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Danariel
08-21-2005, 07:54 PM
Hello, all. I'm new to both TE and to biking (at least since childhood ended with the purchase of my own car.) I thought I'd share a little (ok, a lot, I know this is really long, but I think you'll find it interesting) about myself, and get some encouragement on my journey.

Another thing, my husband (DH I believe you call them? :-)) has also just gotten a bike, and has read some here on the forums, we are both signed up with the BikeSpeak forums, too, but TE seems to be very busy. He was wondering if it would be ok for him to sign up and post here, too, seeing as he is estrogen-challenged (though he may well have more than most guys, he's the epitome of the word gentleman, and he's often more sensitive to the feelings of others than I am, though he's working on me.)

Ok, now for the Too Much Information stuff.

My name is Tiffany. I am 35 years old, married w/2 dogs and 2 cats (these are our kids for now), and I live in Nashville TN. I'm a Gulf War Veteran, was an Auto Claims Adjuster for the past 6 years, am now unemployed but will be going back to school in October for an Associates Degree in Visual Communications (think Graphic Design plus) and am currently seeking a part time job to complement school.

I've had a pretty tough year, but it's beginning to really turn around for me. I was burned out on my job as a Claims Adjuster last year (if anyone has any Auto related claims questions, I'll be glad to answer them, but you'll also hear from me that Adjusters aren't the bad guys lawyer commercials make them out to be) so bad that I was having almost constant migraine headaches. I went to a Neurologist, and he gave me some sample packets of Relpax to try the next time I felt one coming on.

Begin Long Sob Story feel free to skip if you wish.

Friday, December 17th, 2004 about 8:00 pm, I began to see auras. Now I had never seen auras before, but they are a classic precursor to migraines. I grabbed one of the sample packs, looked on it, and couldn't find any dosage instructions or warnings or anything, there were two pills in little bubbles. Knowing I had never taken it before, I figured one had to be safe, so I took one and laid down immediately to sleep, hoping it would be gone when I woke up in the morning.

Saturday morning about 5:50 am, I woke up and realized that the impending migraine from the night before hadn't been stopped by the medicine. I have Mepergan for the really bad ones (but I HATE to take them, they make me feel dopey and stupid) so I figured I'd take some and lay back down, maybe I could sleep the dopey feeling away too. I got up, went to the bathroom, got out the Meps, poured a glass of water, had everything set up on the bathroom counter ready to take when - I felt an all-over body flush, instantly sweating (and I don't sweat) and nauseous. I figured I was gonna be sick, so I placed myself in classic prayer position in front of the Porcelain God, and sat there for about 5 minutes. The flush went away, so did the nausea, I never did vomit or anything, but as I got up to take my medicine and lay back down, I realized my left arm was hurting. I had read an article just the day before about arm pain with migraines, so it didn't worry me too much at first. I took the Mepergan, laid back down, but it kept hurting worse. I mentioned the pain to my husband, and he asked if I had hit it or hurt it on anything, and I told him no, then told him about the flush with nausea. He looked up the article I had read the day before, and he agreed that it was probably the migraine.

By this time, I was hurting so bad, I was holding my arm and pacing the house, panting and gasping from the pain, crying even. My chest began to hurt, above the left breast and more toward the center of the chest, not really where I think of my heart as being, and I started to get scared. The Mepergan wasn't working, so I had him call Ask-A-Nurse, and I talked to the guy. He said that it was probably the migraine, but that if it persisted and the meps didn't take care of it soon, I might want to go ahead in to the ER.

Well, for about 5 minutes it almost seemed to abate a bit...then it came back even worse. I told my husband we needed to go, and while he warmed up the car, I called my parents (who live 4 miles away from us) to let them know I was going to the hospital.

We get there about 6:45 am and they take all my vitals, blood pressure is 108/59, pulse is 64, temp is 97.8. They decide to do an EKG "just to rule anything out." They hook me up, and the nurse looks at it and says, "The Doctor needs to see this." I ask if anything is wrong, and she just repeats that the doctor needed to see it. She went to get him, and he comes in and asks me my medical history and medications. I tell him my medical history (no history of heart disease, 5'4" and 144 lbs, other conditions I have) and then I mention the migraine I'm still suffering, and the Relpax I took the night before. He said, "Ah, well that must have done it, because it appears you're having a heart-attack right now." Well, my husband says I went sheet white, and I KNOW I lost it, bawling my eyes out, terrified. Jon calls my folks from my cell phone (I didn't think they'd let you use one in the ER, but they didn't say anything) and I ask if Mama will come down. They give me an aspirin, and nitroglycerine spray under my tongue.

