Prayers for MrFlybye

[Flybye]

My husband goes in at 6:00 am tomorrow (Wednesday the 16th) for surgery on his jaw to correct TMJ issues.
The surgeon will saw his upper jaw away and cut it in a couple of places, add some screws, patch him up and send him home.
He has never been under general and is pretty nervous.

I don't do so well with medical related issues.

Please pray:
That if this surgery shouldn't take place, that there will be something in place to stop it.
That the roads will be safe to drive on both going and coming.
That the surgeon will be awake, alert, and skilled and the anesthesiologist too.
That Chris will have peace.
That the general will be without negative consequences.
That I will be calm and have peace.
For quick recovery.
For me to be calm and helpful, not an additional freaked out patient in the room.
For Chris not to throw up in the truck on the way home.
For the kids' care to go smoothly with the grandmothers while we are away.

I really would appreciate that.

Thanks to everyone on this forum for your advice and help in so many ways - bike and other wise.

[makbike]

Thoughts and prayers are with you guys! Keep us posted.

[Blueberry]

Hugs to you both!

[Popoki_Nui]

Fingers crossed and warm healing thoughts to you both. A first time under GA is always the scariest (I've had four surgeries under GA)...but I'm sure all will go well and MrF will be just fine.

Hugs,
Sherry.

[bouncybouncy]

FB...hang in there! Be positive...smile...be strong...you will be ok!

My hubby just had surgery on his ankle (A couple nights in the hospital, dislocation popped back into place, 11 screws, 2 titanium plates, 2 large pins, 39 staples, and lots of PT ahead)

I spent the morning with him in the pre-op (delayed because the doc had an emergency surgery before Chris {yes same name...hehe}) when he was taken into surgery I took off to Target (closest store) to occupy the first hour (only a 2 hour surgery). I also had a new Tetris game to play in the waiting room for the second hour...

Try to bring something with you that is mindless time passing...reading did not work for me!...if anything, go to the gift shop and pick up a child's game book.

I don't do so well with medical issues either....but when I was in highschool my Mom had a ton of issues with TMJ. She had a surgery done while my Dad was out of the country (he was an Air Force Pilot) She came home with 2 black eyes and a very yellow tone in her facial skin....it was kinda funny tho cause it was Halloween and she felt well enough to answer the door a few times and the kids thought she had the best makeup ever...hahaha

So...just be prepared for some wacky bruising on his face and DO NOT be afraid to call the docs office with any questions!

again...be strong! and take care of yourself too...he will need you!

Meanwhile...I will send you some positive energy!

[maillotpois]

yowza! good luck to both of you. I am sure he'll recover well.

and bouncy - some great words of wisdom.

[salsabike]

When my best friend's husband became very ill, I made her a beginner's knitting kit--got her yarn in her favorite color, cast on a scarf width for her, and sent it in a box, all ready to take out and just start knitting on it. Maximal distraction, minimal thought. She knit and unknit that same scarf in doctors' offices and hospital rooms for about a year before she finished it and went on to the next knitting project. She's still knitting like a fiend four years later.

Flybye, we'll be sending out the good vibes.

[Zen]

All will go well and you will be amazed.

Just take a bucket in the truck with you.

[snapdragen]

Thoughts are with you both "cousin" :D

[Mr. Bloom]

Prayer Flares going up.

I share concerns...I'm one who doesn't tolerate general well. The good news is that he's gone this long without needing surgery!

Godspeed on comfort and a quick recovery as well!

[OakLeaf]

Prayers and hugs to both of you.

[kerrybelle]

Prayers & good healing thoughts are sent to both of you......

[Tuckervill]

Sending out the positive vibes for all the best outcome.

I have TMJ issues, but they are stress and PMS related. I hope he's cured, for good. There's nothing like the feeling of the whole side of your face hurting like you got hit with a shovel. Even my hair hurts when it moves in relation to my pulse, sometimes.

Lifting weights helps! Realigns my neck and shoulders some way makes it all better.

Karen

[Bad JuJu]

Positive healing vibes comin' atcha.

[spokewench]

My thoughts and prayers are with you that all will be well.

Hang in there. It will be fine

spoke

[sundial]

You'll be close in my thoughts and prayers.

[Pedal Wench]

Thoughts are with y'all.

As an aside, I have bad TMJ, and have considered the surgery. Please let us know how the results go and if it relieves the condition, and if he felt it was worth it. Might take a while for him to think about that.

[three]

Best of luck and many prayers for a successful surgery and speedy recovery.

Please keep us posted on the results. I have a friend who is really struggling as a result of his TMJ and would be interested to know if the surgery really helped.

Good luck!

[Brandi]

Many butterflies and healing thoughts coming your way! What a surgery! let's us now how it goes.
What kind of jaw problems was he having? Mine clicks everytime i open it. But I have never thought about sugery for it. Was he in pain? Poor guy. I hope this fix is what he needs!

[Duck on Wheels]

I don't pray, but I'm sending my best virtual butterflies and wishes. We had a tenant go through similar surgery, and all went well. Here's hoping for all those things on your wish list, with a handsome, healthy, jaw-functional guy as a result.

