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Originally Posted by Anelia

Can somebody tell me why my last 2 posts were deleted? They weren't offensive, or advertising or anything. One of it was a recipe in the Nutrition and Hydration forum, I put a lot of effort writing the recipe, taking and uploading pictures to describe the process. And the other one was about endurance racing in the Mountain biking forum. I'm confused :(

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From Jeff's post:

Due to a failed software upgrade initiated by our hosting provider, in combination with a hardware failure in the backup system, we had to restore the forums from backup and currently have only been able to restore posts as of 1:10AM on Friday, August 31st.

We are working on retrieving additional posts, and have blocked new posts during the interim so that they don't interfere with the restore process. You can read posts, but you cannot reply or create new threads.

Thank you for your patience and please accept my apologies for the lost posts from today. We are working to restore as much as we can, as quickly as possible.

- Jeff

Thanks, snapgarden!

Thanks, all. Yep, my dad. He's gone.

He was nonresponsive when I called (I'd spoken to him the day before) - my mom put the phone to his ear and I just told him I was sorry he'd had to suffer so badly and that I wished him peace.

Had a good conversation with my sister today. I'm crying more than I thought I would - she said the same thing, and we both agreed that it's not important that we don't know why, but just to go with it and not shut the feeling down.

((((Oak)))). I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you're letting yourself grieve, not just for the most immediate loss, but also for all the losses you've felt in the past in your relationship with your father. I hope you find peace.

(((((Oak))))). I'm sorry. It sounds like this is a tough transition. I hope you find clarity. I'm glad you have your sister to talk it through with.

(((Oak)))

Big hug Oak.

I am sorry, Oak. It's good not to question the tears. It's normal.

I'm so sorry, Oak. (((Hugs)))

My experience is that it's harder and more upsetting to grieve for a complicated or unresolved relationship than a close and warm one.

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Originally Posted by lph

I'm so sorry, Oak. (((Hugs)))

My experience is that it's harder and more upsetting to grieve for a complicated or unresolved relationship than a close and warm one.

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I was just about to say exactly this. My best friend had a very awful mother. When her mother died, she had to give up that last little vestige of a dream that her mother could be a loving parent. It is such painful stuff. I am sorry, Oak. I am glad you've forged your own good life.

My sympathies, Oak. I had a loving relationship with my father, but somewhat complicated (he and my mom's divorce and aftermath was messy and difficult, and I had issues with his second wife while I was growing up). Losing my dad was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. It takes time to find peace, but I wish you that in the coming months and years.

Oak, I'm so sorry. I hope you find peace. I'm glad you have your sister to talk to.

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I am so sorry Oak, many hugs and warm thoughts headed your way. I never knew my father, and I could not have a more complicated relationship with my mother. Loss is hard enough to deal with, but even more so when the relationship is...complicated.

(((Oakleaf)))

I'm sorry Oakleaf.

Well folks, we made it to London in one piece! But the dog, the baby and I have some serious jet lag going on ...