Ignorant People!!

[Running Mommy]

Ok, I know this isn't cycling related, but it is training related, and I think some of you will appreciate this.
So I'm out on my long run this morning cruising through the neighborhoods near my house. I come upon and older women walking her two Collies. I say hello to her and even greeted the dogs with a "hello pretty puppies". She smiles and says "Is it working?"... Umm, what is she talking about? So I say "excuse me?" and she replies "Is it working. Is running helping you lose weight?". Excuse my french here ladies but I was like WTF??!! :cool: So I replied with a rather snotty "I'm training for an IRONMAN". She replied "oh" and turned and walked down another pathway. Now I KNOW my reality, and reality is I am carrying around an extra 25-30 lbs, but who is she to make a comment like that? I've never seen this woman in my life! She may have well asked me if I was pregnant! I passed her again and I just glared at her. But it sure got my adrenaline going! I looked down at my gps and I was running a 9:50 min mile- OOPS! This is a LSD run kid, not speed work! :p
Anyway, I just had to share. People can be soo freaking RUDE sometimes! Oh- and BTW while she wasn't fat per se, but she had a few extra lb's in her trunk as well. I should have told her "yeah, maybe you should take up running to get rid of your extra baggage".. HA HA HA!

[Veronica]

People are clueless sometimes.

Would you run a few miles for me please? Runners just get my respect. Yeah I could swim the Ironman and I could bike the Ironman, but there is no way in h@ll I can run two miles let alone 26! And runners have great legs!

V.

[Running Mommy]

Sure I'll run a few for ya! :D I actually love running. Though my shoes died their final death today and I had to cut my long run short. planned 18, ran 11.2. When my knees start talking back to me I KNOW it's time to shut er down. Luckily my new shoes should be here today or tomorrow so next week will def. get 18 in. I just didn't want to push it in worn out shoes. I've had knee problems before, so when they bark- I listen.
Oh and here are some pic's of me and the family for reference. I need to get some new ones on there. When I bring home my new baby tomorrow I'll have my son take some pictures of us.

http://photobucket.com/albums/a157/tony66denise69/?sc=1

[bikerchick68]

oh... you are SO much nicer than I woulda been :mad: people ARE ignorant... she probably didn't mean anything by it but wtf? my favorite response when someone makes a comment like that is to stop, look at them and say "Now WHY would you say something hurtful like that?" and then wait for the answer!

you have a great looking family... and just where are those extra pounds you mentionerd??? :confused: you look fantastic! :)

oh... and don't run any miles for me... everything on me hurts just thinking about it! :o

[CorsairMac]

ROFLMAO - I would've said "I don't know...did it work for you??"

[Pedal Wench]

Not to throw water on your fire, but could she have been asking because you look more fit than she is? Sorry, I read her comment as complimentary, not insulting. Kinda like, "I wish I was motivated enough to do that - does it really work?"

[ladyfish]

Sheesh. Guess some people talk without thinking. I can't imagine I could ever run 18 miles! You go girl!!! Doesn't matter what folks say--your reality is you can run a marathon and do a tri.

By the way, your photos made me SO HOMESICK. I grew up in Phoenix, and still miss the desert. I am hoping to get out there for spring break, but unfortunately it's not the same time as your Tri or I'd come cheer you on!!!

Good luck, and soak up some sun, blue sky, and desert scenery for me. By the way, also smell that great smell when it rains. To this day people look at me funny when I try to explain the wonderful smell you get in the desert when it rains!!! Wish they could bottle that!!!

[kaybee]

RM, first of all, I'd like to say that you have my utmost respect. I've been running for years, and, even though I love it, I KNOW that I could never run a marathon, much less to an Ironman. All I can say is "What a Woman!" I deal with people like that woman all the time. My office mates do not understand what is "fun" about running 6 miles at 5:30 a.m., when it's "cold" (maybe 30) and dark. Now that I'm also riding a bike, they REALLY think I'm a nut. My husband says they're secretly jealous because they can't (or won't) do it. ;) Don't let ignorant people get to you, and when they do, just pop in here and we'll be happy to remind you how awesome you are!

KB

[Grog]

The comment was indeed rude. However, not to defend the lady but I think many people have a very limiting notion of "health" (and "fun" or "challenge"), think only weight loss and can't imagine exercising for any other reason. That's sad, but it's how it is... Hence the rude comment. (Did I say it was rude???!!!) :eek:

[Deanna]

I have to agree that it was rude. Fortunately my rudeness is kept in check by my inability to come up with a quick response to comments like that -- I come up with them about a block or two later.

