invsblwmn in hospital!

[lph]

Just in case y'all aren't reading the "officially a bike commuter"-thread - invsblwmn is in hospital after being run down by a suv :eek:

I'm going to meddle and repost her story here:

"when the boss threatens to fire u if u ever get near a bike again...
good news.. i'm alive

i am typing this from my hospital bed, been here since last wednesday. have had two surgeries on my right arm, have at least 3 more over the next few months. can't walk, but should be able to in the next few weeks. going home today or tomorrow in a wheelchair, still w/ unbelievable pain. thinking about hanging up the bike. got hit in a crosswalk by an 80 year old man going over 40mph in a suv who didn't even see that there was a light. plain lucky to be alive. happened right in front of hospital, so docs were there in less than a minute and a fire fighter stabilized me until then. i have lots of support as i work at this hospital, but i miss riding so much. not looking 4 pity, just support and understanding. no head injuries or torso, just back and limbs (left arm works and has iv lines fot morphine and antibiotics). do u think i should get back on?"

[indigoiis]

Wow. How discouraging! :( I hope you recover fully and are back to good health again as soon as possible!

Thanks for reposting her post.

Indy

[makbike]

Gosh, what an awful experience. I hope you heal quickly and pain subsides with each passing minute. Hang in there and take care of yourself.

[Pax]

Holy cow!! :eek:

Lots of healing thoughts headed your way.

[sbctwin]

invsblwmn, give yourself time to heal. Getting hit by a car takes a toll, physically and mentally. I am glad you are going home and can rest and heal. YOU ARE ALIVE. When it is time for you to get back in the saddle, you will know if/when it is 'right'. I hope you don't end up giving up riding. Good luck in your healing process....

[pll]

(((invsblwmn)))

Yikes. First order of business is to take care of yourself and heal. Get better soon. Like sbctwin says, you'll know when the right time for biking is.

[silver]

Oh dear! Yes, first order is healing. I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

If you want to ride again, then RIDE AGAIN! Riding for me, after my wreck, has been great therapy. (mine was different because I wasn't hit by a car) You will ride differently, but you will still find the joy that you get from riding! Hang in there!!!!!

Let me know if there's anything that I can help you with.

[redrhodie]

What a horrible accident! I'll be thinking about you on my ride today. Big Hugs!

[KnottedYet]

((((((invsblwmn)))))

[LBTC]

Big, gentle blue, green and cream butterflies helping you heal completely and quickly. And, when you're ready to think about riding again, bright orange butterflies to give you confidence and visibility on your bike!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Invsblwmn}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Thank you for posting, lph!

Hugs and butterflies,
~T~

[bmccasland]

((((((((Invsblwmn)))))))))

Hope you get to feeling better, and back on your bike when you're ready.

[spokewench]

God how awful - wishing you many healing thoughts!

And, should you ride again - of course, it is like riding a horse, you fall, you get back on! Think back to all the wonderful experiences you had on your bike - and all the good things healthwise that come from it. Keep thinking of the positive and you will fall in love with your bike again! It might take a while to get over the fear, but it will be worth it.

spoke

[Grog]

(gentle) hug to you, hope you recover soon...

[northstar]

Oh, wow...how terribly scary. I'm glad you are going to be all right...sending best wishes for speedy healing of all kinds...physical and otherwise.

[indysteel]

How awful!!!! I'm so sorry about your accident. I hope you're feeling better very, very soon. I hope that you're eventually ready--both physically and emotioanally--to get back on your bike. Just give yourself some time to heal.

Hugs,

Kate

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Oh MAN. How AWFUL, and how UNFAIR!!!! :mad: :mad: :( :( :(

Thank God you had no head injuries. Please get stronger and better soon. Don't worry about bikes for a while, just concentrate on your recovery for now.

(((((((hugs))))))))

[sundial]

Oh, what a terrible accident! I am so happy you are alive and on the road to healing. It was a terrible thing to happen to you, but at least you were near the hospital. I will keep you close in my thoughts and prayers.

Sending you a big cyber hug,
Cathy

[Tuckervill]

Here's hoping the worst is over for you!

Should you ride again? I'd say it's too soon to tell, but if I had to guess I'd say YES!

Healing vibes speeding your way.

Karen

[sgtiger]

<<<<<<invsblwmn>>>>>>

I hope you have a speedy recovery and I'll be sending you healing energy in my meditations.

Hang in there,

~Soo

[RoadRaven]

Thank you, lph, for posting this for us

I have just posted in the commuting thread with my thoughts of quick healing join the others.

DOUBLE POST:
Perhaps you need to change your name to "SEE ME HERE woman"!!!

Here is a short story for you - I posted in the crazy driver forum about 3 local club members who were knocked off their bikes early on a Sunday morning. Jo went into the windscreen and then onto the road while her bike went under the car, Ray and Shona were thrown aside with their bikes into the gutter/ditch.

All three have been along to club races to help with marshalling. Jo has been out riding on bike paths and off road. Ray and Shona were along on Saturday. Shona didn't sign up for the race, though she did ride it - neck brace and all. Ray was on what looked like a kids chopper - just an adult size. Very upright and I guess that is to do with his recovery process.

They love cycling so much they are all experimenting with ways that feel right to get back on their bikes.

IW, just take your time on your path to recovery - its going to be a tough-at-times mental, physical and spiritual journey. Believe in your self, be patient with yourself.
Kia kaha, kia manawanui
Awhi awhi and aroha from NZ

~Raven~

[mimitabby]

Invisiblewmn I think you need a new screen name, like VERYVISIBLEwoman!

get well soon!

[coyote]

as others have said ((((((invsblwmn)))))

[mimitabby]

Invisible, you asked in another thread, should you ride again.
I think only you can answer that question. I hope you do; but if you don't, i will understand. Only YOU know what you are going through. There are others on this forum (Silver for one, Triskelion another) who have had serious accidents and have come back to ride.
What kind of injuries do you have on your legs?

[mtbdarby]

So very sorry to hear of your accident. From your tone in your post it sounds like you still want to ride, but healing the physical wounds comes first. Take good care of yourself and keep us posted on your progress.

[skyhand]

Man that's terrible! Seems no matter how careful we all are (using a crosswalk, no less), danger always lurks and sometimes nails us. I'm glad to hear you're alive and recovering, Invisiblewmn! I wonder what will happen, or has happened, to the guy who hit you. I'll have to browse the other post to see if there's word on that.

I say give it some time, heal well and take your rest. If you feel like biking, then by all means do so. Maybe restrict yourself to trails in the beginning, away from motorized vehicles of all kinds, just until you feel more comfortable again?

[Voodoo Sally]

Oh, no, Invisible! I'm so sorry. When I read your post over the summer about your tangle with the landscaper's trailer, I was so amazed at your bravery in that accident, and your give 'em hell attitude then. You straightened your wheel with your bare hands, and kept on riding to work, with broken bones and all. I even referred to that thread on another thread where someone needed encouragement from her scrape-up.

If anyone can get through this, it's you. You're like a hero to me!

BTW, I think it wasn't entirely clear, were you riding your bike or walking when you got hit this time?

[margo49]

Serious!
Been there (sort of).
An accident caused by someone's stupidity and irresponsibility is devastating. Your life is changed in a second. Note the grammar "is changed" rather than "changes".
But always remember you are alive and especially try top keep in mind that you are the same person inside. Slowly you recover; with surgery, medical help and the support of those who love you and know you (or in our case hear about you).
Never give up and never give up hope.

love, thoughts and prayers...

[elk]

Wishing you a Fast recovery...in all ways.

elk

[invsblwmn]

Still in harrisburg hospital today. Moving to inpatient rehab at community general osteopathic tomorrow. Will be there 3 days to learn wheelchair transfers. Folks are coming from alaska friday for a preplanned visit and dad's building me a removable ramp for the wheelchair for a week. I have the most wonderful partner at home whom is here every day EXCEPTtomorrow as it is her bday and she's not allowed by me and is sentenced to tuesday nite poker w/ her friends. :)

condition updates- legs need weeks of rest to heal. immobilizer on the left, torn miniscus, partial quad, ham and calf tear, and cartilidge tears. RGT leg-no more tests for 3 weeks. likely torn ICL, brised from top to bottom. . no surgery for three weeks more.
2 plates and five screws in rgt arm too swollen to cast(soft cast for now).

TOOK TEN STEPS W/ PARALELL BAR AND MOD assist of one today and got my first real shower. :D

left wrist starting to weaken so walking is done for a bit, butttttt- my surgeon, a utah mtn biker(and personally resposible for saving of my sidis, was the only one whom could figure out the ratcheting system.), suggested that when my body as ready, I rehab on a trainer and then trails ON THE BIKE!!!

