My weekend with Family.

Ok well I am not used to having family around me. Our family is splintered and spread out. So holidays are hardley ever spent with family. Oh we talk on the phone and such but our parents are not together anymore and have some major annoying issues and such. My sister lives about 4 hours away so I see her way more then anyone else. But i think i figured out why i don't see them very often.
My sister is here with my niece's. It is so good to see the girls and to spend time with them. Lorelei still has so much weight to gain. Her muscle tone would make some of you jelouse. But when at the beach I know people were staring at her. It made me feel a bit mad. But then I thought screw that. She is such a good little girl who has gone though so much this past year.
My other niece Noel who is 10 is great and doing good. They both loved the beach. they couldn't get enough of it. We built a sand castle and a mote. then last night we painted toe's and watched a movie. At 8:45 am they are all still asleep. I must have worn them out!
Now the one problem that is exausting me is my sister. She does nothing but complain about everything in her life. And I mean everything. i try and be positive with her and try to get her to see the positive side of things but she just can't go there. It is wearing me out. My dh says i am like this at times too and he gets angry with me about it. But I don't think I am as bad as she is. And I am trying to be a more positive person. I guess it runs in the family. And if you don't have someone telling you you are being that way maybe that is why she does it with everything. Her husband would never tell her. i think he is afraid of her.
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All in all it has been good. I think today we are going to go to a new childrens'museum that just opened and maybe have a picnic. I know they would rather go to the beach but I think our extrem hot temps are over with. It was a 108 at my house the other day. NEVER has it ever been that hot here EVER. Some of my plants got fried. Including us.

Well, at least the visit is just temporarily being together.

Is there something you and your sister can do together that makes both of you happy together? Sounds like she's not happy with parts of her life, maybe?

Yea she is not happy woth parts of her life that is for sure. and with this past year with her youngest being as sick as she was it has been hard. I just sit and listen t her ***** and nod my head a lot. we are doing fun stuff. She enjoyed the beach a lot. But had to ***** about how she was an awful mom because she put sun block everywhere on the youngest but forgot to put it on her legs and hands.
I was like "Oh well it happen's, you can't be perfect all the time". Sigh I am being supportive as much as I can.

Counseling? With Lorelei being so ill, has DS let her health suffer? Is she able to do anything in the *me quality time*? Does she get regular check-ups?

My sister seems to be constantly at the end of her rope. The baby is so demanding of her. And I have to say I am exhausted being around them myself. I love them don't get me wrong. But I worry about my sister and the way she is right now. She is signing the baby up for pre school at the end of summer though and that should hopefully help. The baby and her have been through so much but they need some seperation from eachother. And the baby needs to see it is ok when other peole want to do things for her. She doesn't like it when some other then mom helps her. Sigh....I love them though and it was nice to have them with me this weekend.

+1 on suggesting therapy for her. It would almost be surprising if Lorelei's problems hadn't triggered a depression in your sister! - especially if she was predisposed. She obviously needs an outlet for her stress and fears.