[Nanci]

I think there is a large portion of the gen pop that only views running as a means of weight loss- not as a competitive, or fun, or leisure activity. It was most likely a compliment meant as a way to start a conversation.

Nanci

[Pedal Wench]

Yeah, I see it like if you're holding up a pill bottle in the drug store, and someone walks up and asks if it works. Or, if you're buying a cleaning product and someone asks if it works for you. They're not implying that you're filthy, they just see you doing something they don't anything about, and they're curious, or just trying to say 'something' nice. If she was smiling, I really can't imagine that she intentionally said something rude!

[maillotpois]

I'd like to think it wasn't meant to be rude - but some people are so clueless and just stupid!!! I like to think an obvious dog person would have more tact and consideration, though! :mad: It doesn't sound like she did, though.

Good for you for having the persistence to do Tri's. That's a level of multi tasking that just baffles me and I am so impressed by friends who do them. It does sound like you like the running, and I am sure that helps. (It never really caught on for me. Did 3 marathons and hated every mile!)

[Fuji Girl]

I hear ya!!!!!

People ask me ALL the time if I'm pregnant! Strangers, people at work, neighbors. I AM SO SICK OF IT. In fact, it's offensive. I was always really skinny, then I had cancer and gained a ton of weight. Lost some of it, went on steroids, gained it back. For a girl who could always eat whatever she wanted, the extra 50 pounds was quite a shock. And it's not made any easier by people making comments about my weight, no matter what their intentions are. I don't care if they didn't mean anything by it, it's almost worse that they would hurt me so deeply and "not mean anything by it." It's so cruel. One woman at work ran up to me and patted by belly, saying "do we have something in here?" in front of everyone. I was mortified. All I could croak out was "Yeah, it's called fat" and walked away.

Now when it happens, I call them on it. It's happened so often, I have a pat answer for them, "What makes you think it's appropriate to ask such a question? Do you realize how that hurts my feelings? Do I come up to you and ask you about your thinning hair/fat ***/obnoxious laugh? No, I don't. And for future reference, I would appreciate it if you would keep your hurtful assessments of my appearance to yourself."

That usually shuts them up. But not always.

[bcipam]

As a person that sometimes says something that seems clueless I would like to add I don't think people generally are trying to be rude. I realize any of us, at any time, can say something stupid. I never intend to hurt someone's feelings and thinking about that when someone says something stupid to me, I usually just smile and say nothing. If my feeling are hurt it's because I'm too sensitive. So if someone asks if I am pregnant (and that has happened)... I guess I need to lose weight. I would just laugh, tell the person, no I just need to stop eating twinkies and move on. Now if I think someone is intending to be rude, I would ask why they said that. It makes that person stop and think why they said that. Usually I get an apology. I accept it and move on. No sense dwelling over it. Life is way to short.

[Hell-uv-a-job]

If asked if I am pregnant I just say with a straight face: "No. I am not Pregnant... I am just fat". I just love that embarracement look in their faces.

I have no problem with it, it does not bother me. I suffered enough already because of my weight and I just don't care anymore. I just try to work out for my health.:cool:

[SadieKate]

How about "No, I'm just fat. There's a cure for it. [Insert pregnant silence and "the look" here.]"

[Lise]

Unfortunately, you had already spoken to her. Otherwise you could pretend not to understand. Strategies I've used in the past: Point at my ears and shake my head. Say, "Talla inte engleska" ("I don't speak English", in Swedish). I know it's completely silly, but it distracts them, and then you run away! :p

I understand the pissed off feeling, and I suspect she was just trying to be friendly, unaware of how MISERABLY she failed! The darned thing is, she probably doesn't even know what an Ironman is. If you see her again, you could tell her what you're going to do in April, and watch her gasp for breath. That would be amusing!

You go on with your long distance running self! I ran 4.5 miles yesterday with a friend, and boy am I sore today! Can't believe I was running those long training runs last summer.

