Too experienced with Sjogrens!
I have had Sjogren's syndrome for several years. I sympathize with people watching us with it - this is the dumbest "disease" with almost no good indications what it will do next. Bleh! Until I developed this, I had a feeling autoimmune diseases were just whiny people who needed some extra attention. I laugh bitterly now, as I have discovered how wrong I was!!! :rolleyes: But, yeah, it sucks to have it and to have your own body be so unpredictable; and it must suck to be around someone who is so unpredictable. I'm lucky that I am a professor now (had to leave my 9 to 5; couldn't work in the brightly lit office and regular hours), and can find information to handle this on my own. I've found the battery of doctors to be supremely unhelpful and uninformed - if you can even find one who has heard of Sjogren's! :rolleyes:
Having said that, I have been able to manage pretty well by taking a few basic steps. The first few years I was struggling with being in pain all the time, unable to tolerate much light at all, and the repeated flares. (Doctors, IMHO, are almost no help at all. They focus only on one small issue and ignore the big picture of making you feel better!) I was sick all the time, my hands were constantly in pain, everything hurt, and I wore my sunglasses 24/7. (Oh yeah, my husband was super thrilled with this development!:cool:)
The BEST thing I did was to start taking fistfulls of fish oil pills. Every day I take three 1200mg pills in the morning and three more at night. I have experimented around with lower dosages, but this is what works for me. Without all this, in a couple of days I'm in pain everywhere and a couple of days after that I'm in so much pain I can't get out of bed in the morning or use my hands well. So, swallowing a bunch of pills is TOTALLY worth it! This has really changed my whole life to a degree I can hardly explain. I was sick constantly, exhausted, in pain, slightly feverish, and just suffering; now - I'm not! I'm generally like a regular person! (who drinks water all day long and avoids bright lights, but...generally!)
The other biggie is to get the Restasis eye drops. Doctors love this, because they feel like they are doing something by writing prescriptions. They really do work though. My eyes are still very light sensitive, but now I can go to a grocery store without whipping on my sunglasses as I walk in the door, and can have more than one light bulb on in a room while I'm there, and can use my computer for more than a few minutes at a time (a necessity for my job!). I do still strive to keep lights as dim as possible most of the time, but am much better. Before using these I was using TheraTears eye drops and their gel, going through about a bottle a week. These are fine (NOT Visine or those kinds of drops), and I keep a bottle around for bad days, but they do not create tears like Restasis does. It does take a while for them to really work - a few weeks maybe - but I've been using them morning and evening for a few years now and they are GREAT!!
I'm sure your mom's eyes do hurt - a lot. When they are so dried out it is really painful. My eyes and mouth hurt every morning when I wake up; my first action is to reach for the eyedrops and glass of water on my bedside table. The Restais will really be a life-changer if she will use it! The dryness is also the problem with the light sensitivity. I wear prescription sunglasses, and when I bike or am out in bright light I wear those little-old-lady sunglasses "covers" that you can get at a drug store to wear OVER your glasses. I look somewhat like a dork, but it keeps out extra light and wind so the happiness I get is worth it! :p (I have terrible astigmatism and can not get wrap-around sunglasses made, but that would be a good solution also if possible! Whatever covers up the maximum amount of eye space is best.)
Less specific things that help me - if I get really tired and stressed, I have a flare which lands me in bed for a few days with the debilitating fatigue and overall "I want to die" feeling. (If you've had pneumonia, it's like that - but everyone thinks you are fine and should just get up and walk around like nothing's wrong! Frustrating on top of feeling like crap.) So, I plan my life carefully to avoid getting run down and not to get stressed out about things. This was surprisingly easy - developing some balance in life is probably good for everyone probably but being forced into it was definitely good for me!
Biking helps me out also - I can go out and peddle 50 or 100 miles and feel great afterward with all the nice endorphins, and the stress-release is probably also good! When I can't ride, I make point to do other exercising. I'm definitely not a health fanatic, and probably going too hard at anything would be counter-productive, but some activity every day helps. (Again - this is probably true for everyone!)
Oh, heat is a problem. Getting too hot for long sets off flares, so long hot showers are pretty much out of the question. (How long is too long? How hot is too hot? You pretty much know that when you are dizzy and unable to stand up after getting out of the shower - it was too much. If only it came with an instruction manual!) I don't use saunas and am only infrequently in jacuzzis. I also avoid hot weather like the plague! Air conditioning is a must!!
Going to the dentist for cleanings three or four times a year is probably good, if she's not already doing it. Dentists are the only medical people I've ever visited who know what Sjogren's is! Fortunately, I have not had the teeth issues I've read about with others, but I do sip water all day long and use Biotene mouthwash (expensive, but supposed to be good for dry mouths!) a few times a day. And I get my teeth cleaned at least three times a years.
And, I'll be doing all of these things for the rest of my life! Sometimes they will not work and I'll be sick and sad and feeling sorry for myself. But most of the time now, I'm essentially fine. :D
So, that's my own two cents. :)
Good luck to your mom! (And, to you!!)