No you NEED to be in this forum Waterlilli
I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings Waterlilli, that was not my intent. You bruise mighty easily. But did it ever occur to you that the divorce rate being high might be a good thing- people can get out of hell instead of suffering silently, and that would mostly apply to women. It might also be mentioned that in truly successful long term relationships theres a lot of knowing when to keep your mouth shut and when to put your foot down. If you tell a woman in a successful forty year old marriage that it's sometimes an underhanded game she'll laugh and agree. She'll get it. Maybe you could learn something there? Like words have many shades of meaning according to context. Go look up pragmatism in the big dictionary. Also, honesty is very sweet but diplomacy is often more useful. Now before you get all hurt, go look up diplomacy.
Didn't I tell the lady to look her guy in the eye and tell him he wouldn't be allowed to start? I'm betting he is full of pain pills, and it's her responsibility to keep him from doing anything really stupid in that state.
Eddie Mercx was a proffessional athlete who rode two stages (relatively easy ones being last?) on low calories, but had been eating normally 'till that time. Tyler Hamilton finished sixth this year with a broken collarbone. Both had team doctors and coaches who would have retired them if their health was truly endangered. Their careers were on the line, as well as the biggest prize in their world. It's a little different here.
Lizzy