shootingstar
08-31-2009, 12:01 PM
Do you have good friends that you ride with, engage in lots of conversation and do stuff for hours together several times per month? But for these particular friends you have no idea of their personal life at all..ie. if they have children, if they have a partner or not, etc.?
Methinks guys tend to be like this.
Many men seem to easily just not mention their family, etc. once they are on the job/outside the home. It’s like a different mindset kicks in for some guys. Am I imagining things? Quite a number of the guy friends that my dearie hangs out with on cycling issues, advocacy meetings and related rides/events, had no idea that he had 2 children (adult now, with whom he has good relationships with lots of dialogue and brainstorming several times a month), etc. They were surprised when recently, I mentioned about his children in passing. And these are guys have known each other face-to-face for past 8 years. :confused:
Usually I’ve found for even distant female acquaintances, over a long period of months, there is at least rare mention of loved ones in their lives…in passing. Not a core part of the conversation/topic if it doesn’t interest/pertain to the listeners. It’s just part of a person’s life—loved ones...meaning a partner or child/grandchild.
As for women friends, right now am abit stunned to learn of someone I know not super well, but we spent many hrs. chatting up over the past 15 yrs. She announced after many months, to another mutual friend that she was married. There was no indication in casual, past conversation that there was even a special guy in her life.
Or maybe things speed up in marriage area, when one reaches late 40’s??? :rolleyes: (It's her first marriage..)
Methinks guys tend to be like this.
Many men seem to easily just not mention their family, etc. once they are on the job/outside the home. It’s like a different mindset kicks in for some guys. Am I imagining things? Quite a number of the guy friends that my dearie hangs out with on cycling issues, advocacy meetings and related rides/events, had no idea that he had 2 children (adult now, with whom he has good relationships with lots of dialogue and brainstorming several times a month), etc. They were surprised when recently, I mentioned about his children in passing. And these are guys have known each other face-to-face for past 8 years. :confused:
Usually I’ve found for even distant female acquaintances, over a long period of months, there is at least rare mention of loved ones in their lives…in passing. Not a core part of the conversation/topic if it doesn’t interest/pertain to the listeners. It’s just part of a person’s life—loved ones...meaning a partner or child/grandchild.
As for women friends, right now am abit stunned to learn of someone I know not super well, but we spent many hrs. chatting up over the past 15 yrs. She announced after many months, to another mutual friend that she was married. There was no indication in casual, past conversation that there was even a special guy in her life.
Or maybe things speed up in marriage area, when one reaches late 40’s??? :rolleyes: (It's her first marriage..)