I am excited for you to bring your baby home tomorrow, and looking forward to seeing the pix! Lise

[Running Mommy]

yeah maybe I am a bit on the sensitive side. I guess that comes from always being the chubby girl. My doctor and I are going to work on finding out why after Ironman. I just don't want to deal with it right now. I eat really well, keep a food log on fitday.com and everything. I do have a raging sweet tooth, but I try to keep that in check. I'm a freak I suppose. I started some testing last fall and they determined that I have 116 lbs of muscle and 7 lbs of bone. Now on a 5'1" frame that's ALOT! Like I said in previous posts my doctor says I have the frame of a 6'2" man!! So no matter what I'm always going to look "chunky". But it sure doesn't help when people make rude comments like that. And you can sugar coat it anyway you want but the bottom line was I've never met this lady in my life. And it may have just been HER ignorance to why someone would be out running, but she should have kept her trap shut!
Anyway, like I said I'm probably overly sensitive, but I'm trying to work on it. I've really tried to embrace my stumpiness and realize that it's just the way my body is. It's just hard. When I see all these super fit looking tri chicks out there who look AWESOME in their little zoot tri kits and I know that I work just as hard as they do, and I could never wear a one piece tri suit. Well I COULD, but it would not be pretty! :eek:
And I won't even get into trying to find a wetsuit I can get my log legs in! OY!! Read the slow fat triathlete and you'll know what I deal with! lol:rolleyes:

[Steph_in_TX]

I'm impressed by anyone who runs at all. I've always said that the only time you'll find me running is when I'm being chased!

I'm noticing more and more that some "older" people tend to say whatever is on their mind and the older they get, the worse it gets. It's like any thought that pops in their head just flys out the mouth...there's no edit function! Not sure why that is, but it's definitely not good for those on the receiving end of their comments.

[Nanci]

Geez, I'd be angry at my doctor for saying that. If you _had_ the frame of a 6'2" man, you _wouldn't_ be 5'1". Whatever. Maybe he just meant you had strong bones, not little bird bones.

I was thinking that, too, the poor lady is probably wondering what Ironman is...

I asked a co-worker once if she was pregnant. She was barely big- she just had that look. She replied "no," but then announced not two weeks later that she was, and hadn't known at the time I asked!

When my daughter was a baby, I used to carry her in this snuggly, _inside_ my sweatshirt. People would always ask when my baby was due, and I'd say "She's already here!" and lift up my sweatshirt.

The first organized bike ride I did, 37 miles of the Horrible Hundred, a year ago last October, we rode past like a frat row or something near the end. Some guys were out on the balcony, and one started yelling "Look at the fatty on the bike!" I'm like, "Hey, at least I'm _on_ the bike..."

Nanci

[tprevost]

RunningMommy,

I hope that she went home and slapped herself for having such a stupid thing come out of her mouth! ... sometimes our brains don't work so well spur of the moment, then we cringe later ... anyway, she can only dream of doing what you do every day and is probably very envious! (just like I am!)

BTW, your pics are wonderful and you look SO great after you've trained! I turn reddish purple and stay that way for a long time - you just look cute!

Keep it up, you're awesome! AND, don't forget, we are all waiting for those bike pics!!! :D

Tracy

[Trekhawk]

The comment was indeed rude. However, not to defend the lady but I think many people have a very limiting notion of "health" (and "fun" or "challenge"), think only weight loss and can't imagine exercising for any other reason. That's sad, but it's how it is... Hence the rude comment. (Did I say it was rude???!!!) :eek:

I agree with Grog, a lot of people just cant imagine you would be out doing anything physical for fun or the challenge. They think all is exercise is inspired by a need to lose weight. Hey lets not tell them it can be fun though or we may have to fight our way through the crouds for a decent ride.:D

[pkq]

Yeah, I'd be one of those ignorant people mulling over in the back of mind, "If it works for her, it might work for me. If she says 'yes,' I might have to give it a go." Yep, I've been that ignorant before with other things. I love learning from other people. It makes my life so much easier. Call me lazy, too. :)

[ladyfish]

being a diver, I have several places that I can give you that make custom suits. Sounds expensive, but really isn't that much more than off the rack, and it will fit!

email me if you'd like the info!

[FelesRidet]

My weight is perfect for my height, which varies.

[susiej]

Loved the pictures! So impressed that you've done multiple tris. :D

--SJ

[KSH]

People ask me ALL the time if I'm pregnant! Strangers, people at work, neighbors. I AM SO SICK OF IT.

I learned in the Second grade to NEVER ask a woman if she is pregnant.

