very newbie here, my seat hurts help
ok I am new here and new to biking have not ridden in 15 years so i will introduce my situation and then hopefully some one can help with some advice
I come from a family that none of the women on my fathers side in the last 3 generations have lived past 50 years old, diabetes/heart attacks I am now 33 years old. I am 5 feet tall and 200 pounds and I smoke so something has got to give and I dont want it to be my life. So a couple of years ago i bought an old style schwinn that looked retro real cute no gears no hand brake. I am very short I got it home and from the seat I could not reach the ground standing up the seat hit my tail bone and the bar touched very sensitive places so i was chicken never road it, i did cut way back on the smoking and thought that was a good start and made my excuses.
Wll here I am 2 years later and still 200 pounds so on a whim at walmart I bought a cheap 24 inch bike, do not want to invest a lot of money untill i see if I will stick to this. I rode the next morning for the first time in 15 years a mile and half about killed me i got home and did not even have the streangth to put the bike in the garage I had to put my poor dogs in the back yard in 100 degree heat untill I could breathe It felt great I was a little wobbly at first but got the hang of it.
Today I went for a second ride dont know how many miles i need something to clock that. My husband rode with me this time and I was nervous about that hubby is very fit and I thought I would be embarassed. He said lets go to the park, I thought I would never ever make it and told him so. He said "lets just try if you need to stop I will go back to the house and get the car and pick you up." All I could think is I will die before I have him do that. I kept telling him I will never make it, he encouraged me I was surprised when he said look ahead and I could see the park! we made it to the park stopped had some water rode for a very short distance I had to tell him that if I rode much farther I would not be able to make it home so we headed home I did have to stop at the half way point home and that last incline home took the last bit I had hubby had to put the bike away while i sat and tried to breathe 10 minutes later i was up and moving and felt great except for my girly bits and my hip.
I have arthritis in one hip and boy does it hurt 3 hours later and i still hurt and that seat really tries to go places it shouldn't. I do not want to spend alot of money on this yet but I know I will not stick to it if I have to deal with pain like this can anyone recomend a good saddle for a large woman that does not cost a fortune?
And the really embarassing question can some one explain all of the gears on an 18 speed? i read the book that came with the bike but it was confusing.
Please help I really loved the feeling of being on a bike again but with that seat I wont do it for long.