I’m sure he has more good qualities than faults….love and forgiveness ftw :)Quote:
Originally Posted by azfiddle
Hoping he heals quickly from the nuances of gravity…….
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I’m sure he has more good qualities than faults….love and forgiveness ftw :)Quote:
Originally Posted by azfiddle
Hoping he heals quickly from the nuances of gravity…….
I read these two posts to him and we had a good laugh. Sure he has lots of good qualities, and he does some amazing things (like running his age every year) but sometimes he is very eccentric/idiosyncratic.
To think that even with good qualities, you might never get annoyed, or even upset with your partner is just unrealistic. If you are like AZ, you can laugh about it in the end, but this is just part of life.
I get annoyed with my DH, for what I perceive to be "stupid" things. We do things differently, despite our many similarities, so I mostly don't say anything, but occasionally, I am like AZ and say, "And what were you thinking???"After almost 38 years, so what? Guess I am not perfect, just truthful.
..:)..Quote:
Originally Posted by azfiddle
Yikes! Glad he is ok! I also totally understand why he waited - it's like my fall last year at work that I attempted to ignore...hoping he heals quickly from his fall!
Dear Prince
From my preteen years with my cousin Precilia and your Emancipation album to your ‘Rally 4 Peace’ concert in Baltimore last year you’ve been in my life a long time. From irritating my grandmother to the Baltimore rally with its symbolic message of our shared humanity as a catalyst for pause and reflection following Freddie Gray’s death…..I’ve enjoyed many moments with your musical spirit. I hope you get to meet Precilia……
au revoir mon amour
rebecca
Baltimore
http://youtu.be/cieZB0Ab7xk
Lovely, thanks Rebecca.
I feel in love with When Doves Cry playing in the background, bittersweet memories.
Dear universe,
Whatever you've been doing taking seminal artists away from us recently, put it on hold for a while, okay? Please?
(Dear Az - glad your DH is going to be okay. Understand that he was probably a little shock-y and not in a position to make completely rational decisions. Hope he doesn't have any joint strains/displacements.)
Thanks Oakleaf- it was mostly cuts and scrapes... the hand was kind of ugly- glad I didn't have to see it before he went to the doc. He still has bad wrist from his last running incident, in which he fell on both wrists on the sidewalk just by our house.... one has never healed completely and that was 3 years ago. :(
Dear person who damaged the electrical cable causing the neighborhood-wide power outage at work: Maybe the thousands of other people who had to leave their jobs early today are happy about it, but you royally screwed up my afternoon.
Dear person who drives really slowly in the left lane of the highway: There's a special level of hell just for you.
dear mother
Thank you for always being so open and supportive to me following my dreams, even when you didn't "quite" understand them:) Your ability to be open, curious, fun and enlightening inspires me everyday. I love you and am so grateful to be your daughter!
rebecca
Dear person who walked into my house and stole my iPad and my DH's:
You suck. Everyone in the neighborhood knows who you are, and one of these days you're going to get caught and sent back to prison, hopefully for a longer stint than before.
On the other hand, thanks for not taking anything else. This time. I wish there was a way to prevent a next time without turning myself into a paranoid lunatic. Because with you, there will be a next time. That's what really upsets me.
That sucks, Oak.
That's terrible, Oak. I am totally the non-paranoid type, but this would get to me!
Ugh- that stinks.
Oh my, that seriously sucks :mad:
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UGH. I'm so sorry.
I presume the police can't/won't do anything? That would definitely get to me. We actually have a security system as of the last year. We didn't want one, but we kind of thought our number might be up and decided to err on the side of caution. I don't like paying to protect my $hit, but I really do appreciate that the thing would wake me up if someone came in overnight (or when I'm sleeping weird hours thanks to the med student schedule).
So sorry, Oak. I don't know the circumstances, but that just doesn't sound right. If people know who did it, can't they be reported and questioned at least?
It's not like we "know" know. It's like, these people are a known problem, they've broken into other surrounding houses and gotten caught doing that, there are only a handful of people who even know our house is back here. We're half a mile from the road on a shared lane - we try to intercept any parcel deliveries and have them held at the depot, but when that doesn't happen, half the time the delivery drivers leave the parcel at one of the other houses on our lane because *they* don't even know our house is here. So there's a pretty limited pool of people who might have done it, and most of those I know well enough to be sure they didn't, but no evidence against anyone.
Security system wouldn't help anything for the same reason, but I'm thinking about a webcam that would at least capture images and let us know if someone's inside.