The 80 y. o. got only a ticket for running a red light, my attorney's taking care of me. I was riding my bike across the street in the crosswalk when he struck me



Pain is intense, vico, oxy help some. getting lovenox shots to prevent clotts (1.5 more weeks.) still sporting a foley bag, have tons of visitors daily. love you guys and breathing off your support. Dawn

[lph]

Way to go on the walking progress!
And you have a surgeon who's a mtn biker - how cool is THAT! :D

I'm keeping you in mind when I'm out in traffic these days. Ride safe, everyone, the next one might not be so "lucky".

[DirtDiva]

All that higher education in the room and only one person could figure out your Sidis? Thank goodness for your surgeon, in more ways than one - that sounds like it was an incredibly nasty accident. All the best for your recovery. :)

[Pax]

So glad to hear you're getting top notch treatment AND have a great support system in place!! Here's hoping every day shows improvement and much less pain.

[crazycanuck]

:( :eek: :( :mad: :( :eek:

Yowzers...

I just want you to know I hope your recovery is quick as it can be!!! Take care & be gentle on yourself.

C

[Duck on Wheels]

Now that you're on the road to recovery (HURRAH!!!!), is it time for some dark humor about the name you chose for yourself? True, you got hit by "Blinddrvr". He didn't even see the light. Prob'ly wouldn't have seen you if you'd had a foot-high flourescent mohawk poking out of your helmet and blinking xmas lights all over the bike. Makes me think that if not seeing the light or you was an acceptable excuse in court, then he needs to have his license revoked. Can't see? Don't drive! Still you might wanna call yourself something other than invsblwmn hereafter, just for anti-jinx' sake ... ?

[cosc]

What a rotten hand you have been dealed.:( I hope you heal quickly and feel better soon.

Older drivers can be such a danger on the road. Tough love intervention from family is sometimes the only answer.

[mimitabby]

oh man, i am so sorry.

The good news is the old man got cited. that means he's at fault and will make all your court stuff go through much easier. Ask your lawyer if he can get the guy off the road!!

[onimity]

Hey Dawn,

Glad that you are healing but ouch, and how scary. I am glad that things are not even more serious and hope the pain backs off soon. I can't believe he only got a ticket for running the red light!!! I suppose you have to actually kill someone to lose your license?!? :eek: Congrats on those first steps and keep your good attitude.

Anne

[RoadRaven]

Yay... you've been up and showered... such good news...

Weeks of recovery... ah ((((hugs IW))))... but we are all here to listen and support and encourage you.

[mimitabby]

Maybe we could get the address of where you will be staying so we can send you cards and stuff?

[DeniseGoldberg]

I join everyone else in sending healing wishes your way.

As far as riding goes, give your body time to heal, and then follow your desires. It's OK if you don't want to ride, just as it is OK if you do. And honestly, I hope that you are able to look past your horrible accident and roll down the road again under your own power. It's up to you though, and there isn't a right or a wrong here.

I didn't have the orthopedic injuries that you will need to overcome in my own crash (http://www.crazyguyonabike.com/doc/denise2004crash) three years ago, brain injuries and a skull fracture were enough for me... But I knew that I still wanted to ride. It was a while coming - as I'm sure others will tell you too - but when the time was right my bike and I were reunited.

Be kind to yourself. Take things easy, and know that there will be both good days and bad days. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk offline.

Oh, and I hope that your attorney can do something about getting that driver off the road permanently. It sounds to me like he got off (way) too lightly with just a ticket for running a red light. Hitting a cyclist is serious stuff.

--- Denise

[ShubieGA]

Dawn,

Healing wishes sent your way! Getting to shower had to make your day after some tough sounding ones. Take care, and we all look forward to hearing your progress.

Shubie

[Geonz]

(big snips)
The 80 y. o. got only a ticket for running a red light, my attorney's taking care of me. I was riding my bike across the street in the crosswalk when he struck me

Dawn

This is the part that makes NO SENSE to me. Driving shoudl be a privilege and when you prove that you can't handle the responsibility you shouldn't be allowed to do it.

[Tuckervill]

I just wanted to notify all of you that the person who hit and killed a cyclist in my small town about 2 years ago was recently found and tried. He got 10 years for manslaughter.

http://www.nwaonline.net/articles/2007/09/20/news/092007bzlobaton.prt

The penalties aren't always so light. I thought justice was done in this case.

Karen

[short cut sally]

Oh my gosh girl..hugs to you..get yourself healed and feeling better then worry about ridin' that bike. The bike will be there waiting for you. Best wishes, and hopefully the guys insurance will be paying for your loss.

[tjf9]

OMG! Healing vibes coming your way. I hope your recovery is speedy.

[invsblwmn]

painful but grateful to be alive. address here is helen simpson rehab room 289,4300 Londonderry Rd, Harrisburg, PA 17109 c/o dawn temple
painful first day of rehab, but learning alot and meeting some amazing people. still grateful to be alive, but i cannot imagine not riding again. the support u all have given, truely provides much strength to deal with the pain. thank you all;) dawn

[Triskeliongirl]

Hi Dawn. So sorry to hear about your accident. I was also hit by an SUV commuting to work, now almost seven years ago. My pelivs, hip and sacrum and L5 vertebrae were broken. I now have a twisted hip and 3 cm leg length disrepancy (LLD). I still ride, but it changed the way I ride forever. I ride much more defensively, and have 'rules' about when, where, and how I ride. What I can tell you is that its a process. Right now your goal is recovery. I started back on a stationary bike in a gym, and then a car free bike path. It took time, and then I had to work through the physical issues of the LLD and I finally resolved it with a custom crank set that compensates. The hardest was being able to ride through the intersection I was hit in. Even harder, was starting to enjoy my commute again (which took probably 6-7 YEARS). PM me when you are ready to talk about any of this. But right now, focus on getting well. I firmly believe the adage 'what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.' Learn about yourself and grow from this. Try to see the silver lining. -eileen

[RoadRaven]

This is the part that makes NO SENSE to me. Driving shoudl be a privilege and when you prove that you can't handle the responsibility you shouldn't be allowed to do it.

Yeah, with you on that one Geonz

And who cares if this person is 80 (age is often a reason here for lighter penalties) we are talking about complete upheaval of not just IW's life and wellness, but also her entire family. Her friends will also be affected and all of us that are following her progress... how many of us that have read how this happened will assume ANY kind of safety on a green light/pedestrian crossing?

This needs to be well-publicised, this person should lose their right to drive. A speeding ticket is an insult and a callous disregard for the well-being of those entitled to use the road. What would have been the result if it had been a 5yr old on the way to school?

I trust by you saying, IW, that your attorny is taking care of you, that your attorny is following up more compensation (haha, that seems a ridiculous concept, how can money give back to you what was taken??) than a speeding ticket - getting this person to pay all medical costs, transport costs, insurance costs...

Wishing you speedy healing and each day with less pain in it...

[mimitabby]

since the driver was cited, the costs of IW's care (and pain and suffering, etc, etc) will go to the driver's insurance. There is a max; above which will then go to the driver's homeowner's insurance or even a lien on their real personal property.

This person won't be driving again. I highly doubt it.

[bmccasland]

since the driver was cited, the costs of IW's care (and pain and suffering, etc, etc) will go to the driver's insurance. There is a max; above which will then go to the driver's homeowner's insurance or even a lien on their real personal property.

This person won't be driving again. I highly doubt it.

Not to sound like a nasty wet rag, but do not discount the power of the AARP in keeping senior citizens driving. My XH was a paramedic in a predominately retirement community (Sun City, AZ) and ooohhh the stories he would tell about accidents and the total lack of penalties.

So will be up to Dawn's attorney to force the issue of compensation and penalties. Or at least compensation. There's civil law and criminal law. I agree, this should be criminal. It's criminal to beat someone to a pulp but often only civil to run them down (unless there's intent).

Must get back to that %#&* report I'm supposed to be writing.

Hope you get to feeling better Dawn. Gentle hugs to you!

[Geonz]

Righto.

First... sending healing thoughts your way...

Second, though... the elderly driver who killed Jan Briese here in Illinois (her picture is on the IDOT bicycling maps) didn't even know he'd hit anything... and got *no* consequences. There was, I believe, a verbal agreement that he wouldn't drive again. Nothing binding... and, welp, no consequences. Farnsworth, the guy should at least have to do community service. Go out and pick up litter by the side of the road or something. THINK ABOUT THE CARNAGE YOU CAUSED!!!!
And *maybe* he is... and if so, he own't *mind* doing community service.

And our fearless girl who killed Matt Wilhelm because she was too busy downloading ringtones... probation, fine for "wrong use of lane," and she had already gotten enough tickets to lose her license... *IF* the 'system' hadn't somehow lost track of her assorted red-light-running and speeding habits...

And... and... and... but no, the current attitude is that driving is something we all NEED to do. However, there was a time when people honestly felt like we should all be allowed to drink a bit as long as we found our way home. Change can happen.

