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I am truly sympathetic to anyone with weight issues. That includes thin people with a distorted body image or those who use calorie deprivation as a means to self-medicate. Trust me; it's no walk in the park either.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bethany1
I don't always motivate to ride when it's cold, but there are other things (hiking and running) that I enjoy and that don't seem quite as brutal when it's cold. I'd love to x-country ski if we had the snow for it in Indiana. Is there any other outside activity that you might enjoy in the winter?Quote:
Originally Posted by Owlie
Exactly. If weight were self-determined, then Karen Carpenter was fat the day she died.
You guys are all so thoughtful. Thank you.
I realize body image is all relative. I've got a friend who is tall, uberfit, gorgeous, and when we come off a 12-mile ride, she complains about her pooch to the other thin women in our group (which is all of the other three -- I'm the only fat one riding here). This leads them all to complain about their own bellies or thighs or whatever...I just stand there thinking, "Are you kidding?" But it's all relative.
It's okay to make jokes about fat people in our society. On one of my favorite TV shows, the beautiful female police detective got all bent out of shape because a carnie weight guesser said she weighed 145 pounds, and it became a running bit through the show. "He was right about every one else. Why would he say I weigh 145? Do I look like I weigh 145?" Turns out the guy was part of the bad guy ring and was just calling her fat - 145 is fat - to rattle her and derail her investigation, and it worked.
People feel free to lecture me on nutrition, too. Like my cart's not full of organic veggies and lean meats and whole grain whatever. They had success with such-and-such diet and I should try it, too.
I know they mean well, so I just smile and nod. It's all relative.
Roxy
A lot of weight has to do with DNA and hormones. I should know since I keep gaining weight during menopause.
I really hate conversations about people's physical appearance.
My SO has two friends who make derisive comments like that very often, and it's gotten to the point where I avoid them. Both are successful professional people; I can't think what they are getting out of such adolescent nonsense.
My point, Roxy, wasn't just that it's all relative. Rather, that body image and weight issues come in all shapes and sizes and that it's probably better in the long run not to judge or make assumptions. That skinny woman complaining about her thighs might go home and purge or she might skip meals to punish herself. You just don't know. Just like she may not understand everything about you just by looking at you.
Indy, check out Brooks Brothers for coats.
I found a beautiful camelhair coat there last year. Very classic cut and style, it's going to last me many years. It replaced a black wool coat that I bought in 1996. It might be worth a look for you, because I think they don't change their outerwear styles too much from year to year.
Brooks Bros. is not cheap. But we lucked out because we were there on Black Friday, to find DH a new suit. We were the only people in the store and boy were the salespeople glad to see us! I had been keeping my eyes out for a new coat and here was one my size (in a color and style that I've been dreaming about since I was a broke 20-something a million years ago), and my mom was with me and she wanted to buy it for me! She has a dismal record with remembering to send birthday and Christmas gifts (not that I care), so I let her.
Point taken, Indy. Thank you.
Dear Microsoft Xbox,
Since you have now invaded my house via my husband, it would be great if you could put out a mountain bike game with really cool trails so I could at least pretend to be good at something. If you don't, I'll be stuck with games like "Battlefield 3" or whatever it's called being played all day long.
My mom's lung surgery is tomorrow, so am headed home. I may, or may not, have internet access until I get home - AT&T doesn't have good service there so I may not be back online until next week...please send good thoughts, wishes, and prayers her way.
Keeping her in my thoughts. Don't forget to take care of yourself, too.
(((Catrin)))
Thinking of you and your mom. Safe travels!
Catrin your Mom is in my thoughts. You take care of yourself
Catrin,
Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Have a safe trip and let us know how your mom and you are doing when you're able.
Catrin, keeping a good thought for you and your mom.
Dear Self,
Enough of the pity party, recognize why you are feeling this way and get over it. Little conversations in your head do not equate to communication
Dear foot, Please, please heal ten more days of the boot cast is more than enough
Hope all goes well with your mother's surgery, Catrin.
Dear idiot who threw a knife at a commuter on our bike trail last night:
You suck. I hope the cops catch you. I hope they can match the knife (stuck in his helmet) with the rest of the set in your kitchen. I hope they charge you appropriately.