[Wahine]

Sending out the vibes right now. All will be fabulous.

[teigyr]

Let us know how it goes. I'm sorry I didn't see this yesterday or I would have let you know he can ask his surgeon for anti-nausea medication in his IV :D

Honestly, it will be ok. I am sending well-wishes in your direction. I've had similar surgery and I know how scary it can be. If you need anything, please PM me. I don't know what his eating restrictions will be but I have cookbooks and resources for eating liquified foods through baggies :) And if that isn't fabulous enough, the screws are titanium. Yes, some of us DO have titanium!

I don't know how long they estimate his recovery to be but there are some standards that just happen.

My surgery wasn't for TMJ but it had to be done. During the recovery, I never regretted it. Ever.

[RoadRaven]

Hi Flybye
Its Thursday morning here, so am not sure whether Mr. has had his surgery or is about to, but when you get back to TE, know there have been a heap of us looking forward to hearing that all is ok, and you are feeling relieved and tad less stressed with a successful operation...

Aroha from EnZed

[sbctwin]

Hugs and Prayers to Flybye and MrFlybye.

[GLC1968]

Thinking about you, Flybye...and your Mr. I hope everything is going smoothly today!

[sundial]

Flybye, how did your hubby do? Are you guys back home safe and sound?

[LBTC]

More butterflies coming to you, your DH and everyone involved in the surgery and recovery! Please let us know that all has gone well and how you're doing with the extra stress.

Hugs, too,
~T~

[Flybye]

We got up at 4am and headed for the appointment 30 miles away. Everything went without a flaw. His surgery went quicker than expected and he did great! We are both exhausted from the day. I am relieved to the point of tears. I love him so much that I wished I could have taken his place. We met when I was 15 and he 17. We have been together since. Great guy.

Thanks for all of your thoughts, prayers, and pm's. What a blessing. Here is the report from my list in the first post.........


That if this surgery shouldn't take place, that there will be something in place to stop it.
There wasn't - talk about confirmation and trust building.

That the roads will be safe to drive on both going and coming.
They were!!!! We are home safely!

That the surgeon will be awake, alert, and skilled and the anesthesiologist too.
The biggest tear-filled sigh possible on this one!

That Chris will have peace.
He did!

That the general will be without negative consequences.
Went perfectly!

That I will be calm and have peace.
I had as much as was possible for me!

For quick recovery.
We'll wait on this one!

For me to be calm and helpful, not an additional freaked out patient in the room.
Pass.

For Chris not to throw up in the truck on the way home.
NO PUKE!

Grandmothers and kids did great, too!

I am absolutely exhausted and I think I will curl up by him in front of the fire and watch some incredibly shootem' up kind of man movie.

I will post more tomorrow about his diagnosis and answer other questions that were asked............

Thanks for taking the time to comfort us.

Love you guys!

[Brandi]

Awww I am so glad everything went so well! How long have you two been together? Shoot em up man movies aren't so bad when your heart is light. Enjoy eachother life is short!

[three]

Yay! I'm so glad everything went well, that's great news.

Here's to hoping for continued positive energy - a speedy healing and successful surgery that has ended all the pains of TMJ.

[Mr. Bloom]

Hooray!!!

Are his jaws wired shut with this surgery? How long is the recovery?

[sundial]

That's great news, Fly! Good to hear it all went smoothly. Now you get to learn the fine art of pureed food. ;)

[solobiker]

Sorry this is late, I have not been online in a little while. I hope all went well and positive vibes sent his way for a speedy recovery.

[Flybye]

Well, things have slowed down here a little bit and I will see if I can answer some of the questions that were raised......

My DH had this surgery to correct a number of things. Ideally, a mouth should have a bite where the top jaw overlaps the bottom jaw - an overbite. His didn't. His top and bottom jaw were in perfect alignment with one another, causing his teeth to bite flush. This caused all of his teeth to be the same length, the canines, and the top two front teeth. Because of an improper bite, his enamel was wearing off of his teeth and he was starting to have problems with his jaw popping and wearing of the connective tissue at the top of his jaw bone. Although the popping and the connective tissue problems weren't all that bad just yet, they would certainly get worse. This surgery was, in essence, to avoid repairing the tissue that connects the top and bottom of the jaw, by the temple - the part that "pops". That surgery is apparently more difficult, more painful, and more costly. Most people who have TMJ issues can have them corrected by wearing braces. Even as an adult. Unfortunately, his jaw structure required braces and surgery.

Another unfortunate, for us, was that at this stage in the game, the insurance company considers the surgery more of a cosmetic or elective surgery. Grrrrr. That's a whole other soap box. We fortunately, were able to scrap up the money to pay for the surgery out of pocket. Man, we could have bought a LOT of NICE bikes with that cashola. Oh well.

The surgeon went under the top lip and cut the tissue and nose away from the jaw- CRINGE - cut and broke the jaw away, put screws and pins in the jaw bone, did some fancy stitch work, and called it a day. The result is an overbite, and the front jaw brought down more. I am such a pansy when it comes to medical related stuff that you'd have to shoot me before you did this to me, however, I know that it will be worth it in the long run. I have more respect for my husband now than ever.

