Life is not Fair - More Cancer News

[spokewench]

Well, some of you may remember that last year, my brother in law (Sister's hubby) and my other brother in law (Hubby's sister's husband) both passed away within 4 months of each other of colon cancer.

Now, Hubby's sister has been diagnosed with colon cancer! We do not know how advanced it is yet; both brother in laws were in stage 4 when it was found.

I'm just devastated. I cannot even imagine what Hubby's sister is feeling; after losing her husband only a few months ago. I don't even know how to verbalize this Cancer thing anymore. I am so sad and angry

[Aggie_Ama]

((SPOKE)) I am so sad and angry for you. My own father had stage 2/3 (it was on the edge) colon cancer when caught and treated. Hopefully her prognosis will be good as well. Be angry, then be there for her and your husband.

[SadieKate]

Oh my word. I'm speechless. Sad and angry probably is only the tip of the iceberg for your family.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Oh, I am so sorry- how awful.
I truly hope her cancer winds up being curable.

[OakLeaf]

((((((Spokewench))))))

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

[ASammy1]

I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers.

[indysteel]

Spoke, I'm so sorry. This is far more than any family or person should have to deal with. I certainly hope the prognosis is good.

[Red Rock]

Spoke-sorry to hear of your news. I hope you have the strength to be strong for her. No one likes to hear the news of Cancer. Yuk!! x 2!!. May you all be strong, healthy and enjoy life as much as possible.

Red Rock

[derailed]

Best wishes to her and to all of you who support her.

[GLC1968]

Wow, that's an awful lot for one family to have to bear. I'm so sorry!

I hope her pronosis turns out to be a good one.

[Wahine]

Spoke - I went through a period like this that lasted years... first my father died of cancer, then my uncle one month later, then my mother had a heart attack one month after that... we got through that then another uncle was diagnosed with colon cancer (he survived and is doing very well 5 years later) and my mom was diagnosed with cervical cancer, my aunt died of lung cancer, I had to put my dog down and my grandmother died from pneumonia (all that happened withing 6 months)... Then few years later, more cancers more surgeries more family members very close to death. It's a very hard thing to deal with and my heart goes out to you. But it is possible to get through it all and come out the other side a happy and stronger person. (((((((Hugs)))))). Take care of yourself.

[spokewench]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts - I'm just feeling overwhelmed by this news right now. I am going to have faith that this new cancer fight will be a successful one; and take it a day at a time.

Wahine: After reading your struggle, I am saddened that you have had to live with all these tragedies and so close together.

I can only hope that life will get a little easier and be more hopeful for all of us in the future.

spoke

[GeorgiaPeach]

Wow! That is tragic news. I hope that they have caught it early! My mother had colon cancer surgery last Wednesday and we just found out on Monday that it was cured with surgery! She had it done laparascopically, which is a MUCH BETTER way to go if the cancer is limited. The recovery time is faster and they are often able to recover more lymph nodes because the visualization is better. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about this more.

My family is incredibly relieved! We have been through a number of health crises ourselves. My father nearly died before he got a liver transplant last year. Sometimes, it just seems like you draw a bad card, doesn't it? Thankfully, my Dad is doing great and it looks like my mother will do well, too. Hope and prayers and friends go a long way to getting you through times likes these.

[spokewench]

Wow! That is tragic news. I hope that they have caught it early! My mother had colon cancer surgery last Wednesday and we just found out on Monday that it was cured with surgery! She had it done laparascopically, which is a MUCH BETTER way to go if the cancer is limited. The recovery time is faster and they are often able to recover more lymph nodes because the visualization is better. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about this more.

My family is incredibly relieved! We have been through a number of health crises ourselves. My father nearly died before he got a liver transplant last year. Sometimes, it just seems like you draw a bad card, doesn't it? Thankfully, my Dad is doing great and it looks like my mother will do well, too. Hope and prayers and friends go a long way to getting you through times likes these.


I'm glad to hear that your Mom's colon cancer was not very far advanced and they were able to get to it with surgery. Please keep vigilant for her since it can come back and she will need to have tests done frequently to make sure she catches it in time again! Since we just had two men in our family die of colon cancer, we are all pretty well educated about the treatments and surgeries. It's amazing what you learn from direct contact with this disease. Thanks for the offer of help and if I need some input, I will surely PM you.

[Tuckervill]

Oh, that's just terrible. I'm sorry. I hope her outcome is better.

Karen

[channlluv]

Add my good wishes to the list here. I hope your SIL's prognosis is positive. Cancer research has made real progress the last few years. What worries me is so many people in the family having the same kind of cancer, even though you're not all blood-related. It makes me wonder if there's not some sort of environmental thing going on here. Are you all getting screenings? I hope so.

My best to your SIL, and to all of your family in dealing with this.

Warmly,
Roxy

[gingerale]

I'm so sorry! I can only imagine how devastated you all must feel right now. Definitely sending your family some prayers that both have successful treatments and long term outcomes.

[sbctwin]

{{{{{Spokewench}}}}} I am sorry to hear your news. It just seems we get bombarded with news that make one wonder "why?". I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers...

[Tri Girl]

hugs, Spoke! I don't know what to say but I'm thinking of you... so sad. :(

[tulip]

Oh, Spoke, so sorry to hear of your recent news. ((((spoke))))

[malkin]

I'm so sorry.
Wishing you all courage and peace for the coming days.

[ilima]

Wow. I'm sorry. So much for your family to bear. I really hope that it was caught early in your SIL.

[twin]

I am so sorry spoke and I hope somehow things will be better for her.

[Aggie_Ama]

What worries me is so many people in the family having the same kind of cancer, even though you're not all blood-related. It makes me wonder if there's not some sort of environmental thing going on here. Are you all getting screenings? I hope so.


Actually, colon cancer is increasing in our country, so hopefully everyone of age is getting screened. It is believed the diets that many Americans follow is leading to a higher rate. While it is shocking that so many in one family that aren't blood are being diagnosed it is not shocking that people are, unfortunately. I have had both my father, his father (who was actually his adoptive parent so not blood) with colon cancer and my mother had pre-cancerous polyps removed. Three unrelated by blood people from 1989-2006.

I took this snippet from WebMd, although I have in past discussed my risks with my own doctor and my husband's gastroenterologist.


Diets high in fat are believed to predispose humans to colorectal cancer. In countries with high colorectal cancer rates, the fat intake by the population is much higher than in countries with low cancer rates. It is believed that the breakdown products of fat metabolism lead to the formation of cancer-causing chemicals (carcinogens). Diets high in vegetables and high-fiber foods such as whole-grain breads and cereals may rid the bowel of these carcinogens and help reduce the risk of cancer.

[Selkie]

Spoke, sending lots of good karma your way.

[Brandi]

I really hope it has been found early and all you will have to worry about is her recovery. I am sending what strength I have left from all my family illness problems (still going on with two younger nieces being very sick, one fatal). Lucky these women here have enough strength to make up for what my lacks right now for you.My good thoughts are with you and your family.

[sundial]

Oh Spoke, I'm so sorry. :( I don't know why there has to be so much cancer in our families these days. I lost my s-i-l to colon cancer this past summer. As difficult as it was, it brought our family closer together and it taught us to cherish the time we have. I will keep your family in my prayers.

[ASammy1]

Spoke- Any updates? Everyone is thinking about you and your family.

[jesvetmed]

Spoke -- I just found this thread. Just wanted to add my support and good wishes. Hugs to you -- this is all so much. Take care.

[uforgot]

Wow, that doesn't seem fair! Keep us updated and take care.