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smilingcat
01-18-2015, 01:34 AM
He is a neighbor I got to like and my appreciation of who he was grew as I got to know him. the stories he told were always entertaining. Sometimes, it was in self deprecation like the time he was rudely woken by the Oslo police as he laid sleeping on the steps of the "capitol" He said he and his friend had partied too much and just couldn't make it home. He said that the police just told them to go home and sleep it off. Other stories of going swimming in the summer time in the fjords. And can't forget about him telling tall tales to the neighborhood kids about all the different kinds of trolls. He even has a collection of troll dolls. This is Norwegian as one can possibly get.

Unfortunately, he went to a care facility in hopes of returning after the chemo/radiation this past summer. Early on, I drove him to his weekly radiation and the occasional chemo and consultation with the doctor. I would visit him at the care facility always happy to listen to his tales high, low and inbetween. Back in November, he was told the cancer was cured but still too weak to take care of himself at home so he resigned himself to staying at the facility. He had hoped to come home for Thanks Giving, it came and went. He then hoped to come home for Christmas taught me lot about Jul Glade... He still wasn't strong enough. So we took a small table top Christmas tree decorated with lights to him. He really enjoyed the simple things, the small things.

Just like Thanks Giving and Christmas, The New Year came and went. He said he felt awful and week ago Sunday, he was rushed back to ER and had to be intubated to drain his lung. The doctors found a tumor.

He is very liked by many of the neighbors and many of the kids just love him. He was a grade school teacher so he knew how to talk to them and entertain them. I went to each of the families that he cared and relayed to them of his condition. One of the families went and visited him today. The mother was devasted at his condition. She called his nephew and he in turn called the hospice and the nurse went to check on the viking. The nurse upped his morphine and repositioned him to make him feel bit more at ease. I found about it around 10:00PM Saturday.

We realize that his end is just days away and I know I will wake up when he passes away. I hope I can say my final good bye to him sometime on Sunday.

He was a gentle giant. A wonderful man with a big big heart. Kids loved him and so did the adults. I wish there were more men like him in this world.

Peace be with you Norman. You've touched the heart of many and we are all very grateful.

Shawn

Pax
01-18-2015, 03:05 AM
Sounds like a wonderful guy who lived a full happy life, I wish him a peaceful transition.

smilingcat
01-18-2015, 07:53 AM
Thank you Pax, yes he lived a full life.

I couldn't go to sleep last night, Melancholy about his condition. I became very introspective and sad around 3:00AM this morning. I'm tired now... Just got off the phone from his nephew. Needless to say, he died last night, peacefully in his sleep.

salsabike
01-18-2015, 10:32 AM
Thank you Pax, yes he lived a full life.

I couldn't go to sleep last night, Melancholy about his condition. I became very introspective and sad around 3:00AM this morning. I'm tired now... Just got off the phone from his nephew. Needless to say, he died last night, peacefully in his sleep.

It sounds like you each got a lot from the relationship you had with your gentle giant, smilingcat. That is lovely.

lauraelmore1033
01-18-2015, 10:33 AM
Sounds like it was a blessing to have known him.

OakLeaf
01-18-2015, 10:59 AM
I'm so sorry. He sounds like an amazing person.

IBrakeforPastry
01-18-2015, 12:11 PM
I'm so sorry. This is the man you mentioned a few times when we discussed all things Norwegian? It sounds like he had a good friend in you, as well.

zoom-zoom
01-18-2015, 12:23 PM
So sad. As a fellow Viking I say Uff Da and hope that his last moments were peaceful.

Trek420
01-19-2015, 09:01 AM
So sad. As a fellow Viking I say Uff Da and hope that his last moments were peaceful.

Having family members who are Vikings I am very sorry. He sounds like a wonderful man and a great teacher. Thanks for taking such good care of him.

rebeccaC
01-19-2015, 12:07 PM
what an excellent example of the power of caring and kindness making soul gratifying connections...may the peace that comes with that be with him and you on his passing.....

smilingcat
01-20-2015, 12:04 AM
thank you for all your kind words. Tusen takk (thousand thanks)!! And yes, he is the Norwegian I talked about in my other threads.

Come this May, I will repeat what he did to surprise me. He opened the window and in great joy yelled at me "HAPPY CONSTITUTION DAY!!" I laughed and then a quizical look. But I know now what it is. I want to celebrate his life so I will do this to an unsuspecting neighbor... :D

His nephew called me earlier in the evening to tell me that he has arrived in town. He drove two days straight (well almost). I will be getting together with him first thing in the morning and to help him out with what seems to be an insurmountable work ahead. We hope to make his stay a little less stressful.

I will also be sending a nice Thank You card to the people who took care of him 24/7 for the last 6 month. They were wonderful people. always very attentitive to his needs and I want to make sure they understand that their care for my friend is forever appreciated. They were the real angels.

lph
01-22-2015, 07:16 AM
I am so sorry, Smilingcat! I just read this now. He sounds like a really great character.
If he's half the Viking he sounds like the Valkyries took him straight to Valhall where he's partying like crazy. Skål, Norman! May your beard grow long and shaggy.

AppleTree
01-27-2015, 02:55 PM
If only there were more Norman's in this world... what a blessing to have been able to know someone like that.