I think I got an extra measure of grace with medical related stuff- we have three kids. I had natural childbirth for two out of three. If I add all of my labor up with all three kids, it totals FOUR hours!! That is the extent of my experience with that. Now that's grace!

MrSilver - They didn't wire him shut, which absolutely amazes me. He has titanium screws and apparently they are strong enough to keep everything in place. He's a regular superhero now! Recovery is two weeks. He looks like a chipmunk right now. No public appearances for awhile!

Brandi - We have been together for 20 years, 15 of them married. We have had our ups and downs, just like anyone else, but we are committed to making it always work. We are best friends. I wouldn't have it any other way. Didn't you recently get engaged?

Solo, Teigry, Smilingcat and all, thanks!

I must go make a smoothie, fill some ice packs, deliver antibiotics and pain meds, or something. Man, I know for sure that I never want to be a nurse. :D:D:D

[teigyr]

It's too bad re the insurance. My surgeon was pretty savvy with that stuff and he had me do a "personalized account" of all my inconveniences. It sounds like your husband's case was worse than mine so I'm surprised about the insurance.

The screws are very strong :D He'll look like a chipmunk for a while, alas. The 2nd day after surgery DH and I went to the grocery store. I was fairly brazen about going out. I threatened DH to be Very Nice or else I would (in line in front of people) jump and say "don't hurt me again!" Good thing DH has a sense of humor. It was SO funny to watch people look at me. They kind of wondered if DH WAS a spouse beater.

And for those who are curious about the surgery, there are medical websites that have videos of it. It isn't pretty.

Flybye, I am so glad the two of you are doing well :D

[Mr. Bloom]

It's too bad re the insurance.

Yep, SilverDaughter just got her wisdom teeth out this morning. $1,700 uninsured - much to my surprise and chagrin!

She's a pretty sick girl right now.

But, as a testimony to modern technology, she can't speak clearly but she can communicate with us by texting on her cell:p She does that as fast as I type!

[snowtulip]

Flybye, so glad everything went well and I'm sending plenty of quick recovery vibes your hubbies way!

[Flybye]

Yep, SilverDaughter just got her wisdom teeth out this morning. $1,700 uninsured - much to my surprise and chagrin!

She's a pretty sick girl right now.

But, as a testimony to modern technology, she can't speak clearly but she can communicate with us by texting on her cell:p She does that as fast as I type!


Poor girl! Tell her we wish her well.
If you need any good smoothie recipes, look no further!!

Do you know if your insurance covered the anesthesia? That is one unanswered questions we still have. You'd think they would have to, but one never knows!

Thanks Snowtulip! He is in the basement in front of the man TV. He'll play some Halo, then rest, then play some Assasin's Creed, rest a bit, watch a movie, and so the day goes!! He's happy to have shed the TED hose. One small step for mankind.

[sundial]

Yes, and I'm sending well wishes and quick healing for your darling man.

Mr. Silver, how many wisdom teeth did daughter have extracted? Each one of mine was $500. :eek:

[Flybye]

Yes, and I'm sending well wishes and quick healing for your darling man.

Mr. Silver, how many wisdom teeth did daughter have extracted? Each one of mine was $500. :eek:

Thanks Sundial!!

I think the tooth fairy should PAY US for our wisdom teeth. She sets us up at an early age, a dollar here, a dollar there, and the BAM.... :eek: pay up! Something isn't right with this picture! :D

[sundial]

She sets us up at an early age, a dollar here, a dollar there, and the BAM.... :eek: pay up! Something isn't right with this picture! :D

It's called getting old, LOL!

[Mr. Bloom]

Four wisdom teeth extracted...

I just found out that actually insurance may pay some...but usually dental/vision stinks...

[sundial]

Here's something to make it a little less painful. :)

http://www.jibjab.com/view/204929

[Flybye]

And a little something else from one of my all time favorites, Mr. Bean!

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=mr+bean+dentist&search=Search

[IFjane]

Mr & Mrs. Flybye - best wishes to you both! This kind of thing is never easy - and seems even more difficult as adults. I hope the healing process is quick and you both will be back to "normal" (what's that???) soon!


BTW, my soon-to-be DH lived in Idaho for a few years - in Sandpoint & Priest River.....waaaaay up there....Someday I hope to visit the area and see what it is like. I hear it is beautiful! Enjoy - heal quickly - think SPRING! :);)

[sundial]

Mr. Bean--LOL!!

[Flybye]

Mr & Mrs. Flybye - best wishes to you both! This kind of thing is never easy - and seems even more difficult as adults. I hope the healing process is quick and you both will be back to "normal" (what's that???) soon!


BTW, my soon-to-be DH lived in Idaho for a few years - in Sandpoint & Priest River.....waaaaay up there....Someday I hope to visit the area and see what it is like. I hear it is beautiful! Enjoy - heal quickly - think SPRING! :);)

Normal is just a setting on a Dryer - not my own quote, but nevertheless.

Northern Idaho is phenomenally beautiful. Well worth a trip. Stunning.

Thanks for the well wishes.