I was in class, and I think I yelled out, "Mrs. Anabel are you pregnant!". She replied, "No", and promptly dragged me into the hall and told me that you NEVER ask a woman if she is pregnant. Never forgot that lesson.

At my last job... there was a lady in my group who started to look larger... and even wore a shirt saying something like "Special Package"... but there was no way in hell I asking. I think when she hit around 5 months she finally told me. But I wasn't asking.

I am so sorry to hear about how the meds made you gain so much weight. How frustrating that must be. I don't even know what I would do if my weight and controling it was completely out of my hands. At least you have your life and your health... that is what matters in the end.

[bcipam]

Runningmommy... OK so you are sensitive about your size... geez who isn't. Even little skinny girls (I hate them! :p ) complaint abut their weight. I wish I could even think about training for Ironman. Do you realize how "studdly" that is? Be proud of your acheivement and accomplishments. Next time someone makes what you feel is a rude comment, smile and tell them what you are training for and leave it at that. Trust me - they will be jealous of your ability. I am!

[MomOnBike]

Actually, it was someone trying to sell me baby stuff that got me started on my latest round of trying to lose weight. Bleh.

BTW - I'm DONE having babies! They turn into teenagers!:mad:

The thing is, I'm losing weight nicely in my ankles, wrists, calves, butt, upper body (somewhat), but not in my belly. This, of course, in addition to the fact that it's not drooping so much now, makes the belly look bigger. I can't win...

[bcipam]

BTW - I'm DONE having babies! They turn into teenagers!:mad:

.

You made me laugh. Yesterday one of my coworkers came in with her new pretty pink baby. Another coworker commented on how she wanted one of "those" as her daughter was now a whiny, pimply 13 year old. I ask would she think of having another baby and she said... are you kidding??? It will grow up to be a whiny, pimply 13 year old!!!! So I guess her answer was "NO"

Thankfully that teenager phrase passes but none too soon! :rolleyes:

[Geonz]

I learned in the Second grade to NEVER ask a woman if she is pregnant.

I was in class, and I think I yelled out, "Mrs. Anabel are you pregnant!". She replied, "No", and promptly dragged me into the hall and told me that you NEVER ask a woman if she is pregnant. Never forgot that lesson.

LOL I wish I had had a second grade teacher like that... well, maybe for five days out of the year...

I start getting mad... then I remember some of the really stupid things I've said. For some people it comes naturally, but some of us have had to work at figuring out how to be social without accidentally saying something stupid.

I've sort of noticed in our bike club there are a fair number of people who have to be really strong to ride so fast with their feet in their mouth :p ... but their hearts are in the right place.

[bcipam]

I've sort of noticed in our bike club there are a fair number of people who have to be really strong to ride so fast with their feet in their mouth :p ... but their hearts are in the right place.

And that... would be me!:rolleyes:

[betagirl]

I can understand your reaction to the comment, but those who pose the side that she may have not been trying to be rude have a good point too.

I've had people come up to me after a period of pretty extreme weight loss (I have crohn's disease and can lose 15 lbs in a bad month) and say a variety of things that could be interpreted as rude.

My favorites:

"Boy what diet are you on? You look great!" - I'd love to say "the not eating for 2 months, 20 trips to the can a day diet." But I hold my tongue.

"Jeez look at how skinny you are. Are you anorexic or something?" - uh...sure.

Even my well meaning friends who I'm closest too get on my nerves sometimes with their stares or comments of how "thin" I'm getting. Yes I know, I weigh myself and I know my clothes are getting big. :)

I think weight in general is a sore subject if we're not content with where we're at on the scale. I don't think it's ever something we like having pointed out to us, whatever side of the coin you're on.

Just my 2 bits :)

[Kathi]

Thanks for the thread, I've been wanting to vent these things for a long time. I try not to get irritated when:

At work when I would comment that my classroom was cold or I felt cold, I would be told that if I had more "meat on my bones" I would be warmer. Why was that ok when the same people would be so offended if I said " if you were thinner you wouldn't be so hot"?

"You're so little you must not eat anything" Yeah, I don't eat fast food, junk food or sweets.

"You're so lucky being small all the clothes on sale are in the small sizes" If that's the case how come I don't find the xs's on sale? Why is it so hard to to find a 30 D bra or size 4 narrow ski boots, or bike components for small bodies. I'm lucky that I can wear a size 6 shoe, only because I need a full length orthodotic!

