "Scream" had a flat bottom, so I had to go with a clown one that would roll with the punches. It's now "wilted" in one corner of the new basement bathroom. Maybe I should pack it up and send it to you?Quote:
Originally Posted by makbike
Hey MakBike, glad to hear it! Keep us posted!
You've had a lot of very good advice here and I would support everything that everyone has said. I do have a little bit of a different angle to reveal. I am trained in traditional chinese medicine (TCM) and PMS as well as cysts are related to problems that can be treated with herbs and acupuncture. It would be worth checking out. In addition to this, being under anaesthetic can misalign your "bodies" of energy - physical, spiritual, mental and emotional. These things can be addressed with a special type of AC treatment called a vital alignment but it's hard to find a practioner that does this. Yoga also helps with this as it realigns the chakras.
As for the exBF, the compassionate thing to say would be that he did what he had to at the time and like LBTC said, you are where you are right now because you need to be there and you will ultimately come out of this a more enlightened person. The other side of me wants to say, "Throw a wrench in his spokes at the next club ride."