[Geonz]

painful but grateful to be alive. address here is helen simpson rehab room 289,4300 Londonderry Rd, Harrisburg, PA 17109 c/o dawn temple
painful first day of rehab, but learning alot and meeting some amazing people. still grateful to be alive, but i cannot imagine not riding again. the support u all have given, truely provides much strength to deal with the pain. thank you all;) dawn

Hang in there~~~ day two is tomorrow and we're with you...

[Torrilin]

Community General is good people :). They did Mom's hip replacement, and their rehab people were great for her. You've got good doctors and nurses, and that will help.

*thinking good thoughts for you*

[invsblwmn]

here, good people, no, the best! i work professionally with the hospital system associated with this rehab. these people were my friends, now are my family.
painful three hours today. who thought that squeezing your buttocks was exercise, i thought it was just for preventing embarrassing scents in a meeting.:D
i never coud stay in bed more than 6 hours a nite, now close to 20 hours seems like not enough. my roomie is an beautiful 81 croatian immigrant whom stroked a week ago. her storiies of wwII take my mind off of the pain and on the gratitude for love and support of my drs, nurses, n therapists.
tired from typing 1 handed, but must give u updates. U all cannot begin to see the strength u give me, laughter is always food 4 me. Triskeliongirl-we will talk, if u are open, i need ur wisdom. by the way, cookies, esp chocolate chip, have healing powers :) Take care, d

[teawoman]

Yikes! How awful for you! Big Hugs and positive heal-y thoughts!

[Triskeliongirl]

Triskeliongirl-we will talk, if u are open, i need ur wisdom. d

Of course I am open. For now, just rest, and get your strength back. Its a PROCESS....... The silver lining is that living through something like this can have other things in your life suddenly take on increased meaning, the people in your life, your health, all kinds of things. Hang tough, you will heal, and no matter what you will come back even stronger!

[LBTC]

[QUOTE=Triskeliongirl;250396 The silver lining is that living through something like this can have other things in your life suddenly take on increased meaning, the people in your life, your health, all kinds of things.[/QUOTE]

So true! My passion now is photography. I was brought to it by breaking my humerus in a bike crash, losing my dog to cancer, being shunned by people we thought were friends, developing a not-quite-explainable illness, etc, over the last 9 years.....Each difficult situation has developed my spirit and its connection to my camera more acutely. You will grow from this, but it may take years before you really see how. In the meantime, take the time you need to fully recover, and look for the joy that can be found everywhere - if not in every moment, at least in every day.

Still surrounding you in butterflies,
Hugs,
~T~

[KnottedYet]

(((((Dawn)))))) (((((((Dawn's Sweetie))))))

I have patients who I *know* shouldn't be driving, but there's nothing I can do legally to stop them. Just today I was thinking about "what happens when I get older and more ding-batty and shouldn't drive?". I'm hoping someone can stop me, and that I'll have the sense to stick to my bike, the bus, and taxis.

Hang in there, Dawn!

And I'm so glad you have a lawyer!

[Tuckervill]

When my grandmother was in her '80s, she hit and killed a highway construction worker. It wasn't entirely her fault, because he was standing with no orange vest on, in the shadow of a piece of road equipment with the setting sun behind him. She was not charged.

She eventually went back to driving herself to church after she recovered from the sorrow of it. But eventually it became clear she shouldn't drive anymore. It was very difficult for my aunt and dad to convince her that she shouldn't drive. What they did is "enable" her car to be "beyond repair". It seemed like lying to her to me, but they said this is how they found out how bad her memory was getting. She was too easily convinced that the car was broken because she didn't remember it being "broken" the same way the last time. Very hard on her kids, and especially my aunt, who became her transportation for all the running around she loved to do.

I'm taking that as a lesson, and I hope to still be riding a bike when I get that old. I hope to convey to my kids the way I would want them to handle it before I can't remember where I was headed to when I leave the house.

Karen

[DeniseGoldberg]

So true! My passion now is photography. I was brought to it by breaking my humerus in a bike crash, losing my dog to cancer, being shunned by people we thought were friends, developing a not-quite-explainable illness, etc, over the last 9 years.....Each difficult situation has developed my spirit and its connection to my camera more acutely. You will grow from this, but it may take years before you really see how. In the meantime, take the time you need to fully recover, and look for the joy that can be found everywhere - if not in every moment, at least in every day.

Still surrounding you in butterflies,
Hugs,
~T~
I found solace and creativity in my camera too. I've always taken pictures, but after my accident in 2004 my camera became my constant companion. At first I think I was using it as an excuse to myself about why I wasn't walking further or faster - even though I knew I was walking as much as my physical condition allowed. But the camera helped me, it really did...

I think we all (can) find strength in ourselves as we fight through things in life, and as we work to recover from nasty accidents like Dawn's.

And Dawn - one thing that helped me (besides playing with my camera and pushing in my normal fashion to return to normal) was to write about my experience. I wrote in a journal (http://www.crazyguyonabike.com/doc/denise2004crash) posted on crazyguyonabike, but a blog would work just as well. Getting my thoughts and frustrations out helped a lot.

I'm still sending healing thoughts, and I hope that you have (or can find) something to help keep your spirits up as you go through the (often too long) healing process.

--- Denise

[jeannierides]

Dawn, sorry to hear about your accident. I have no wise words, as I am still struggling through my own recovery and all the emotions surrounding it. But I will say to just hang in there, lean on your friends, and be around as many positive people as you can. If you want to ride your bike again, in time you will.

[Bron]

Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

[invsblwmn]

pain exhausted, improving maybe home next week. miss updating, but i am too tired. cookies are helping, though :)

[LBTC]

Sending loads of butterflies (and some pretty pictures, too)

You'll get there!

Hugs,
~T~

[invsblwmn]

i laugh, i cry, i stand and pivot, but no walking for two months at least. need time to digest all this, love the support. not going to be able to keep the daily updates, but maybe weekly. not able to go home till maybe next week, not sure. still in rehab. thanks for the prayers, words, and love. still here, just ghosting for a bit. take care all. insvblwmn

[mimitabby]

no walking for 2 months! awful! keep working. See if you can get a weight to lift with your "good" arm.

keep in touch! keep coming back here to talk to us.

[Torrilin]

i laugh, i cry, i stand and pivot, but no walking for two months at least. need time to digest all this, love the support. not going to be able to keep the daily updates, but maybe weekly. not able to go home till maybe next week, not sure. still in rehab. thanks for the prayers, words, and love. still here, just ghosting for a bit. take care all. insvblwmn

Pain is exhausting. So is rehab. We'll be here, cheering you on. Don't feel like you have to post if you're too tired or hurting.

[sundial]

It's encouraging to hear you are making progress in your recovery. :) I know you must get frustrated at times, but your body has to heal at it's own pace and with rest and lots of support, you will be getting around soon. And besides, you can soak in all the pampering from your friends and loved ones.

[Wahine]

Insvblwmn, I'm a PT and although I can't say I know how you feel, I can say I've seen people go through similar situations (the toughest job I had was working on a rehab ward with people who had spinal cord injuries). My heart goes out to you. It's a really tough scenario. I'm sending out all kinds of great healing vibes for you. You'll get better, you'll walk, you'll ride your bike if you want to.

In the meantime remember that when someone has a serious injury like this you go through the same stages of grieving as if you've been diagnosed with terminal illness or have lost a loved one.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kübler-Ross_model

So be patient, accept the crying when it comes and try to see this as a time when you're going to learn more about yourself than you can imagine. Once the recovering is done, you will be a stronger person.

[Tuckervill]

Take all the time you need. We'll be here when you get back, and we won't forget you.

You can do it!
Karen

[Jo-n-NY]

I am so sorry. I just saw this thread. Take time to heal and then one step at a time.

Many of us have had cycling accidents. I knew I would right away I wanted to get back on. The only difference in my riding is, I ride more cautious and seem to be more aware of my surroundings. Not that I was never cautious before, but maybe just more alert and loving it. As Silver said, riding is the best therapy.

Please take care and take one day at a time.

~ JoAnn

[Tri Girl]

I've been following, but haven't posted. Don't know the right words to say. Only that I'm thinking of you, and sending you speedy recovery vibes. Can't imagine the pain, anguish, frustration and helplessness you must be feeling.
I'm just glad that you'll eventually be physically ok- the emotional part may take a lot longer. :(

Hope you feel a little better with each passing day. :)

[bmccasland]

Dawn - Sending good vibes from the Big Easy. Here's to more good days than bad days :p

Is there a mailing address for you, so we can flood your mail box with fan mail? Or do you prefer the electronic form?