Our web cam helped us a lot during the sale of our house. But, the reason we got it was because we had a weird scam-like thing happen in 2008. We were in San Diego for Thanksgiving, when DH got an angry phone call from a woman berating him for stealing her credit card and using it to order things to be delivered to our house. It was surreal, when it happened; we were in Barnes and Nobles, purusing books with both of our sons. But, DH and the woman figured out that somehow her data and DH's had been compromised, and we were worried that a bunch of packages were going to be dropped off on our front door, which, as you know, isn't really visible to anyone. We called the Concord Police, and they either intercepted the scammers before anything got delivered, or the people got scared. But, it freaked us out, and as I said, I am not the paranoid type at all. It was also helpful when we were away and the weather, was bad, we could monitor the need for snow removal or if a package was delivered when we were not there.
Mind if I ask what system you used?
It is a Logitech, but it has been discontinued. There is much better technology out now.
[snaps fingers] Dangit, I guess I have to do my own homework then. ;)
Dear Bicyclists who seem to need to race during big events: You're why motorists hate bicycles, and I'm starting to hate you too.
During the Horsey 100 this weekend, I got an early start and got passed by several large groups of very fast moving cyclists. They never warned that they were passing, and they'd force us slower people to run over potholes, etc. since we had no room to avoid bad places in the pavement as large groups were passing. A few times they'd squeeze into me when other faster bikes were passing them and I ended up on grass once, and rubbed wheels another time but managed not to wreck. Seriously. It's 100 miles, you can wait to pass one at a time. It's not going to impact your time that badly. Luckily it got better later in the day as the riders thinned out.
Other times (and I realize this is the exact opposite problem), I'd be behind these groups that were riding two and three wide when cars would be trying to pass them for a few miles and they'd never cinch up.
Seriously riders, you have all day to finish. Use common sense and slow down when necessary or slow down to cinch up and allow cars to pass.
Thank goodness the local club who puts on this ride marks and advertises in advance so there weren't tons of cars, and the cars who were around seemed to be very patient with the riders.
aromig...those are some of the reason's i don't like large organized group rides too or any ride where those things happen...there have been a few good ones though, ragbrai the week long ride across iowa had most of the rural route closed to traffic which gave everyone room to ride how they wanted to and is an amazing adventure with up to 10000+ riders and last years death ride in the sierra nevada's cuz there was so much climbing that everyone was going slower :) and most of the roads were closed too so you could do switchbacking up the steepest parts if needed....if i do one now i'll go for a closed road one first :)
glad it eased up for you!!!!!...congrats on the century!!!!
This is why I don't do big rides or group rides, unless I know the riders well.
I choose the large rides I do, and I can usually take precautions to make it better. Our Wednesday night local ride sometimes attracts 50 or more riders, but half of them are racing up front so I just make sure I leave in the back of the pack and I'm fine. The same goes for RAIN. I line up in the back and while it still sucks for the first ten or fifteen miles, its better after that. Now I know the Horsey Hundred is also a leave late kind of ride :-) It was an absolutely beautiful ride so I'll likely do it again next year too.
Rebecca -- I have several friends that have done RABRAI. They say wonderful things about it, and it's on my bucket list even if I can only go for a day or two (I'm pretty sure they have single day registrations in addition to the lottery for the whole week).
Crankin - its funny. I used to be very afraid of traffic. Now I've determined that I might be more likely to wreck when riding with reckless riders (but hopefully the potential damage/injuries will at least be less).
Seriously, sometimes we bikers are our own worst enemies with respect to "public relations" with non-riders. Yesterday I saw a Jimmy John delivery person darting through traffic going the wrong way on a one way street!
Yes, I am now more afraid of other cyclists than cars, too. My last group ride, 2 weeks ago (that I wasn't leading) had a couple of egregious incidents. I should have gone with the faster group, as they have good manners. Thing is, though, I can barely hang on with them. The next couple of rides with this group are far to drive to, so I will give them a rest. I think some in the group I lead for think I am a Nazi when it comes to safety and cycling etiquette, but I feel a big responsibility when I lead.
Dear weather,
What is up with the wild temperature swing? Surely you not going through menopause. But what is the deal? One day, day time high is in the 50's then you decide to have a hot flash and next day the temp spikes into the 90's then back into the low 60's. Yesterday was nice comfortable 70F but this weekend, its going to top 100F then temp is going to drop into low '70s and possibly back into 60's next week. And the lows are just as bad. low 40's one night mid 60's another night... over 40degrees difference in day time high from one day to next is just too much!
Enough! Our layer hens have stopped laying eggs because of the wild temperature swing. It is also the reason why the lettuce leaves are turning bitter and tough while radishes are turning hot. heavy mulching, shade cloth and extra watering can only do so much!! cherries have burnt up without ripening. Strawberries are not doing much better either.
You are forcing us to grow indoors in a controlled environment using vertical hydroponic system and give up permaculture. I really do not want to give up permaculture principles.
GAHHH!!!
Dear Girls at Work,
It was really fun to see the pics of your outing last night that you posted. But it makes me wonder if none of you like me, since I wasn't asked nor included. To be fair, I did used to work every Friday through Sunday, and everyone at work knows I work weekends. But some of you who went now know I work every other Friday. I wish I knew what people didn't like about me. It makes me sad.