"You don't need to exercise, you're too thin." Why are the benefits of exercise perceived to be for weight loss? I do need to exercise, to maintain a healthy heart, strong muscles, bones, etc. Besides I really enjoy skiing, riding my bike, etc.

When I was a teenage I was told by a guy friend that I had a nice figure but if I turned sideways no one could see me!

My aunt told me to be happy with the size I was because I would gain weight when I got older. Because of lifestyle choices I didn't gain the weight like she predicted but her comment helped me to be happy with my size and not to get to upset over these thoughtless statements.

For me its more important to be healthy and strong than to worry about what others think of "how little I am". BTW, I don't perceive myself as that small.

I see women in my neighborhood running, walking, cycling all the time and think how wonderful it is that they're out enjoying the day and doing something good for themselves.

And training for running a marathon is such an awesome goal.

[susiej]

BTW - I'm DONE having babies! They turn into teenagers!:mad:

I'll trade one 12 month old who was up at 11:15 (I couldn't fall asleep until he woke up, because I knew he would), from 2:15 to 4:15 with a fever (fell asleep after milk, Tylenol and lots of walking), 6:00 and 7:00.

I want a teenager, 'cause he'll sleep through the night!

And he can ride his own bike with us.

Never happy, are we?

--SJ

[bcipam]

Yeah but that teenager won't be riding with you cause he can also sleep through the day!!!:D

[Running Mommy]

Yeah I think any comments about weight- or lack thereof- should be off limits! My husbands best friend is extremley thin, and he's very sensitive about it. I learned my lesson long ago that you just should not discuss body size w/ a stranger! Unless of course THEY bring it up, and they are talking about themselves!
I have a friend who is very thin and wears a size zero. She's also very short so she has to have EVERYTHING tailored. We joke that because america is getting BIGGER as a popluation, the clothes are getting bigger too. So at least I can buy off the shelf. She has alot harder time. Used to be a time when it was hard to find things in big sizes.

[MomOnBike]

I want a teenager, 'cause he'll sleep through the night!

Never underestimate the ability of a teenager to keep you up all night.

And some would rather take a bullet than ride a bike...

Sigh...this, too, shall pass. (But not *&%^^**!!! soon enough.)

OK, I'm whining - a bad week at home. This can and probably should be ignored.

[Eden]

Yeah I think any comments about weight- or lack thereof- should be off limits! My husbands best friend is extremley thin, and he's very sensitive about it. I learned my lesson long ago that you just should not discuss body size w/ a stranger! Unless of course THEY bring it up, and they are talking about themselves!
I have a friend who is very thin and wears a size zero. She's also very short so she has to have EVERYTHING tailored. We joke that because america is getting BIGGER as a popluation, the clothes are getting bigger too. So at least I can buy off the shelf. She has alot harder time. Used to be a time when it was hard to find things in big sizes.

Don't I know it - at 5'0", 104 lbs I have a very difficult time finding things that fit me these days - yup down to a 0 in jeans and not sure what will happen next. With all of the differently sized/shaped people who say they can't find anything that fits I really wonder who it is that clothing is made for!
People definitely aren't any more aware that it is easy to offend a small person too. I had a (tall) co-worker have the complete uncoothness to actually pat me on the head the other day. I was floored and my gut reaction was that I really wanted to smack her, but I also really want to believe that it wasn't done with malicious intent. I think she thought she was being cute, but it was really really rude if you ask me.

[BikeMomma]

Running Mommy....simply put, you're gorgeous and you have the BEST smile I've seen in a while! You're awesome. Don't listen to anything different.

As a tall and skinny girl (5'9", now 137lbs with extra training this winter), I've heard all the comments and then some that Kathi mentioned (Kathi: fyi...they never have any 36A's either!) and have had to deal with all the "I wish I was tall like you" comments, as well. Truth is, my mother was forced to learn how to sew when I was little because I didn't fit anything in the stores for girls, and she sure as heck wasn't putting boy clothes on her little girl. As I sit here typing, my sweater cuffs are nearly halfway up my forearms, and this sweater is supposed to be full-length sleeve! I have to buy "tall" size jeans/pants or I run the risk of mistakenly broadcasting a flood warning (or looking like Michael J. - not Jordan! - sans the sequin socks), and capri's are a joke (just below the kneecap, usually)!