[Triskeliongirl]

In terms of adapting your house, we moved our bedrrom to the first floor, making it easier to get around to the most heavily used spaces, getting in and out of the house, etc.. A lot of what you have to do will be obvious. The biggest problem I had was that while we had a bathroom on the first floor it lacked a tub/shower. I found after a while that I was able to sit on my bum on the stairs, and push up with my hands one step at a time. Then my husband could help me in and out of the tub, equipped with a shower chair. Obviusly you will have to ask your PT for tips on strategies to use if you also need to get up stairs in regard to your specific injuries. If it is a problem for you, other options include having someone carry you up stairs, or in the beginning I had my husband drive me to use a shower at work which I could get to on flat ground plus an elevator (a gym shower might also work). I purchased a camping shower to try in my yard, again, I could get to it on flat ground, but I didn't like it, but that's an option too. I also found those towelettes they use for sponge baths in the hospital could be used to keep me fresh feeling between showers.

So glad to hear you will be released soon. It must mean you are making terrific progress!

[Pax]

Still thinking about you daily and hoping the pain eases a bit. Don't worry about updating, just focus on your rehab...we'll be here sending you positive healing thoughts each day.

[lph]

Hang in there, Dawn! The weather is so beautiful out, I'll take an extra loop for you today :)

[KnottedYet]

((((Dawn))))) We're thinking of you!

[margo49]

Thinking of you lots.
Sent a card to that rehab place and will send another one to this address you just posted.
It's slow (and *feels* even slower) but you get results if you keep positive and really disciplined about physiotherapy. A friend just visited me who I had visited *9 months after* my Terrible Tractor Accident , and said how much better my injuries are now i.e. *3 years on*. That gives you a perspective but also the hope that you *will* get there

[lph]

Hang in there, Dawn! The weather is so beautiful out, I'll take an extra loop for you today :)

Well, that was an.... "interesting" loop... Came flying down the same hill I've done a zillion times, oops, came on the wrong side of that tree root, not to worry, I can just force my way through that little hollow - and suddenly the very short stem I now have on my bike did something and my wheel went sideways. I didn't. Shot over the top, landed on my head, elbow and hip, breaking my helmet and bruising the rest.

I was planning on just sitting around feeling sorry for myself and eating chocolate all evening, but then I figured: invsblwmn would probably be SO HAPPY to have just these minor scrapes and bumps, that will heal in a few days.

See Dawn, your accident has a positive effect too - it makes us wimps realize how damn lucky we are. :)

You'll be out there too, at some point!

I did eat the chocolate, though.

[LBTC]

lph - sorry about your accident. Glad you were wearing your helmet!!

Dawn - I'm headed outside to take more photos, and thinking of butterflies all around you, keeping your smile and your healing in gear!

Hugs and butterflies,
~T~

[Geonz]

Sending bugs and hutterflies here, too :)

[invsblwmn]

PLL, got the gourmet cokies early this am, OMG!!! So good,so thoughtful. Able to type with 3 fingers on the right hand now,still splinted, and owy, but staples should come out soon, plates r strong dr. says. lph, pain is relative to experience, so sorry about ur loop, maybe u should take ur own loop next time, mine appears a bit dangerous. heal quickly!

going home friday. about the house, 1 story condo in a retirement community (we planned ahead and didnt know we would need it so soon), and the PT,OT,my mom, and I did a home visit today. i could get in and out of the car, my dad built a wc ramp, need a little equipment, tub bench, hospital bed, bedside commode, grab bars, etc... was a bit hard rolling the wheelchair on the carpet. the cats freaked when they saw the wheelchair. The important thing was i COUld get in and out of the lazyboy and the bathroom and into the fridge. good day today,real tired, but the support is never ending,so my body fights on! Someone pick up an extra 18 miles for me tomorrow, ok? :cool:

[crazycanuck]

HEy :)

I'll bike a few extra km's for you :)

I'll search for some yummy things to send you from Australia :)

C

[RoadRaven]

Hey there Dawn
I am so impresses by your matter-of-factness and getting-on-with-it-ness

I know there must be swings of extreme emotion, but we are following your progress and thinking of you every day

I light a candle every evening and think on people I care for and send positive energy their way, which will arrive if they wish it... I have been doing this every day since I read of this crime against you.

I am still as incensed as I felt when I first read/posted in this thread, however, your courage through this is truly inspiring.

Arohanui
Raven

[pll]

We are all thinking of you. Glad you got the cookies -- you'll have to disclose your favorite :D .

I'll ride some miles for you this weekend.

Take care!

[redrhodie]

So glad to hear you're heading home! That's fantastic! Rode for you yesterday, a beautiful, easy paced ride. Hugs! RR

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I'll ride 18 miles for you too! :)

Keep making progress. Every day it will get a tiny bit better.

[mimitabby]

I rode 8 yesterday after deciding to take a nap. I was almost to the sofa... and then i changed my mind and rode into the spitting clouds (almost rain)
I hope that counts.
Dawn, how many kitties do you have? Do your parents live nearby? I thought you were just a young thing; but you already own a retirement home?

[Triskeliongirl]

That's great your home will be easy to navigate, for me that was the biggest challenge. More warm healing wishes sent your way, and I did get in 16 miles for you yesterday! -e

[invsblwmn]

Pll, favorite cookie is the crunchy one, the solid chocolate and dipped ones were good too, of course.
I just turned 40, but my partner and i bought a condo in march where we plan to retire. My folks live in alaska/they movedthere to retire and to relax.
preparing for tomorrow, nervous, excited. two cats, one dog. lots of love. parents left this am. your support and encouragement. dawn...ride on!

[margo49]

Home...
things will be hard for a few days as the adrenaline (of being in Nasty Hospital) drops and you are in a less-adapted environment. But then it will become just such a "nest" with al your own things around and you will start to feel so much better.

[mimitabby]

Dawn
you must be doing better if your parents left!
thanks for checking in. How's your hand? Your cats/dog will be very happy to see you.

i hope your new condo has computer access too. :D :D

[onimity]

Dawn,

Congrats on getting back home!

Anne

[RoadRaven]

Enjoy being home, D
It will be a mixed bag of emotins, but you will have the ones who love you around you...

[elk]

Hope you get the rest and peace you need to recover!
elk

[LBTC]

Dawn, I hope you are doing well at home - resting well and enjoying your loved ones around you. Isn't it better to be with your familiar critters, people and things?

Sending lots of big blue and purple butterflies,
~T~

[sundial]

I hope your kitties bring you comfort during your down time. My dogs are always so good about being extra gentle when mom isn't feeling well.

I saw this beautiful sunrise that I wanted to share with you.

http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y186/2dogcrew/100_0529.jpg

[bmccasland]

Dawn,
So glad to hear you're home! Even if you don't feel very good, or are recovering from being broken, Dorothy was right - there's no place like home. Now if clicking those ruby slippers would take everything else away...

Hmmm, Nala the Dog really wants her walk. So I won't be riding any miles for you today, but does walking the dog count for something?

Sundial - GREAT sunrise pic!!!

Time to go make a senior dog happy.

[invsblwmn]

Well I made it back home last friday. Legs and rgt arm still useless, but the staples all came out of the arm monday, nothing that some smelling salts couldn't fix. :) legs are to remain pretty unused for 4 more weeks,(can transfer to a wheelchair in about 45 seconds) then the surgeries will start again. Parents left because they had other plans. wish they would have stayed, but we are independent enough to make it alright. Nursing comes in every day for ot,pt, general nursing, and to help me adjust to all of the changes. i just wait for shower days, 3 a week, sponge baths on the other days. i am out of bed for about 30-45 minutes a day now. the cards and support letters from all of you have been a huge help. Elaine T=the note made me cry as you understand and gave me much hope. i wear the necklace as a constant reminder of my goal. this process is long, painful, and hard, but i qm learning lessons previously hidden to me, humility, allowing others the priveledge of giving, and just allowing myself to feel. my world moves slowly enough now that i can actually appreciate the friends, love, and beauty around me. thank you all for being a part of this experience. take care. Dawn

[Pax]

Dawn, that sounds like such a rough road...I'm thinking about you every day and sending positive thoughts.

[silver]

Hang on to that HOPE! :)

elaine t

[mimitabby]

Hey girl, sounds like you are being well cared for. I'm sorry that you have to wait so much for your showers.

[crazycanuck]

(((((( Invwmn))))))

C

[GLC1968]

Dawn - I've been following this thread and my heart totally goes out to you. I've been at a loss for what to say, but know that I have been thinking about you. Your determination is inspirational!

~ Hugs ~

[Bike Goddess]

Hi Dawn- I too have been reading this thread since your accident. My heart goes out to you. For now, just let your body heal- that's what it wants/needs to do. I'm happy to hear that you can get out of bed even if it is just for a short time.

Wheelchair- 45 seconds..I'm totally impresssed!

The pets are such great companions- they know when we are not well. They are so amazing.

Look forward to hearing about your progress as you go along. Glad to hear your staples are out and that you can take showers/sponge baths. When I was home from surgery last winter I remember how nice it felt to have warm water streaming over my body. So therapeutic.