Hey, Vegan either ask about it and see if an extra person is ok for next outing. But be prepared for them not to answer openly.Quote:
Originally Posted by VeganBikeChick
Otherwise don't sweat it. I've worked for over 9 different employers over past 3 decades.....after all that I didn't keep any friends. It doesn't help because I've lived in 3 different provinces over the years. Some workplaces I never went out of my way to socialize after work. I personally find it easier for reducing workplace / personal conflicts.
I do have 1 friend where she and I work currently for same employer but thankfully she and I work in totally different depts. where our workpaths don't cross. I've wondered why she doesn't invite me to any local social functions with her local personal friends that she's pals for past few decades. They're around the same age as I or older. :confused:
And these other friends of hers, also have similar backgrounds like her and I: born in Canada, Chinese background and university educated, work hard in their careers, etc.
So I have resigned to the thought, I'm "special" to her. I don't what for...except she and I can talk about work stuff and know the personalities of certain employees, talk about cycling (because her paid job involves liveable/cycleable neighbourhoods). I dunno. Or maybe because I don't golf (like these other friends which she does golfing vacations, etc.)
So we all have different friends for different facets of ourselves. And for whatever reasons, it's perceived certain friends don't mix with others. I tried this once for a housewarming party. The vibe didn't work among 4 different close friends that I acquired from different points in my life. :cool: Oh well.
Unless I know a reason I’d assume the intentions weren’t negative. Perhaps they just didn’t think you’d want to go or a number of other innocent reasons. A comment to one of them that you feel close to like “looks like a fun time…wish I’d been invited” would be my response and I’d leave it at that.Quote:
Originally Posted by VeganBikeChick
Some people are just not sensitive in rejecting others and lack social grace…in that case I would find different people for friends. Being rejected is never fun but it can help to solidify our relationships with those who do care about us. Go for an enjoyable ride!!!...perhaps it would help to clear your mind of this...hoping you feel better
(((VBC))) Office politics are the worst. Sure it's possible they didn't mean anything by it, but that's no reason not to honor your hurt. Take good care. Hope you find someone there to connect with.
Or "Looks like a fun time...let me know the next time; I'd love to join you!" Because you don't want to make them feel guilty or piss them off, I wouldn't think. Keep it positive. :-) And if they don't let you know the next time, well, then you don't need "friends" like that.Quote:
Originally Posted by rebeccaC
of course :)Quote:
Originally Posted by emily_in_nc
I concur with Oak, that office politics are the worst. When I was teaching, I did socialize with colleagues outside of work, but in my last teaching job, I really pared that down. There is one person that I still see. And while I actually have more in common with the other therapists I work with now, it's strictly a professional relationship. A lot of them are cyclists, hikers, etc, so we have stuff to talk about at lunch. But, everyone has their own life and friends outside of work.
It feels awful to be rejected or feel left out, and from my vantage, if VBC said something, I am betting they would be surprised and confused, and perhaps angry. People generally are not used to open, honest communication. And women seem to have a herd mentality with this kind of stuff. I am not going to generalize, but I would say hold your head up high and find friends elsewhere.
Thanks ladies (hug). It apparently was a last minute thing and no harm meant. Guess I'm just feeling overly sensitive these days. Appreciate your kind words of advice.
So glad you found out what had happened! I am sensitive in the same way and know my fellow female coworkers do things regularly without inviting me. It used to really bother me but I decided to not allow it to do so. My interests outside work are quite different from theirs which is probably the reason. Occasionally they do something different and make a point to invite me so I don't think its really personal, at least not in that way. Used to really bother me though so I do understand.
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I too am really sensitive about these sorts of things and tend to feel left out if I am not invited to do something, even if I end up declining because I don't want to do it, and that happened with some frequency back when I was working since I am introverted and pick my social occasions very carefully.
I am glad it was no big deal after all, VBC, but I too would have felt bad at the time.
I was thinking about this topic this weekend, because I was arranging a birthday party for a family member who is a self-professed hermit... It was a bit of challenge, not least because she makes very little effort to keep in touch with people herself and has few friends. Long story, lots of denial going on. Anyway. I can be quite an introvert myself but I recognize my own need for social contact so I make an effort to socialize regularly even when I don't always feel like it. (Wow, sitting quietly at my kitchen table and suddenly the garden filled up with birds. I guess someone noticed the cat wasn't around :-))
My point was that I think everybody, no matter how social or introverted or extroverted, needs to belong to a group somehow. I think maybe the need to belong is stronger than the need for close friends. You can see close friends quite seldom, but on an everyday basis we need people who recognize us and hopefully like us, but simply having some kind of place in a group has value in itself.
Just a random thought.