Mama gets there, and she and my husband are each holding a hand. A cardiologist comes in, and says what they'd like to do is a Heart Catheterization to see where the blockage is, and get it out. I got really scared at that, until he and my mom explained that it's a very minimally invasive procedure, where they make a tiny incision in the femoral artery at the juncture of thigh and torso (you know, the fold where your undies band runs in the front) and run a small tube up the artery to the heart. Mama explained that she had had one a few months previously (with nothing found) and that it was really nothing, so I give my consent.

They kept me awake (though groggy, there was some anaesthetic of some kind) through the entire procedure, and I got to see what the little camera saw, no plaque build-up, nothing but where the clot was, and that it looked like the artery had collapsed on the other side. They did Angioplasty, where they take a tiny balloon and inflate it in there, they sucked the clot out, and then the artery opened back up. No holes, no other apparent problems. They kept me overnight and ran a battery of tests but couldn't find anything else that would account for the heart attack BUT the Relpax. Relpax (and all triptans) is a vaso-constrictor, which means it constricts the blood vessels to minimize migraine pain. He said what happened was I had an Arterial spasm, and it closed off just long enough for the clot to begin and the artery to collapse on the other side, then once the spasm let up, it was blocked.

They took me off Birth Control Pills due to the increased chance of blood clots, I'm never to go near triptans again, and they had me on Plavix for about a month, with a baby aspirin.

I went back to work a week later, after a 6-week absence from almost constant migraines. Very little had been done on my files while I was gone, and I was so far behind. My performance had been poor due to the burnout and migraines before the heart attack, and after I just found it impossible to get my performance back to acceptable. I was fired for performance issues on March 30th, so I've been looking for a job and on unemployment for the last 4 and a half months. It's a really weird feeling, I've never been on unemployment before, and never been without a job for more than 3 weeks at a time since I was 16 years old.

Oh, I've lost 39 lbs since the heart attack, and I look about 10 years younger. I had my 6-month post heart attack visit with a stress-echo, and there was NO damage. Everyone (doctors and medical assistants included) has been really impressed by the weight loss. I attribute it to getting me off birth-control pills, and I haven't had a migraine either. Of course, I'm also stress-free.

My husband suggested me going back to school, and it was like an epiphany. So I cashed in my 401K, which had 15K in it to pay off part of our credit debt, we re-financed our house to pay off the rest, he's working two jobs, and I'm looking for something part-time.

End long sob story, resume bike related stuff.

Now Wednesday my husband and I went to 3 bike shops on West End in Nashville, and I looked at bikes. He and I want to get in shape, and he wants to commute to his day job (about 12 miles each way.) I first looked at a Giant Boulder SE at the Bike Pedlar, the sales guy put me on a 12.5" frame and it felt like a dream! Bear in mind, I've NEVER owned a quality bike. Then we went to Nashville Bicycle Co. and they let me sit a Hardrock Sport, and told me about the 2006 Women's Hardrock Sport that was so new they didn't even have a catalog with a picture in it. They had a small and a medium at their Franklin store, so today, just to make sure I really wanted the Giant, I went out to Franklin and tried the Women's Hardrock...and ended up with it instead.

It's an absolutely gorgeous electric satin blue, and the pictures really don't do it justice. The one I ended up with had higher end shifters than it's spec'd with (Specialized's mistake, and I reaped the benefits with no additional expense) they are SRAM X-7's instead of the X-4's. I'm 5'4" and 105 lbs, and I figured I'd end up with the small, but the sales guy thought there was just too much seat post showing, so I got the medium (15".) I can't wait to take to the trails around Percy Priest Lake.

If anyone is interested, Here's my Buzznet Page. (http://danariel.buzznet.com/user/) If you look down the side, I have a Gallery for my bike, too.

I've gotten some really good info from you all the past two days, and I'm sure I'll get a lot more!

KSH
08-21-2005, 08:20 PM
Thanks for sharing your story! That heart attack sounds so scary.... but it sounds like it made you improve your life and your health... so it had it's purpose.

Also sounds like getting rid of your stress improved your life as well! Stress can do so much to a body.

Congrats on your new bike and riding it as many miles as you can stand!

:D

jobob
08-21-2005, 10:15 PM
Wow, what an amazing story ! :eek: I'm very glad it's turning out well for you. That's wonderful how you're turning your life around like that.

Welcome to our little looney bin, hope you enjoy it :)

- Jo.

Danariel
08-21-2005, 11:13 PM
Thanks a lot, everyone. I appreciate the welcomes!