What's the next surgery going to fix/mend? Do you know when it will be?

Keep up the good work. You are an inspiration!

[invsblwmn]

received the hope, love, and extra shot of courage today. also the beautiful bracelet. There was no return addy so I apologize for no thank you card. the beauty, strength, and ongoing support I am recieving is beyond what i have ever felt. you are a truly inspirational collection of women. how could i ever give up biking? i believe the sport has drawn us all, in our unique ways to build a community with more love than any community i have experienced. i am blessed by the opportunity to have brushed in any one of your presences. to think i originally thought i would only find about good deals on cycling clothes here and maybe sell my extra pair of sidis. i have found refuge...thank you all;)

[bacarver]

I crashed in June of 2005 because of a pit bull. I started each day after the wreck by hopping/crawling to the bathroom to brush my teeth and take a shower. I couldn't use my right leg at all for days. (For some reason, my doctor wouldn't give me a pair of crutches.) :confused: The routine took so long. Each task required balancing on my left leg. Falling was out of the question because it would have been terribly painful. I had to concentrate and plan every move and change of position.
I realized how much I had taken this daily activity for granted.
I learned to be patient.
I was exhausted afterward, but I was clean and that helped me with my recovery.
Water and clean clothes are wonderful!
Barb

[invsblwmn]

Still progessing. taking a few wobbly steps with a cane and standing up to 5 minutes at a time. Loving all of the wonderful cards,gifts, and letters from everyone. three of my friends are waiting for me to get better to start biking with me, so i can;t wait. in two weeks i go back to the doc to make plans for the knee surgeries. the pain is managed and so is the restlessness by the pain meds. :) I have seen EVERY on demand movie but couldn;t name half of them. still have not bought a new helmet, and just noticed the two big wear holes in my red sidis from skidding on the pavement, nothing some duct tape can;t fix :). hope you are all well, and thank you again for your support. Dawn

[mimitabby]

Honestly, I was just thinking about you. Can you read (hold up a book) yet?
Have you considered getting netflix? all you have to do is sign up and pick out movies on line. I have the "two movie" option that means I can have out up to 2 at a time. so I watch one and then mail it back. While i am watching the second, a new one may arrive so when I'm done with it, there's a 3rd waiting.


I'm glad you're in touch and your bike friends are visiting and talking to you!

[Pax]

Glad to hear you're slowly mending and looking forward to getting back on your bike!

When you're able to read post up your areas of interest, I bet the ladies here can come up with a catalog of books that would hold your interest.

[sundial]

Dawn, I was just thinking about you. It's so nice to hear of your progress. I hope you feel a little better each day. Someday soon we hope to hear of your first bike ride, but not until you are ready. :) Sending you lots of healing thoughts and well wishes.

[silver]

Oh Dawn, it's so good to hear that you could take a few steps with a cane!!! I know that when I was on the pain meds that my memory and attention span were both crappy. I actually wasn't able to read, but watching TV seemed to distract me fairly well. Do you have the movie Breaking Away? If you don't I'll send it to you.

If you are able to type, I was curious when you said that you needed leg surgeries. What are the injuries and what do they need to do? I know that I read once before what the leg injuries were but I didn't really understand what the surgeries were going to be. I have no knowledge about this stuff, I was just being nosy, really. :rolleyes: :o

[crazycanuck]

hey, good to hear you're slowly healing. let;s heal together shall we :o

take good care of yourself

((((dawn)))))

c

[Jo-n-NY]

Dawn, it sounds like you are doing great.

Is your mailing address the 119 N Lakeview Dr., Harrisburg PA?

thanks
~ JoAnn

[mimitabby]

that's the right address Jo

[Voodoo Sally]

Yay! I love hearing that you're continuing to improve, Dawn. My heart goes out to you. Take just one day, this day, at a time. Each day is a blessing.

[RoadRaven]

received the hope, love, and extra shot of courage today. also the beautiful bracelet. There was no return addy so I apologize for no thank you card.

Hi there gawjus!
I didn't put a return addy on, cause I didn't want you to feel obligated to return anything, not even a note...
I just wanted you to receive and heal, and it sounds like you are receiving so many healing thoughts...
Take care, and keep healing and that is thanks enough
Arohanui
~R~

[invsblwmn]

hello all,
one week and two days till the next appt. potential surgeries include:
1.nothing, 2 knee replacements 3 icl acl repairs 4 miniscus clean up in one or both knees. ortho doc indicated that it will depend on pain levels. pain managed (and slept four hours in a row!) but when i wean myself off the meds, pain is near unbearable in both knees,ankles,and right arm. hoping for no surgery,but realistically expecting at least a clean up arthoscopically in the left knee. doc said to expect another week at rehab post surgery if we do it. i am ready. when this is all done the gallbladder still has to come out, (stone found with ct scan size of golf ball at time of accident) but that is not a big deal, laproscopic and outpatient. PT said to expect a couple of more months before being able to go back to work.
I am progressing well, but sometimes I feel like a big wuss when i read in bicycling or outside magazine about someone who had this terrible head or leg injury and was climbing mt everest in like two days. I want so bad to get back riding and do a charity ride for like best friends animal sanctuary http://www.bestfriends.org/ or just be brave enough to put on my sidis again. The fear is strong, but I have always been the type of woman to make myself do whatever I fear (skydiving, riding motorcycle WAY too fast on the highway, be known, you name it ;) ). Patience is just not one of my personal virtues.
This experience has continued to give me many gifts, though. The forced reality that I do need others, that there are more kind and generous people than selfish mean ones, that I have way more friends than I thought, and that allowing myself to be known lets me know myself and connects me to a love I had never felt before, tearing up:o , the love of someone whom expects nothing in return. The love that comes from true animal kindness/spirit. Whoa, I am truely blessed. Thank you all for your gifts of yourselves. Your simply being is a part of my healing and my gratitude is overflowing. Till next updating...Dawn

[crazycanuck]

Dawn,

I'm amazed at your spirit. What a great woman :) I wish you the best in the next stages of recovery.

You will eventually bike again but give yourself lots of time. Be nice to yourself, you're worth it.

takr care

c

[sundial]

Dawn, I'm glad you are up to posting an update. I really love your new avatar. How cozy and inviting! I feel like laying down next to your pooch and sharing a little nap time.

You shouldn't feel guilty for not being able to do more. You know your body better than anyone and your body and mind will tell you when it's time for a little adventure--whether it's putting on the Sidis for the first time or taking a few more steps with the cane. You are a spirited, strong, intelligent woman who took matters into her own hands when you were hit before--when you straightened your wheel and headed in to work. Now that's gutsy!

I recently had an endo which resulted in an injury. When I think about it, I feel bad, almost embarrased, because I know how badly you were hurt. I think of you and how you struggle to gain a little more independance each day and you are an encouragement to me. :)

Since you are a pooch and kitty lover, I thought I'd share a picture of my 2 hooligans. This is Kali, the german shepherd, and Jodi Bell, the australian shepherd, playing in the snow.

http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y186/2dogcrew/Kali_snow04.jpg

You're close in my thoughts and prayers.
Cathy

[Tuckervill]

(Sundial, that picture is so cute!)

Dawn, I hope it doesn't come to knee replacements! But if it does, make sure they use the latest technology--you're so young and you don't want to limit your choices now in case it has to be done again. (My husband is facing hip and maybe knee replacements and there have been recent advancements that will help him out.)

You are amazing. Keep going!

Karen

[LBTC]

Dawn, truly you are the inspiring one! Your spirit is so huge and light, like an amazing butterfly! I'll send some extra butterflies to the docs to make the very best decision about your surgeries. We want the right answer the first time!

I understand your impatience and where it comes from. Learning patience is just like learning how to control your cadence or climb a hill faster. It takes practice, time and effort, and I think you're so much closer than you think!

Big gentle hugs and lots of healing butterflies,
~T~

[snowtulip]

Dawn, you are so exceptionally amazing! Hang in there and keep sharing to free up your mind and let the frustrations out.

[invsblwmn]

sundial,
Love the photo, jodi is so typical for the breed. they are so smart. you can just read her mind. "gonna peek under the stupid kali's belly to see where mom is, then as soon as she's looking at the digital image after she gets the shot, i'm gonna bolt for the dang ball just sitting there laughing at me next to her." love the scarves too, what a mom.

oh and btw no way do i want anyone to compare their accidents, injuries, pain, to mine. pain is so relevant to experience. if you have had your worst injury, it is YOUR worst injury. your experience is real. we all can take different levels. some people might have gotten up after they were hit, i just laid there hoping i would pass out :o . take care of you, only u know what u are experiencing.
the new avatar is my brodie whom is vigilantly by my side every second. she's the best.
t, u r so right about patience, i am learning and morphing into something new (hopefully improved;) )
to everyone else, i feel your strength, thank you, my gratitude is beyond words. d

[invsblwmn]

Doc says 4 more weeks of mostly bed rest. ugh. The arm still has two unfused breaks. The legs have multiple tears still that need to build. I can deal with that, though.

