Bit of a Dilemma

I'm not sure what to do. I have a sister that I only get to see about once every five years. She and her DH are moving here. She is coming down on the first of June to find a place to rent. She will be leaving on the 10th and returning with her DH on the 15th. Now my dilemma...there is a bike tour that I really want to ride on Saturday the 9th. I've ridden it for the past two years and a lot of the members of our bike club will be riding it and I want to ride it too. Would it be really awful of me to go do the ride with my sister here? I'd ride the metric so it would take all morning. I'd probably get back home around 1 or 2 pm.

I say go. If she's moving there, you'll soon see plenty of her anyway. But even if she wasn't, I'd still encourage you to go. As you mentioned, you'll be done by early afternoon. Suggest some things that she and her husband could do together in your absence. I bet they'd enjoy a morning together anyway.

And you go girl with the metric! I want a full report.

I only see my brother every few years too. I know he wouldn't mind if I had something else planned for a morning - in fact, he'd encourage me to carry on.

as long as you let her know in advance, it should be fine!
She knows you have a life!

I say go, unless you really feel the need to spend that time with your sis. I only get to see my sis a couple of times a year now, but when she comes down, she does her thing and I do mine and then we meet up and do our thing. Just let her know you have plans and maybe have her meet up with you at the end of the tour and go to lunch or something. I'm sure she'll understand. And besides, if she is moving there, you'll see eachother a lot.

Yes, she's going to be there a whole week before your event. I'm sure you'll have plenty of opportunities to be with her prior to that day. And why don't you invite her to meet you at the finish for a post-ride lunch?

Karen

I say go. They'll be house hunting while they are in the area. You'll be back for their last night (and they'll be back in 5 days). I'm sure they could probably use the time to go back and look at places, to make a decision about where to live. I'd be concerned if they didn't want to spend some time alone to do that...

CA

Her DH isn't coming with her to do the house hunting (renting). He will be back at home finishing the last minute packing. He knows she'll find a good place. My DH can keep her company and bring her out to see the finish if she wants. She doesn't know her way around the area so it's not like she can entertain herself very easily. I guess I'll just have to wait and see her reaction when I bring it up. I just don't want her to think I don't care or don't want to spend time with her...I do...but I don't want to give up the things I like either.

what you just said is exactly what I would tell her... you don't want her to feel like you don't care... and you do love her and want to spend time...but this is a yearly event and very important to you too... I betcha she'll be fine with it...:)

She's staying with you for 10 days? I think you can take a day to do your ride.