Dear idiot who has been exposing himself on the same bike trail:
You also suck. I really hope the cops catch you.
Dear self:
Don't ride that trail for a while.
Blueberry -
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I was thinking :eek: and :mad:Quote:
Originally Posted by maillotpois
We have similar issues on our trail. It really ticks me off that people have to turn something good into something scary. Grrrrr.
I'm hoping it's just because it was Halloween for the knife thing (not that that's an excuse at all, but people do stupid s--- all the time on Halloween). This trail is a major commuter route for cyclists, but goes through some rough-er neighborhoods (of course, the indecent exposure has been happening in the "better" areas....go figure).
We went through some of this a few years ago. It went away. I'm sad it's back.
I'm so sorry Blueberry! What a nasty couple of incidents to have to think about.
If there was any true karma in the world these two idiots would be there at the same time and go be nasty to each other instead of troubling the rest of us.
((Catrin))
That s*cks, Blueberry. I hope they're caught.
Shouldn't, but I can't help laughing at the possibilities of an encounter between a flasher and a knife-thrower...Quote:
Originally Posted by lph
good grief!
knife throwers and perverts! I too am sorry that humans are so beastly to each other.
My husband is still very sick. Apparently they cut a Chyle duct which means all his triglicerides are getting dumped into his chest cavity. it is fixed with diet and surgery. This really stinks. it is breaking my heart to see him so miserable and frail. His friends are benadryl and oxycodone
Mimi-Quote:
Originally Posted by Biciclista
I'm so sorry to hear this:( Continuing to send good and healing thoughts your way.
Don't forget to care for yourself too - it sounds like you have a marathon to run here - not a sprint.
Oh, Mimi. I'm so sorry to hear this. You guys have already been through so much. Is he already back in surgery?Quote:
Originally Posted by Biciclista
I'm redoubling my thoughts and prayers.
(((Mimi)))
(((((Mimi & Don)))))
I'm so sorry, Mimi! It sucks to see someone you love feeling low and fragile. He'll come through it and regain his energy, you know it. Hugs to both of you!
Catrin, I hope your mom's surgery is successful and that she has a quick recovery.
Mimi, Don is lucky to have you. Does he have any video from his own rides? Would showing him these videos help him feel better, remind him how strong he is? I hope he clears this hurdle and gets back on his bike soon.
Blueberry...where are you again? Sheesh. Do you ride by yourself? How many times has this pervert exposed himself? Any cops on bikes around there?
I just enjoyed a ride with MillieNZ around Lake Miramar - 14 miles. We're meeting again on Thursday to try and better our time. It's nice to have a riding buddy. My goal is to up my miles, better my speed, and drop another twenty pounds. The last time I was successful at losing weight, it was on this bike, around this lake, so here I go.
Roxy
Go YOU!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by channlluv
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Big hugs to Mimi and Rd. And to Catrin.
Wishing everyone who's hurting peace.
Prayers and blessings Catrin.
Well shoot, I'm sorry to hear this mimi. You and RD are in my thoughts.Quote:
Originally Posted by Biciclista
Catrin ~ Sending healing wishes to your mom.
Mimi ~ More healing wishes for Don. Can't believe they screwed something up in his surgery. Wait...yes, I can. :mad:
Blueberry ~ Did this happen on the American Tobacco Trail? How awful. Hope they catch the sickos.
Dear Self ~ Get over your silly blue mood. You have SO much to be thankful for and very little to complain about.
Mimi, sorry Don is having a rough time. He is very strong ( I know this from reading a lot of your previous posts from your rides) and will pull through this. Also please try to take care of yourself too!! Positive vibes for both you and Don.
Catrin , Sending healing wishes to your mom. Hope she gets better quickly
Blueberry, Hope you can find a nice area to ride without the jerks around.
I didn't even get to have my nice dinner with NbyNW because I have to stay at the hospital so much (and eat crappy food)
The good news is that i am home right now doing laundry and cooking that chicken.
and I (blush) learned how to pay the house payment.
once again, thanks for all your support.