Would it be cool for my husband to post here, too?

AutumnBreez
08-21-2005, 11:24 PM
Thanks for sharing, things like this can be a helpmate for others, if anything were to happen from taking this medication, we could reference this info. Very thankful you are doing well and on your way to a grand adventure in cycling! Welcome to TE! :D

DeniseGoldberg
08-22-2005, 05:40 AM
Would it be cool for my husband to post here, too?

Danariel -
Welcome to the forum, and wow - what a story you have. I'm glad to hear that you've recovered.

On your question about your husband posting here, I'm not a moderator here, just another participant, and I have nothing to do with TE policy, but here's a quote from the forum use policy:

The primary focus of this forum is women's cycling. Sub-forums exist for women's triathlon and general fitness.
You can see the full policy at http://forums.teamestrogen.com/faq.php?faq=vb_faq#faq_policies

--- Denise

singletrackmind
08-22-2005, 06:37 AM
Hello and glad you are here and on a bike, both of you! :)

If your DH does post knowing he's a dude would be nice. Lots of what's said could apply to anyone and what can't isn't (ususally) sleepover with the girls material, if anything it could be 'too much information'-more than a guy EVER wanted to know about a chick. :eek:

I think I just said it doesn't bother me (and that's just me, I am NOT speaking for anyone else here) and that I think we're naive if we think there aren't any other men lurking on this board. Does anyone else know of a bike board with the kind of support and lack of bashing as is on this one?

LBTC
08-22-2005, 07:19 AM
Hi, Danariel! I'm pressed for time this morning and must read your long story later....but regarding your DH and the forum, I agree with the other ladies.

There are things here he'll read that he'll wish he didn't know! But there are lots of great tips to do with biking and lots of great support.

There have been a few guest posts by DH's....mine has, and I recall having seen one or two others. I think we'll all appreciate it if he always identifies himself as part of "team testosterone" so we all know!! :)

Welcome to the board, girl!

Namaste,
~T~

singletrackmind
08-22-2005, 07:30 AM
Just was perusing another bike board to find a post of some woman's very suggestively tightly-t'd breasts....it's supposed to be a family board and this was put up by the moderator. :confused:
Oy.
That's one of many reasons why I like this board.

Which makes me want to add-I don't mind a man on the board, I'd just like it if he'd let us know AND keep to the spirit of the board. You know, support, humor, advice, and occasional non-suggestive but sweet-looking pics of George Hincapie and like......I'm sure those were posted strictly for educational purposes only! :D

Irulan
08-22-2005, 09:46 AM
my 2¢

while there is nothing in forum policy that says men cannot post here, I for one like the fact that afaik this is a testosterone free zone. Sure there are the occasional guest posts by SOs, and who knows about lurkers, but I for one like the girls-only atmosphere.


Irulan

SadieKate
08-22-2005, 10:22 AM
Danariel, has your husband checked out www.bikejournal.com? It is a very polite group and this forum even has their own team on it. The site gives you the ability to track your rides but also has a forum. Check it out.

MightyMitre
08-22-2005, 11:31 AM
Hi Danariel - I have to agree with a few other posts. There are occasional discussions that might be a little too much info for even the most enlightened male. I'm not just talking about physical stuff, but sharing emotional stuff too.

I spend a huge amount of time with men, I've got 2 brothers, I work with 3 guys in a shop every day and lots of my cycling friends are men. In fact, I sometimes feel like I have to remind myself I'm a girl!! :eek:

What I'm trying to say is that I really appreciate this small, boy-free zone in my life and while I very much enjoy spending so much time with guys, I also need a soothing shot of estrogen every so often,to keep me sane.

Just my thoughts, and thank you for being so kind as to ask before your hubby just went ahead and signed up.

Liz :)

bikerchick68
08-22-2005, 11:32 AM
Hiya and welcome! glad to hear you have recovered and made such huge and positive changes in your life...

also have your DH check out bicycling.com... the "Love Forum" is a bunch of nuts with some bashing etc but all the other forums are the serious forums... lots of knowledgable and nice people there too... I have met many of them now out doing rides! :)

slinkedog
08-22-2005, 03:33 PM
Welcome Danariel! What a story! I'm glad you're okay and hope you have a blast riding and going to school! Looking forward to hearing more from you!

Grog
08-22-2005, 06:26 PM
I too must say that I appreciate the girls' club atmosphere... I don't mind a DH/SO posting once in a while (usually using his DW's account) but I don't think it would be appropriate for a male to become a regular participant to this forum.

As for lurking: no problem!

Danariel
08-22-2005, 06:31 PM
I thank all of you kindly for the wonderful welcomes!