So I guess there are always going to be things "wrong" - for lack of a better word - for every body type that we perceive about ourselves, when what we really need to do is just silence the negative doubter within us and just love ourselves for who we are and how we look, and then be PROUD.

I repeat, RM, you're beeeutiful!! And so are the rest of you ladies! :)

[Selkie]

RunningMa - I'm sure the lady didn't mean any harm. In trying to be nice, she was a doofus.
I've endured the skinny girl comments, usually said by other females. "Don't you eat?" is the usual or they made snide comments or goad me to have something when I won't partake in the inevitable 'sin table' (candy, cakes, brownies) that have been a mainstay of most offices where I've been assigned. Usually, I ignore the comment--chalk it up to the other person's "issues." When hormones or "bad day surlies" get the best of me, I've been tempted to reply, "Don't you exercise?"
Recently I got a much overdue haircut (just a couple inches off the ends and she put in long layers---not a radical change by any means). The first week after I got it cut, two female coworkers said to me, "oh you got your hair cut." Nothing more. My boss, a man, made the same comment but followed up w/"and it looks great."
I have so much respect for larger sized athletes (my husband is one). Fitness has nothing to do with size.

[betagirl]

and have had to deal with all the "I wish I was tall like you" comments, as well. Truth is, my mother was forced to learn how to sew when I was little because I didn't fit anything in the stores for girls, and she sure as heck wasn't putting boy clothes on her little girl. As I sit here typing, my sweater cuffs are nearly halfway up my forearms, and this sweater is supposed to be full-length sleeve! I have to buy "tall" size jeans/pants or I run the risk of mistakenly broadcasting a flood warning (or looking like Michael J. - not Jordan! - sans the sequin socks), and capri's are a joke (just below the kneecap, usually)!

Too funny. At least your mom sewed you some clothes, I just got the "where's the flood" comments a lot. I was 5'11 by freshman year of high school. I've since shrunk a bit and am 5'9 and a half. (Another fun effect from crohn's disease :) ) Totally have to buy the tall jeans or pants or I look like I'm getting ready to go clamming. Tide's out, grab yer buckets! I don't know about you but I'm thrilled that the heels on the shoes are coming down a bit. Especially when I was taller, I could NEVER buy some shoes I wanted because they'd make me 6'2.

[Crankin]

I was waiting until someone commented on rude comments about short/thin people. All comments about body size should be banned! I can only go into 2 stores and buy clothes off the rack and now some genius has decided that petite pants should be 30 inches instead of 28. So back to the tailor I go. I've heard my fill of "don't you eat?" comments, which if anyone really knew me, would never be asked. I usually laugh and say, "Of course, I exercise to eat!"
I've been on too many rides with people who appear to be heavier and out of shape and they are super riders who leave me in the dust. Enough said.

[Eden]

I was waiting until someone commented on rude comments about short/thin people. All comments about body size should be banned!

Yeah - I sometimes get the feeling that I'm not allowed to think that people could possibly be being rude about my size because according to them I'm so lucky- well I guess the grass is always greener.....

[Kathi]

Running Mommy....simply put, you're gorgeous and you have the BEST smile I've seen in a while! You're awesome. Don't listen to anything different.

As a tall and skinny girl (5'9", now 137lbs with extra training this winter), I've heard all the comments and then some that Kathi mentioned (Kathi: fyi...they never have any 36A's either!) and have had to deal with all the "I wish I was tall like you" comments, as well. Truth is, my mother was forced to learn how to sew when I was little because I didn't fit anything in the stores for girls, and she sure as heck wasn't putting boy clothes on her little girl. As I sit here typing, my sweater cuffs are nearly halfway up my forearms, and this sweater is supposed to be full-length sleeve! I have to buy "tall" size jeans/pants or I run the risk of mistakenly broadcasting a flood warning (or looking like Michael J. - not Jordan! - sans the sequin socks), and capri's are a joke (just below the kneecap, usually)!

So I guess there are always going to be things "wrong" - for lack of a better word - for every body type that we perceive about ourselves, when what we really need to do is just silence the negative doubter within us and just love ourselves for who we are and how we look, and then be PROUD.

I repeat, RM, you're beeeutiful!! And so are the rest of you ladies! :)

Wow, I just checked Figleaves.com they have tons of 36A bras. They have a free return policy so if you're not happy with your purchase it's easy to return it. Have fun shopping.