Vet said today my baby, Brodie(the one in the avatar), at most has 3 months to live, breast cancer now in lungs. That makes me bawl. Starting to wonder how much even I can take. If I make it though this, something spectacular is going to happen with my life. Only with the support of my friends, new TE friends, and someone up above, will that all happen. sigh Dawn

[Zen]

How many dogs do you have now? more than one? I hope so because when you have to put that dog down it will be absolutely debilitating. At least the other dog could be there for you. I had no others and there were days when I felt there was no reason to get up in the morning. It passed but it was a bad storm. I am so sorry you have that ahead on top of everything else.
But it will get better...

[invsblwmn]

Brodie's my only dog. I cannot imagine getting another for a very long while. Thank you for your support. Sometimes life sucks.

[lph]

Oh, what a terrible thing to have to deal with on top of your injuries :(

I know how you feel about not getting another one. We lost our cat this summer and haven't wanted to get another kitten yet even though we miss having one around the house.

But seen from out here it doesn't look like a bad idea to get another pup now while Brodie is still alive. Maybe she'd enjoy it, and it wouldn't feel as if you were replacing her. I really don't know, but maybe you want to give it some thought?

Lots of luck still on your healing!

[Zen]

I got my next dog not long after but it was accidental.
I stopped by a pet adopption event outside of a pet store and ended up taking a dog home as a foster. She had to go give birth and the next foster dog had the endearing habit of burrowing under the covers with me, She's mine now, plus I've had two more fosters since then.
life happens when you don't expect it.

[RoadRaven]

If Brodie likes other dogs, a pup might be a great idea... some distraction for her from whatever discomfort she is in, and for you from your own sorrow...
A pup will never replace her, but a pup could help ease you both through this next stage...

Big hugs from DownUnder, Dawn

[caribou]

Big cyber hugs.

[LBTC]

Oh, Dawn! Your poor Brodie! Big hugs and healing butterflies to both of you.

If you are able and mobile enough I second the idea of adopting another pup or young dog. We did it when our Yogi dog was diagnosed with osteosarcoma. I can PM or email you more info on what we went through with Yogi. Suffice it to say we did all treatments we could, changed diet, food and supplements, and got him a little buddy. That cancer has a 4 month median survival rate, and Yogi lived a wonderful and happy 17 months. (other than the days around the chemo treatments when he didn't feel so hot). His buddy grew up to be an amazing dog, too.

If you think you can take a dog or puppy in, it may help Brodie's time be more fun, allow Brodie to teach a younger dog to be a great dog like Brodie is, and provide you with the companionship you, like all of us, need.

Think on it, Dawn. Let the butterflies guide you.

Hugs,
~T~

[mimitabby]

Goodmorning Dawn
I am so sorry to hear about your dog. Even though everyone else is telling you to get a new puppy right now, I think that would be rather difficult with you in enforced bed rest to care for a needy puppy. THere's lots of time for that.

I hope you can do exercises in bed to keep the rest of your body happy. (no, i really can't imagine)

I check for posts from you every day. One day at a time, enjoy your dog now while she's there. You have so much more time to be with her. If you were working and cycling, you wouldn't have that much time
Take care
Mimi

[Duck on Wheels]

Big hugs, (((Dawn))). And feel free to share them with Brodie.

[Pax]

Oh Dawn, I'm just so sorry to hear about your beloved pup. :(

[DebG]

Dawn, I was getting ready to send you another card, and saw your post about Brodie, so decided I'd jot you a quick note. I am so sorry.

I agree with MimiTabby.

You have many friends here who are more than willing to listen and offer a shoulder to lean on.

deb

[Pedal Wench]

I'm so sorry that everything seems to be piling up on you right now. Take time to make sure you're still taking care of your health -- with that on track, everything else will be easier.

[sundial]

Brodie's my only dog. I cannot imagine getting another for a very long while. Thank you for your support. Sometimes life sucks.

Oh Dawn!! I'm emptying out the Kleenex box. I'm so very sorry. I wish so much I could be there during this terrible time. Big Luke would love to lay at your feet and kiss away your tears. I don't know what I'd do without my girls and guy. They bring so much to my life. Whenever I'm down, they are always, always there for me.

You know, Brodie will never leave you either. She'll be with you long after the dark of winter has come. She'll send another one into your life when you need it most. They always do. They always know.

[sbctwin]

Yes, sometimes life sucks. I am so sorry for all you are having to endure. Brodie has been your friend and confidant (sp?) and has been there for you while you recoup. It just doesn't seem fair. Please give Brodie a hug from me. I hope Brodie gives you lots of kisses. Take lots of picture of Brodie....
{{{{{{Dawn and Brodie}}}}}

[helena]

Reading these posts - you totally inspire me with your attitude

I'm so sorry about your doggie

[Zen]

IW- I may have missed it somewhere but whatever happened to the 80 year old driver?
Was he charged (I hope)?
Did he have his license revoked (I hope)?

[Blueberry]

Zen-

I think one of the earlier posts mentioned that he got a ticket (!) for running a red light. Don't know whether it stuck. Shouldn't be driving, though.

invsblwmn -

Hugs to you and your pup! I can't even imagine having that on top of what you're already dealing with. I'm so sorry.

CA

[mtbdarby]

Dawn - hugs and kisses from Zeus and I. You certainly have been dealt a lot lately girl. Hang in there and take care of yourself while you're enjoying your time with Brodie.

We're here for you if/when you need us. Post away and let those feelings out. That's when the healing starts.

[velogirl]

Dawn, even though it might seem as though everything is going wrong right now, you will find the strength to get through this. Once we hit rock bottom, there's nowhere to go but up.

Don't be afraid to lean on your family and friends.

Cry when you feel the urge.

Laugh hysterically if that feels right.

Or just keep it all inside until the right moment.

But don't give up.

Someday you will look back at all of this and wonder how you did it. But you will look back.

Hugs,

Lorri

[crazycanuck]

Hey Dawn,

I;m sorry :(

I just want to let you know i'm still thinking of you & am sharing my healing vibes :) whilst we're both recovering :)
Your dog will always love you & will tell all his doggie friends about his cool owner.

(((dawn )))

c

[emily_in_nc]

Such sad news, Dawn. My heart goes out to you. We lost our beloved Boston Terrier last December, and it is such a hard thing to go through! I still miss her terribly.

Wishing you peace in all this.

Emily

[invsblwmn]

the driver got a ticket, which stuck and police reported to penn dot for him to be retested per the officer. my attorney has advised me to not contact him, i would only want to say/do bad things anyway, so i have no idea what is happening with him and his driving. the legal process wont even begin until the extent of my injuries are evaluated. for now we wait.
denial, pictures of brodie. and her eating to her heart's content (her single favorite pleasure) have filled our day. She had such a rough first five years and these last 8 have been a gift to us both. when my "sister" rescued her in 1999, she has just weaned her fifth litter of 10, was in puppy mill, had never been off of a concrete floor, was very underweight, had gunshot throughout her chest, fresh cuts and old scars on her nose, was missing most of her teeth, and was terrified of everything. she fell asleep sitting up in the car on the 3 hour drive. I met her the next day and we could not be apart. she curled up in my lap (all 55 lbs). :) she ate 20 lbs of dog food in one day when she got into a 40 lb bag i didn;t have high enough. She went to work with me everyday for 3 years when i was a therapist and bloomed into a beautiful flower. When people meet her they say they have never met such a sweet dog. her size, now 80 lbs and healthy, is overwhelming but the wrinkled forehead and tilted head melt even the most fearful and hardest of hearts. my partner doesn't like dogs and even spent 30 minutes laying with her last night on the floor bawling.
a puppy or another dog now is out of the question. that would only be for me not her. she gets all of the attention now and likes it. tonight curled up in the blanky...

[KnottedYet]

((((((Dawn)))))) (((((((Brodie))))))

[lph]

aaaaawwwww, what a beautiful sunny picture of Brodie... and it sounds like you've given her a long and happy life in the sun the whole way :) You couldn't have done better for her!

[Hub]

I can't think of anything wise or clever to say, but bless your heart, honey.
GIve Brodie a rub behind the ears for me.

[sundial]

They have so much to teach us in the few years we share with them. :)

[crazycanuck]

Dawn...how are you feeling?? Haven't heard from you in a bit.

I'm sending good thoughts your way.

What was the verdict on treating your ACL injuries?? Are you able to walk a smidgen bit longer??

Keep us updated k..

C

[silver]

Dawn, I haven't been over to this thread for a bit myself and just saw what you are going through with your dear Brodie. I'm sooo sorry. I wish I could hug you both! It that a picture of you with Brodie? If it is, you look wonderful!!!!! So radiant and alive!