In regards to DH, you all might be suprised at how little of the Macho Dude there is in Jon. Honestly, he's sometimes even better with the emotional stuff than I am! I've often said that I'm more masculine (tom-boy, former Army and all that) than most girls of my acquaintance, and he's much more feminine (not to say he's effeminate or "swishy," just REALLY in touch with his emotions) than any straight male I've ever met. As far as too much information, I've never found ANYTHING to be truely TMI for him, his interest in everything (including the differences between boys and girls) is boundless.

He is truely the sweetest, kindest, gentlest man I have ever met. We have been married for 5 years, together for 6, and he still gets doors for me, holds my chair, won't sit at table until I do. I've had lots of people tell me that I trained him right, but he was that way when I met him. And it's certainly not his father's training! He raised himself up right, as he lost his mother at 9.

I will, however, let him know that a few "test posts" might be in order, and since you can set your own Title here, I'm sure he'd be willing to put Team Testosterone or something else to make it plain he's a guy. And I can suggest that he might want to stay out of some of the more embarrassing posts until/unless you ladies become that comfortable with him.

You know how sometimes, a gay male friend can seem almost like a girlfriend? Well, he's almost like that. Except that I really don't think a gay male would honestly want to hear about period problems (having NO INTEREST WHATSOEVER in female anatomy) where Jon would express sympathy, and perhaps a tiny bit of empathy (he's talked about there being a male "cycle" that kinda roughly corresponds with the female cycle, and sometimes he feels cranky, or headachy, when I'm menstruating.)

I'll let him read what you all have said, and if he'd still like to post here and get to know some kick *** chicks, he'll try very hard to win your friendship.

snapdragen
08-22-2005, 07:13 PM
Sadiekate is spot on recommending bikejournal.com. You will both find friendly supportive folks over there. And when hubby has some "boy" questions (which he will!) there are lots of guys there to help.

I find Bicycling's site a bit of a snake pit, but maybe I'm just sensitive. :rolleyes: cyclingforums.com has a lovely international feel, roadbikereview.com has a great beginners forum. All rbr members are under orders to be nice to newbies in the beginners forum :p . They're good people, if not a bit looney.

I don't mind the occasional post here, but I honestly feel he'll get bored after a while.

Welcome to both of you!

Pedal Wench
08-22-2005, 08:04 PM
bikeforums.net is another good one with a good group in the general cycling and road cycling forums. Training and nutrition forum is good too. (Of course, the women's cycling forum is fun too, but off limits for him!)

CorsairMac
08-22-2005, 08:37 PM
Welcome to the board Dana - your story was most interesting to say the least! and I appreciate you asking if Jon could post.

Here is my only concern: by having Jon post regularly or semi-regularly it sets precedent. If Jon can post then other men should be able to post also and pretty soon we run the risk of losing a place that is truly for women only.
As the others have said, we've had some DHs/SOs pop in once in awhile and the occasional man asking about something for his DW or SO, I know we have some male lurkers and one of the moderators is male but he stays out of the picture. While the decision is up to the moderators , I would just like to say it's nice to know there is one place in my life that is completely, truly, and utterly female.

But Jon sounds like the perfect man (*cigh* the kind I keep hoping I'm gonna have someday) and you should go give him a hug and a kiss from me!!

Danariel
08-22-2005, 08:41 PM
*this is Jon, Tiffany's husband, using her account to post*

Hello, and thank you to everyone for the warm empathic welcome to Tiffany. She has permitted me to read her thread to see your responses regarding my possibly becoming a member. Needless to say I'm blushing at her many compliments, hard as I've worked to earn them. :)

I'll admit to having looked in on the TE forums as an anonymous guest - not for prurient reasons of any kind, but simply for technical advice on cycling, espcially for neophytes (since that means me :p).

I do appreciate the consideration for me as a potential member and the general supportiveness of this forum. Such an attitude of friendly cooperation and encouragement is of indescribable value to people of any gender! Sadly, in all too many communities, be they online or RL, it's lacking. For my wife's sake I'm thrilled she's discovered an environment of not only skill relevant to her latest pursuit, but also compassion and understanding. Sometimes that kind of encouragement can take you the extra mile... and maybe even one or two more.

