Disappointment after a ride (long)
Okay...I'm going to try this again. Today I rode a 50K. It was my first organized ride and I did it with a friend and another women. I rode very well for me. I did 32.5 miles in 1 hour and 59 minutes. That is hardly race pace. Now, my friend gave me a really hard time for riding like I did. She said I was riding it like it was a race. It was to be fun. Well, it was fun for me. The really odd thing, is she was in front of me the entire ride, with the exception of a climb. That is only because my bike is more for climbing. There were snack stops along the way, but I had told her that I was not going to stop. I ride 20-30 miles regularly and never stop so I didn't see the need. She was okay with that on the phone last night but when it came to the ride today, she was really mad at me. She stopped and then caught up with me and said "What the ___k? This isn't a race." I reminded her that I was not going to stop. She and this other women set the pace, from the get go. I just followed. What is the deal here? I made my intentions known from the start. Am I missing out on some riding manners or something? I don't see what the problem is when they were in front of me the entire ride! I'm really hurt and angry. She is the one that introduced me to riding a year ago. They say the $ we paid to ride the ride was for the food. It was $16.00! I thought that was to raise the $ for the local library. Even if it was for the food...am I wrong for not wanting it? I felt incredibly ridiculed and told how I SHOULD ride the ride. My friend said this ride was to be fun and I told her it was fun for me. Her response was "Well, I'm glad YOU had fun." I told her that if she wanted to stop to go ahead. I'm really confused. Help me out here ladies!!
Talked with my friend...resolved?
Hi all. Just wanted to post that I called my girlfriend last night. The start of the conversation was not good but hopefully it was resolved. This is what happened that really made her angry. I had her inhaler and power gel in my bike shirt pocket. When they stopped, I handed the stuff to the other women, who also had a pocket in her shirt. That is what made my friend mad. She said it looked like I was sneaking off. She decided to catch me to "show me" and then she rode like heck the rest of the ride. I reminded her that I was behind them the entire ride, with the exception of when I didn't stop and when I passed them on the hill. At the end of the ride she said to me that she had never seen me ride like that before. I said "We don't ride together much anymore...you don't know how I ride." Those were my exact words. What she heard was along the line of..."I'm better than you and will be doing a triathalon soon" Wow, when she told me that, I was blown out of the water! How she got that from what I said, I don't know. She said she couldn't get that out of her head and felt as though I was really being cocky!?! I apologized for not saying specifically to her that I had given her inhaler and gel to the other women. She apologized also for whatever she said. We agreed that we won't ride together again. (bummer) I said I hope that this silly ride would not ruin our friendship. She wanted me to say I was wrong but I told her I would not do that. I made my intentions clear, prior to the ride. I guess time heals all wounds. About three days after this happened I was looking at it completely different then I did the day it happened. I was actually chuckling at how stupid the whole thing was. Only hope she can do the same. Thank you all for your thoughts on the matter...I do appreciate it. It helped me with processing the entire thing.
funny you should suggest...
buying her a jersey with pockets. I did buy her one this summer!! The bummer of it is that I've never seen her wear it.
We (my husband, my girlfriend and her husband) went out to dinner this past weekend. I'm fine with this whole thing now. She is not. She considered cancelling our dinner plans! I'm just aghast at how angry she still is about this, after almost a month!
Oh well! She told me she just can't let it go. Not much I can do on that front...that is up to her. I'm sad about the whole situation but I believe there is a lesson in all that comes our way!
Thanks for your thoughts!