I'm sorry that you have more bedrest. What are you doing with your time? Hugs and healing thoughts to you!

[invsblwmn]

doc says he is not considering surgery on the knees until the arm can better support me. if they "repair" the knees, the arm has to be able to bear weight. now, no way. i am able to stand for 15-20 minutes, walking, more like a 90 year old shuffling, but i get around. :) brodie is still acting like herself, eating everything in sight, sleeping, and cuddling. i pass the time xmas shopping (buy 2 get 3rd free wii games at toysrus, sierra trading 20% off with free shipping http://email.sierratradingpost.com/dm?id=7ED4AA3FF08A48ECC3CBB340EB524FBB, and getting credit cards with $100-$200 in gift cards for signing up-the last is one of my favorite pasttimes.) i watch tv and my cooper sleep as well. so time passes...

[bmccasland]

Dawn - oooh oooh your kitty looks just like my Erin (well before she got sick). Can I pet her, Pleeease?

Hope you and Brodie are having more good days than bad days.

[mimitabby]

hi Dawn, I loved the story about your dog, it is truly amazing, i'm glad you found each other. Your kitty looks pretty content too.
Keep healing, I'm glad you are able to get around a bit!

[margo49]

What a pretty kitty!

[lph]

Heyup Dawn, how are you doing? Hope you're hanging in there ok and that 2008 wil bring some better times...

[Trek420]

Me too! Here's to '08 being a year of recovery for you.

[three]

Invsblwmn, I'm new here and just saw this thread for the first time. I read all of it and see that no recent update has happened. I am hoping that is due to your healing and the holidays - and not anything worrisome.

My thoughts are with you. And my heart breaks with those photos and details about Brodie. She looks like such a beautiful sweetheart. I think dogs are amazingly wonderful teachers - they show us each day what unconditional love and acceptance looks like...how to live in the moment and so forth. I am incredibly thankful that Brodie came into you and your partner's lives - each day was a blessing, no doubt.

When I was little, my mom was riding home and was hit by a motorcyclist. It was a severe hit and run (multiple internal injuries in addition to broken bones, etc). Anyway...

She healed physically - in time. But, she never rode a bike again - and she is noticeably concerned about my safety when I tell her about my bike ventures. Now, everyone gets impacted in different ways and I acknowledge that it's fully possible your accident will have no psychological impact on you (like it did her). But, I hope that if you detect the slightest mental trauma related to being hit - that you attend to it. I only express this concern out of watching what happened to my mom.

I have you in my thoughts and prayers...

I pray for your physical pain to lessen each day, for your body to utilize the extent of its amazing abilities and heal soon.

I pray you experience no mental trauma from the accident and that as soon as you're able, the bike can be part of your healing process - that each mile on it will help you to increase your distance from all the pain you're dealing with these days.

I pray for you to have a wealth of amazing moments with Brodie - simple moments of grace that will stick in your memory and carry you through future times when you're missing her. You have been such a gift to her - you saved her life.

I send you many well-wishes, and my Solomon sends a wiggly dog tail your way. I hope you're well.

[nancy sv]

I'm another one who just came upon this thread - hoping you are all right. I can't even begin to fathom what you are going through.

Life is scary in that way. One moment everything is going peachy and the next we are lying on the ground all broken up. Here in Boise a few months ago a woman was stopped on her bike in the bike lane waiting for a red light when someone in a Hummer came up behind her and killed her. No matter how safely we are riding, there will always be those moments.

And yet - those things can happen at home too. One day a bunch of ambulances went screaming past our house and stopped a few houses down the road. A little while later they left quietly. I found out the next day that their 6-year-old boy slipped in the bathtub, hit his head, and died.

I guess the moral of the story is that we need to get out and live life - and that's exactly what you did and are doing. Good for you! I truly hope that you can get back on your bike at some point, but if not - then simply live life to the fullest in some other manner.

I pray that this year will be a good one for you and that you get up and moving quickly!!

Nancy

[mimitabby]

If you want to write to her, PM me and I'll send you her snail mail address.

[sundial]

Dawn, are you up and around more? I think of you often and hope you are doing better each day.

[invsblwmn]

Hello TE Sisters!

After a bit of a hiatus, I came back to visit and found such kind words from you all. It has continued to be a journey, and I cannot say it has be easy. On a good note, Brodie is still with me and not in any apparent pain. This time has been a gift to me in that. She remains a gentle healing spirit.
I am walking with only a limp, cane free, and only get cramping at night in my legs and lower back. My forearm bones are close to fusing but no pushups yet. :) I am hoping to return to work very soon.
The test has continued, though, as well.
A close friend of mine lost her battle with cancer 12-30-07. When we buried her, all 8 pallbearers were her female friends. Her funeral was one of the most emotional experiences I have had. She touched so many people's lives.
My partner of 3 years and I ended our relationship. We are planning the sale of our home, and I am deciding whether to stay in this area or move out west.
This has been a hard time, but I am learning to live in my own skin. It is amazing how much you learn about yourself in a hospital bed and lazy boy for a few months. I generally have about 1-2 hours a day with people and then the rest of the time alone. I was a person who could tolerate about 1-2 hours alone per day. My mind no longer races to "next." "Now" is enough. Sadness, pain, happiness, fear, security, or relief are all acceptable.
This gathering of women in TE has been more support than I could have ever dreamed. I have a humongous collection of cards from all of you and the care packages added a good 20 lbs on me. Who would have thought that a little thread I found on a google search for size 41.5 sidi dominators would be a major factor in my recovery from such a trauma? Thank you all for your ongoing energies, prayers, and love. I hope some day I can return even a portion of what you have given. Till next update... Dawn :)

[LBTC]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Dawn}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Thank you for the update! Despite the challenges you face, you sound so peaceful and accepting. I'm glad I'm still sending butterflies!! And I"m so happy you have Brodie at your side.

Follow your heart, you'll know what the next right move for you is. In the meantime, post, PM, email, stay in touch and let us continue to give you share the same support we all benefit from.

Big hugs and uplifting butterflies,
~T~

[KnottedYet]

Hey, Dawn! I've been thinking about you. ((((Dawn))))

[Trek420]

Dawn, good to hear that forward progress is being made. You are in our thoughts. (((( Dawn ))))

[mimitabby]

Oh Dawn you sound like you are doing REALLY WELL!

I am so glad. Thanks for keeping in touch, and I am sorry about the loss of your friend. You sound like you've learned more about yourself this last year than most people ever learn.
M

[crazycanuck]

Dawn!!! ((((Dawn)))

Great to hear you're healing well :) I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friend & moving on from your other half.

Take care & remember to be good to yourself :).

You're a strong woman

C

[RoadRaven]

Just gonna add my voice to those shouting your name!

DAWN!!!
So good to read your words

Keep moving forward in grace
Arohanui

[sbctwin]

{{{{Dawn&Brodie}}}} Thank you for taking the time to update your TE friends. Your recovery and strength to take each step have been encouraging. I am sorry that so much has happened to you recently. It seems we seldom are given one trial in our life at a time, but get challenged with many. One day at a time is all we can ever hope to overcome.

[sundial]

Dawn, it was so nice to hear from you. :) I believe Brodie will not leave your side until her work is done. I have always felt angels come in many forms. May you continue to feel strengthened with the promise of a new day.

[froglegs]

What a crazy few months it has been for you. Your experiences show that you never know what life has in store, and you have to live in each moment and try not to obssess over the future. That is something I need to work on. I have been silent so far on this thread but I have been lurking on it for months. I'm glad to hear you are recovering well, and I wish you good luck and continued strength.

[short cut sally]

Thanks for the update..you sure have had a bit of misfortune in your life it seems. I am glad that you are improving daily and that you are, in a good sense, in good spirits still. HOpe things work out for the best and good luck with all that you are going to endure. Best wishes.

[bmccasland]

(((((Dawn)))))

Good to hear from you! Being happy in your own skin is something some folks can never do, glad you made it.

Please PM me with your snail mail addy (I lost it :( )... I have sumting for ewe. Be afraid, be berry berry afraid. But it won't bite and doesn't need feeding.

[rocknrollgirl]

Well,
I just joined the thread and I am so glad that you are doing well. You have put my whining about my injuries in perspective and I will shut up now and just get better.

I was seriously ill afew years ago and spent about 4 months alone healing. My husband was at work from 6 am to about 8 pm every day. I learned a great deal about myself by being home alone in my own skin. I was never the same after. All cahnges for the better.

I hope the rest of your journey is not painful, and that you heal well. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

need any good books?

[lph]

Good to hear from you, invsblwmn. You really got it all, didn't you. It sounds rough. I have the feeling that some time, maybe 5 years down the road, you'll be looking back and seeing that a whole lot of things changed right about now, and that the final result was better, in the end. Change hurts though, sometimes it hurts like crazy. Hang in there.