It looks like there are at least a few folks who would really rather keep TE a true ladies' only forum. I completely understand and respect that, and am happy to just look in now and again - maybe occasionally heterodyning Tif's account to post like this, but always with notification as above. Again, thanks to everyone for your positive attitudes and support for Tif. Safe journeys to all - may all the skies you travel under be bright. :)

CorsairMac
08-22-2005, 08:50 PM
and thank you Jon for your understanding! sooooooooooo do you have a brother or two..........or three..........or.........heck I can't keep track of how many of us are single anymore! LOL

and Tif - you're right........he is quite the guy! You along with quite a few of the married/attached ladies here have pretty special guys at your side which keeps me the hopeful romantic!

Danariel
08-22-2005, 09:21 PM
He is certainly all that I said and more. I am truly lucky to have found him (been found by him.) Perhaps soon I'll share the wacky, wierd account of our meeting, and courtship.

Let me add that I have been married before (3 times before, to be truthful) and he is the only one of them I would have suggested allowing to post on a Women's forum. He's a keeper, for all the right reasons. ;)

Oh, and he says he's very flattered by your question, and, for better or worse, he's an only child. :-)

singletrackmind
08-23-2005, 06:32 AM
and thank you Jon for your understanding! sooooooooooo do you have a brother or two..........or three..........or.........heck I can't keep track of how many of us are single anymore! LOL


Don't forget about sisters, too! Being a wide variety of womens here, and all. :)

Grog
08-23-2005, 07:44 AM
Thanks Danariel and Jon for your understanding!

Looking forward to hear more of you (directly in one case, perhaps more indirectly in the other... ;) ) on this great forum!

CorsairMac
08-23-2005, 08:00 AM
Don't forget about sisters, too! Being a wide variety of womens here, and all. :)

rofl - doggone it, once again it was all about me! I really gotta work on this remembering others stuff! :p

Danariel
08-23-2005, 07:44 PM
I did it! I did it! I kicked that hill's BUTT! There's a long, steep, curvy hill that I have to get up one way or another to get back home from any ride off of my street. I was scared of it, just sure I'd never make it, but I was determined to try and see how far I could go, even after having more than 3.5 miles of gently rolling neighborhood ride behind me, and another hill roughly equivalent to half the other one (the gentler half.)

I stopped at the top of the smaller hill, drank a good portion of my Orange/Pineapple/Apple juice, and caught my breath. Then I rode back down the hill, turned right while trying to keep as much momentum as I could without spinning out on the gravel at the base of it, rode the short way to the next right, and up that little incline, then the next right, and I was on it. The big kahuna, my first nemesis hill, the one I was too scared to even try the other day.

Downshifting as necessary, I focused on my pedaling, and I think I do more circles than push-push anyway (I start the "push" at the top of the stroke, and push forward) and on taking the hill in manageable pieces. I first focused on the green minivan parked in that driveway there. Then, I looked up to the top, and realized I was more than halfway, so I focused on that mailbox halfway between me ant the top. Then I was sooooo close, I told myself if I quit now, I'd kick my own ***. I was all the way in granny gear, seated (gear was WAY too low to stand and pedal, I'd have ended up falling) and just powered my way up the steepest portion at like 3.4 mph (I've got a cheapy Schwinn bike comp, cost like $9.83 at Wal-Mart, but it works!) I gave myself a little cheer when I crested the hill, then zoomed down the little hill to our house. As soon as I got into the driveway, I grabbed the cellphone, and called my husband to share my elation.

Wow, what a feeling. I think I'm really going to enjoy this new hobby/form of excercise!

singletrackmind
08-23-2005, 08:21 PM
WOOHOO!!! Accomplishment! :)
You go girl (and guy)!!!

Danariel
08-24-2005, 01:22 AM
Thanks singletrack! I've been out of shape for so long, and Sunday Jon and I rode about 2.3 miles away, along a rolling but generally down hill two lane road that actually has a lot of traffic on it, and I chickened out for the return trip. I waited at a gas station for him to go home and get my truck to pick me and my bike up. What I was mostly afraid of was trying to climb that first hill on the return trip, where there's almost no shoulder, and going all wobbly and falling into traffic (40 mph on that stretch, 50 further down.)

So this accomplishment feels really good, and shows me that if I keep trying, eventually I'll buzz right up that hill with no wobblies, and not get run over. :-)

CorsairMac
08-24-2005, 11:25 AM
Hills are our friends! We love hills! Hills make us stronger!! yarite! somedays ya'll just gotta go kick that hill right in the teeth and show it You're the boss!!

Goodonya!

Danariel
08-25-2005, 12:54 AM
I did it again today, with less momentum to start with, but also with less ride behind me. I'm gonna try to ride that hill every day, until I can go up it on the second front sprocket (like DH did AFTER following me up it in Granny Gear once.)

I'm doing this because I want to be strong, fast, healthy. And also because it's fun!