I read some of the other threads to try to prevent a redundant question, but haven't quite come across the problem I'm having.
I'm 45 years old, been riding about 2-3 years - a Trek hybrid - planning on getting a road bike in a couple months. I ride about 40-55 miles at a time 1-2x per week, average 14mph, wear bike shorts (have a couple pairs), ride at the Jersey shore a lot so mostly level terrain with moderate hills (although I love a challenge when I go inland).
Two parts here..
When your girly parts go numb is it a certainty that the saddle is fitted incorrectly or is a certain amount of numbness just an anatomical certainty?
Also, I don't even know how to describe this part of my cheeks. The actual part I sit on. The part you couldn't see looking in the mirror standing up, but could only see if you bent over and looked between your legs. The part the hides under your "cheek fold". Am I drawing a picture? It's on fire! Literally...two pink circles about the size of a small plum on the bottom of each cheek. At about mile 30, my legs still feel good, but my bottom...I can't get comfortable and I'm squirming all over for the next 20 miles. New saddle? Different tilt?
I wear bike shorts and just started using chamois butter to no avail.