[maillotpois]

I just saw this thread as well - you have come so far, Dawn. I am so impressed with your recovery to date!

Your dog and cat are beautiful. Brodie's story is amazing - she's been a lucky girl to have you. Glad she's still doing well.

Take care of yourself.

[three]

Yay Dawn! Thanks for the update and letting us know how you are. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, but comforted by the show of love that you witnessed at the funeral. I'm sure that was healing for everyone at the service.

With everything that is going on in your life, it sounds like you're going through a major time of transition. At first glance, it could be easy to see this as a challenging time and perhaps even one of loss. But, that's not how I see it. Rather, I am excited for you.

The greatest transitions are born from the most challenging of times. They are hidden blessings and it is up to us to pull the immense beauty that lies within these times. What a fantastic opportunity to get to know yourself, to trust your body and be amazed at its healing and determination. And what a gift to learn how to live in the moment, to be forced to let go of the anxious state you once lived in - being in the 'now' is always enough. You'd be amazed at how many people wish (on a regular basis) that they could start new - but they're trapped by responsibilities, fears, anxieties. Here you are, with an incredible opportunity to start new - to move, or stay...to get a new job...to heal and shape your body from scratch. It's almost like a spiritual re-birth and to me, that's good stuff.

Change is always a gift. It is not always pleasant and fun, but it is always a gift. I hope you continue on this path of healing and adventure - go seek what you want most and create your own destiny. Sounds like the universe had a big message to send you - with the accident and forced lazy-boy-bonding, and also with the end of your relationship. Trust your inner voice, it always knows the answer.

May all the love and support that has surrounded your healing continue to embrace your spirit as you start anew. Only good things await you.

[invsblwmn]

Three,
You are so right. I was a therapist for 14 years. Always told people that "We don't change until we have to change." Still sticking to that philosophy. It is like the birth of transformation now. I have so much still to learn from all this. For now, it is time to listen, slow down, and be open. Thank you all for your encouragement.

[invsblwmn]

8 Months and 19 days later, I GOT TO RIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!! What else needs to be said? :D

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I think that is pretty amazing, considering how badly you were injured.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

[mimitabby]

YAY!!! I am so happy to hear this!!

[Trek420]

Whoopeeeeee! :D

[ehirsch83]

yay!!
So excited for you and proud! You are one tough cookie and are definitaly someone to look up to.

[KnottedYet]

Hot diggity dog!!!

[redrhodie]

Tell us more!!!! How did it feel?

So glad to hear you're back on wheels! Good for you! You made me day!

[Blueberry]

Yay!!! I'm so excited for you!!! Congratulations!!! How's the new trike?

CA

[lph]

Fantastic news invsblwmn :) :) :)

We wanna see you on your trike!

[OakLeaf]

Hooray! That's wonderful!

[NbyNW]

It's great to hear that you're well enough to be riding again.

I bet that first ride felt awesome!

[Wahine]

Yipppppppppeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!

[Jen-Jen]

That's GREAT!!!!

I am very happy to hear that you are back to riding. Awesome!:D:D:D

[jesvetmed]

FANTASTIC.... you must feel SO good. What an accomplishment so far!

[Trekhawk]

Wonderful news!!:)

[emily_in_nc]

What wonderful news!

I'll never forget my first ride after fracturing my pelvis in a cycling accident and being laid up for several months. I was back on the bike three months later, very wobbly, slow, and nervous, but I did it. I was so damn proud, and you should be too. Congratulations! May you have many more safe and wonderful rides!

Emily

[Red Rock]

I am so happy for you to be back on the bike!! That is major achievment in itself. I hope that you enjoyed your return to freedom and the wind blowing through your hair!

May you continue to have succesful and fun trips.

[smilingcat]

Wonderful news!!! and welcome back!!!

smilingcat

[crazycanuck]

WAHOOOOOOOOEYYYYY!!!!!!! :D :) :cool:

Isn't it wonderful to be back out dere!!! YYYYYahooooooowwweeeyeyey

[sgtiger]

invsblwmn, welcome back to the road.:cool::D Your determination, bravery, strength, and patience is admirable.

[invsblwmn]

Well Ladies,
It was a year last Friday since the accident. I get to ride everyday now, usually only about 40 minutes but I get to sweat and to get a breeze going at 35MPH. Who would have thought so much could change in one little year? I will never forget the support from this group. Understand that every little "butterfly, hug, hang in there" gave me the push to do what I needed to do. We are resiliant little creatures, eh?

Still working on the injuries, little stuff though, like an epidural and a tens unit with still a bunch of meds. Love the new house. Still single and actually ok with it. Friends are everywhere. Family and I feel closer than ever. The cats are living large. The Catrike is my favorite car and I am ALIVE!!!! Not just breathing, but really alive! Thank you for all of your support in the last year. I am so grateful for you guys! Dawn

[Tuckervill]

You are triumphant! Way to go!

Karen

[Blueberry]

Yay Dawn!!! You are an inspiration to us all!! And you are right - we are remarkably resilient....especially you:)

CA

[Grog]

This is a fantastic message to read. Thanks and keep it going!

[sbctwin]

You provide such a positive message to all of us. Best wishes for your continued recovery...

[Mr. Bloom]

Welcome back to the game! :cool:You're awesome!:D

[LBTC]

Dawn, thank you for such a wonderful update! As others have said, you are an inspiration! :) So if any of these butterflies I keep sending are more than you need, just pass them along. They get more powerful that way! ;)

Hugs and butterflies,
~T~

ps - are you getting the pictures? your email seems to be bouncing them back to me....

[Biciclista]

Dawn, you are truly an inspiration to all of us; but especially me. :p

[jesvetmed]

Dawn.. you sound so wonderfully positive. That is an inspiration to us all. Keep up the great attitude, and "hang in there". Congrats on getting the 40 minutes a day in. Many don't, and cannot even imagine the appreciation of being able to do so. You are amazing!

[Duck on Wheels]

I saw the "Invisiblwmn in hospital!" header on the screen and thought, "Oh no! Not again! Poor Dawn!" What a relief when I realized it was a follow-up report about great progress :cool: :D In fact, you're getting in more time-in-the-saddle than I am :o Way to go, Dawn!! Keep on riding ahead; the rest of us will just have to try to keep up with you.

[bmccasland]

I saw the "Invisiblwmn in hospital!" header on the screen and thought, "Oh no! Not again! Poor Dawn!"

I thought the same thing, then thought, "no wait, it might be an update". Really really glad it's an update and not a set-back.

I've been thinking about you, and am so happy to hear you're doing pretty good, all things considered. Welcome back to the first year of your new life. Now if I could get your saddle time too.

[SouthernBelle]

Great news!

[Aggie_Ama]

I cannot believe it has been a year. Glad you have mostly mended and found a new love (the Trike). :)

[coyote]

Thanks for the update. Its hard to believe it has been a year. I love the Catrikes as well. I wish I could just break out the bucks for one.

Keep on riding :D

[Smilie]

You are a very strong person, a great inspiration to us all. I am so glad you are able to ride again! Great recovery!

[Geonz]

I'm so glad you've updated. Your invisible fan club cheers!!!

[invsblwmn]

Almost three years now. Upgrading to the Lightning r-84, so sweet. Surgery tomorrow, a little aneurysm issue, but short hospital stay expected, one day ICU, two days on the regular floor, then home and on the bike in a week. WHOO HOO!!!! The new bike, as seen in the profile, arrives next Monday, so I can hardly wait!!! This forum has been the best. Your support has carried me through. Over 1,200 miles in the last two months on the recumbent. Love it! Talk with you all soon. :cool:

[lph]

Great to hear from you :) Thanks for keeping us updated! It sounds like things really are going all the right way now.

eta: sorry, rushed through your post - see you're waiting on surgery now. But you'll be out there enjoying a new bike in no time!

[Melissa71]

I hope your surgery goes as smoothly as possible, so you can get on that gorgeous new bike! I went back and read about your accident, you're amazing and an inspiration! Get well soon!

[crazycanuck]

Inv..your doggieeeesss are sooo cute!!! Your bike is dang cool and will be ridden by an awesome chicka :D

Have tons o fun on de new steed!

[pll]

Best wishes, invsblwmn!

[OakLeaf]

Hope the surgery goes well. Enjoy the new bike!

[bmccasland]

Best wishes for a really speedy recovery, you have important things to do, like ride your new bike! ;)

[jessmarimba]

Good luck!! Enjoy the new bike! :)

[PscyclePath]

Best wishes... but please take it easy for a bit so that you don't bust any gaskets, espcially while the stitches are still new ;-)

[redrhodie]

You're awesome! Good planning on having the bike arrive right when you get home.

Ahhh, new bike smell. There's nothing better!